I'm not a mean parent

[Penn]

Thank God mine are past that age - sort of. Last night Alex patted Em on the butt, so Em turned around and punched Alex in the stomach and the fight was on.


And they're 14 and 12!!!

When the two older ones were little I couldn't take them anywhere because they were always trying to kill each other.

My sister and I were like that when we were growing up! She is 3 years older than I, and I guess there was always that sibling rivalry going on, and she was a girl too!

Yucky creatures when they are young; guys know what I mean!

My mother would take us with her shopping, and we knew how much we could get away with, before she snapped; we still tell stories about the time when.............!

 

[Dymphna]

Just being on TV is good motivation for most of my guests.

When I was getting my degree in mass communication (my specialty was TV) There was a help wanted ad of sorts that went out to the department. Some guy was doing the rounds of talk shows, I think they'd done Oprah, and they may have been getting ready to do the Springer show, when his "girlfriend" who was cheating on him with his best friend, had some other obligation and they were looking for a replacement.

 

[ClairJhean]

I hope i can share my story here...
I am a mom of a 10 year old girl and a 4 year old boy.. Lets just say.. My throat is hoarse from yelling and i am so tired of the every day constant battles and rivalry.. My nerves are shot! lol
Well I found a way at home to take care of the problem.. I got out my video camera.. I started taping them acting up and being very mouthy to me and ignoring me when i ask them to do something...
My husband didnt believe how they were til he saw the tape.. WITH THEM SITTING THERE AS WELL.. all it took was one look from him and they were in their rooms doors shut and cleaning up their rooms. lol
I still tape them cause it still goes on.. THis time.. It was my daughter.. she was so rude and disrespectful when my mom was here.. I taped it.. called a friend who happens to know a police officer ( he was off duty but came over anyways), He came over i met him outside, we talked ..Told him my daughter locked her bedroom door and had the key inside with her in her room.. He finally talked her out.. She sat down at the table with my mom and me.. my son too.. And he watched the tape.. and lectured BOTH of them...
THey are not as bad.. but they have their days.. so I pick up the phone.. start to dial.. and they separate and go to their rooms or other rooms...
I also found that if i bring the cam with me when i have to take them too.. THey dont act up ..

Hope that can help others...

 

[CMC122]

I hope i can share my story here...
I am a mom of a 10 year old girl and a 4 year old boy.. Lets just say.. My throat is hoarse from yelling and i am so tired of the every day constant battles and rivalry.. My nerves are shot! lol
Well I found a way at home to take care of the problem.. I got out my video camera.. I started taping them acting up and being very mouthy to me and ignoring me when i ask them to do something...
My husband didnt believe how they were til he saw the tape.. WITH THEM SITTING THERE AS WELL.. all it took was one look from him and they were in their rooms doors shut and cleaning up their rooms. lol
I still tape them cause it still goes on.. THis time.. It was my daughter.. she was so rude and disrespectful when my mom was here.. I taped it.. called a friend who happens to know a police officer ( he was off duty but came over anyways), He came over i met him outside, we talked ..Told him my daughter locked her bedroom door and had the key inside with her in her room.. He finally talked her out.. She sat down at the table with my mom and me.. my son too.. And he watched the tape.. and lectured BOTH of them...
THey are not as bad.. but they have their days.. so I pick up the phone.. start to dial.. and they separate and go to their rooms or other rooms...
I also found that if i bring the cam with me when i have to take them too.. THey dont act up ..

Hope that can help others...

Why don't they listen to YOU

 

[Kain99]

HA! I broke the video camera out once! The boys were tiny, 3 and 5. Ryan had just discovered how cool it was to "punch Jared." On my Ex's advice I broke out the camera and gave the tape to Daddy that weekend.

Miraculously, it took Ryan another 5 years to start punching G again!

 

[huntr1]

Why don't they listen to YOU

Sounds like those children suffer from "Spare the Rod" syndrom. If you properly "motivate" your child, i.e. teach them that YOU are the PARENT, not their FRIEND, and that there are serious repercusions for disobeying you, they listen much better. I know that when I was growing up, if I had disrespected my mother, I would not have had to wait for my dad to get home, my mother would have slapped me silly on the spot, and then after dad got home, he woulda tanned my hide or performed some other sort of punishment. Therefore, I was respectful of my parents, and when they told me to do something, I generally did it. I have never raised my hand to 2 out of my 3 kids, and only 1 time to my oldest (1 light smack on the tush when he kept doing something I told him not to do), yet they listen to me and do what I say. All it takes is being firm and telling them what the consequences will be if they do not comply with my orders, and then following thru with what you said. It does no good to threaten punishment if you do not deliver on it.

 

[KCM]

I did forget milk and ketchup.

I triggered the car alarm just to annoy them. They were PISSED when they got out of the car.

I've had them at the store tons of times and they are always really good, just today, they were out to annoy each other to the death.

OMG! That is way too funny!

 

[KCM]

I know that when I was growing up, if I had disrespected my mother, I would not have had to wait for my dad to get home, my mother would have slapped me silly on the spot, and then after dad got home, he woulda tanned my hide or performed some other sort of punishment.

Exactly. When I was growing up it was just my mom - my dad had died when I was a baby. She did not hesitate to let me know that it was wrong to disrespect her in anyway, shape or form. I instilled that in both of my kids. I don't slap them silly but I taught them respect of mommy at an early age. Now granted my kids are not perfect, but I can say this, they never disrespect me especially in front of other people.

 

[DoWhat]

When I was getting my degree in mass communication (my specialty was TV)

Well aren't you SPECIAL.

 

[crabcake]

Well aren't you SPECIAL.

good timing ... see my siggy

 

[Dymphna]

Well aren't you SPECIAL.

why yes, yes I am