Inlaws

[SamSpade]

My parents are honestly, just crazy about my wife. I joke that I think they like her *more* than me. I am sure part of it is, they weren't too sure I was *ever* going to be married, so they're thrilled. Also, since I'm the last of the siblings to get married, she's the latest addition, and until kids come, will be the last one.

But what they HAVE said is, she's the motivator in making sure I visit them and spend time with them. So as far as they're concerned, she's a saint.

 

[FirstClass]

My MIL is a complete nutcase. My MIL is very controlling and if she doesn't get her way then she will get mad and hang up. My FIL refers to me as a "Farmers Daughter." When my father wasn't even a farmer...he's retired from the Navy. WTF? My FIL is an alkie. He's not even a fun one, he's a rude and obnoxious one. My MIL has no common sense.

My husband and I are married now, but I actually got pregnant before we got married. We were engaged and had a wedding date before I found out. But my MIL wouldn't even tell anyone that I was pregnant because it embarassed her and she didn't want to upset my husbands grandparents. So no one in his family knew I was pregnant up until a month or two ago. I thought they were nice because they gave us a bit of money for a wedding gift, but actually wouldn't give it to us until they saw our marriage certificate.

I can't stand them...I told hubby today that she can't stay with us even if it's for a week when the baby comes because I will go postal.

oh nooo.... I couldn't have that my inlaws were actually going to give us some of there land so we could build our house right next door, so you know she could always be there to help us out when we needed her and come over and cook dinner for us and take care of my kid, I said oh hell know I can take care of my own family thank you very much and we bought a house else wear. It really broke her heart but she has got to learn to let go her boy is all grown up and has a new woman in his life.

 

[CMC122]

We should start a support group for those of us with crazy inlaws or as I like to put it outlaws

 

[citysherry]

...but she has got to learn to let go her boy is all grown up and has a new woman in his life.

My MIL has made the following statements to me:

Right after we got engaged -
"You're not going to take him from us are you because the three of us are so close."
BTW, he's the youngest of their 5 children.

After we'ed been married for a while -
"My son loves you more than you love him"
I don't know WTF she meant by this one!

Just this past summer she said -
"If anything ever happened to Dad (my FIL) I would have to live with you because my own daughters would drive me crazy"

I can't figure this woman out.

 

[Suz]

My MIL is a complete nutcase. My MIL is very controlling and if she doesn't get her way then she will get mad I can't stand them...I told hubby today that she can't stay with us even if it's for a week when the baby comes because I will go postal.

meme-Don't let her push you around! Is this your first child?

My MIL is a absolute bia!ch! When my hubby told his parent's we were getting married-The first ? asked was "Is she pregnant?" Then for 10 years all we heard were "are you pregnant yet?" We got along real well up until 15 years ago when we were the beach house and BIL had a girlfriend with him (he and his wife were separated at the time-and I just did not care for this girl but was cordial). My twins were young then 2 or 3 and I spent a lot of time with them playing etc, but when they were occupied I would read a book. One day she came at me and said I was not being sociable enough. She wouldn't leave me alone and went so far as to keep ragging on me as I went into my bedroom to get away from her- SHE FOLLOWED ME IN. Well ever since then our relationship, has never been the same. If hubby wants to go visit her (and help out with chores around the house since Dad is gone now) I let him and the boys go and use work as a excuse that I can't go. Thank god she lives in SC and not here in the county! She's been to see us 2x in the last 3 years and I am soooo glad to see her go when she does. But this is my home and my rules etc. It took a long time for me to stand up to her but I do now. She is a absolute control freak.

anyway-my advise to you is to tell her to stay @ BIL and she can come visit. WHEN it's convenient for you and baby. After all, assuming you'll be a new mom, and if your going to nurse, well you don't need the added stress. Tell her to deal with it. Get your back bone in place now or years from now you will regret it, like I do.

 

[meme]

meme-Don't let her push you around! Is this your first child?

My MIL is a absolute bia!ch! When my hubby told his parent's we were getting married-The first ? asked was "Is she pregnant?" Then for 10 years all we heard were "are you pregnant yet?" We got along real well up until 15 years ago when we were the beach house and BIL had a girlfriend with him (he and his wife were separated at the time-and I just did not care for this girl but was cordial). My twins were young then 2 or 3 and I spent a lot of time with them playing etc, but when they were occupied I would read a book. One day she came at me and said I was not being sociable enough. She wouldn't leave me alone and went so far as to keep ragging on me as I went into my bedroom to get away from her- SHE FOLLOWED ME IN. Well ever since then our relationship, has never been the same. If hubby wants to go visit her (and help out with chores around the house since Dad is gone now) I let him and the boys go and use work as a excuse that I can't go. Thank god she lives in SC and not here in the county! She's been to see us 2x in the last 3 years and I am soooo glad to see her go when she does. But this is my home and my rules etc. It took a long time for me to stand up to her but I do now. She is a absolute control freak.

anyway-my advise to you is to tell her to stay @ BIL and she can come visit. WHEN it's convenient for you and baby. After all, assuming you'll be a new mom, and if your going to nurse, well you don't need the added stress. Tell her to deal with it. Get your back bone in place now or years from now you will regret it, like I do.

I have a almost 4 year old little girl from a previous marriage, my MIL claims that she loves her as if she was her very own. However this will be hubby and his family's first grandchild.

She made the weirdest comment to me the other day. There is nothing but boys on his side and there are all girls on my side, so my family was happy that it was a boy. His mom wanted a "granddaughter." Anyway, she said "At first I really wanted a granddaughter but I'm glad your having a boy." "This way he won't have to be compared to anyone else." WTF is that suppose to mean? Who is comparing?

 

[kelligreen]

My MIL is a lunatic. She asked her cousin's son to be our ring bearer without consulting us. She told me our wedding cake didn't look "as bad" in the pictures as it did at the wedding. She then laughed at it and said it was army colored.

She once grabbed my husband's stomach fat in front of a group of girls and said "what's this?"

She couldn't stay with me for more than 2 hours. A WEEK is entirely out of the question.

 

[vraiblonde]

Boy, after those stories I feel so lucky. My own family is a bunch of loonies but Larry's family is a complete joy. His folks, brothers and sisters, nieces and nephews, cousins, aunts, uncles - all of them.

In fact, tomorrow is our annual family picnic and anyone who is remotely connected to the Gude family will be there, extending out to inlaws' inlaws.

 

[Tonio]

My own inlaws are great. It's my wife's inlaws that are Satan's spawn. I've cut myself off from my family, because they continue to be nasty, rude and insulting to her in passive-aggressive ways. When I confront them about a specific incident, they either claim it was a joke or claim not to remember saying it, and they act all hurt that I would even think them capable of being hurtful. The hell with them. I'm not going to let them treat my wife that way anymore.

 

[CMC122]

My friend has come across a book called Toxick Inlaw's and she say's it's very enlightening to the things that go on in Inlaw World

 

[kelligreen]

My mom gave me a book called "MILDEW- Mothers-In-Law Do Everything Wrong." A classic...

 

[vraiblonde]

My own mother gives me money for birthdays and Christmas because she has no interest in what I like or what my tastes are, no matter HOW many times I tell her. In the event she DOES get a real present, she buys two of the exact same thing - one for me and one for my sister.

Larry's mother picks out something especially for me and it's always perfect. She notices what I normally wear and picks out sweaters for me accordingly. She also gets me things I love but wouldn't get for myself, like a fancy watch or Spode Christmas dishes. She never ever gets duplicates of anything for me and Larry's sisters. If she decides to buy us all a Christmas ornament, they will all be completely different and reflective of our tastes and decor.

*sigh* The mother I never had....

 

[vraiblonde]

But here's a good story about my ex-MIL:

One year for Christmas, she sent me lavender polyester stretch pants, two rayon blouses and some granny panties (I was 20). I was talking to my SIL (husband's brother's wife) and mentioned the "present". Meg starts cracking up and says, "That's what I got her for her birthday!" Yes, the MIL rewrapped her birthday gift and sent it to me for Christmas.

I rewrapped it and sent it to Meg for her birthday, then she sent it to one of her sisters and it became a family joke for a long time.

 

[kelligreen]

My MIL got my husband an elephant lamp for his 23rd birthday. (She has since given us something elephant-related for every occasion.)

Even worse, his great aunt gave him a homemade quilted steering wheel cover with an upside down buffalo on it.

 

[CMC122]

My MIL got my husband an elephant lamp for his 23rd birthday. (She has since given us something elephant-related for every occasion.)

Even worse, his great aunt gave him a homemade quilted steering wheel cover with an upside down buffalo on it.

 

[Kain99]

I live right next door to my MIL.... try that on for a decade!

 

[crabcake]

I live right next door to my MIL.... try that on for a decade!

you forgot to mention that you walk over to dust off her gravestone weekly and throw a 'hello' wave into the clouds for her.













j/k Kain's MIL is alive and well ...

 

[Shutterbug]

I live right next door to my MIL.... try that on for a decade!

My husband is thinking of moving my MIL here to live with us. How about that?

 

[sockgirl77]

My ex MIL is a whore who used to sell sexual favors to men outside Rose's. EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEW!

 

[RoseRed]

My ex MIL is a whore who used to sell sexual favors to men outside Rose's. EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEW!

Covering for your own past indiscretions again?