Is Gambling a Deal Breaker?

[leslie3977]

Let's say you've been with someone for 4 years. Everything in the relationship is pretty good except one thing. The person you are with is a gambler. They blow all their money, leaving you paying the bills and scraping to get by. At one point you save up $5,000 and they blow all that in a month. Would you leave this person because of this problem if everything else in the relationship is good?

(no this is not about me, just wondering)

 

[cattitude]

Let's say you've been with someone for 4 years. Everything in the relationship is pretty good except one thing. The person you are with is a gambler. They blow all their money, leaving you paying the bills and scraping to get by. At one point you save up $5,000 and they blow all that in a month. Would you leave this person because of this problem if everything else in the relationship is good?

(no this is not about me, just wondering)

Ah...so this is a hypothetical tread?

 

[Fubar]

Let's say you've been with someone for 4 years. Everything in the relationship is pretty good except one thing. The person you are with is a gambler. They blow all their money, leaving you paying the bills and scraping to get by. At one point you save up $5,000 and they blow all that in a month. Would you leave this person because of this problem if everything else in the relationship is good?

(no this is not about me, just wondering)

Has "this person" been gambling for the entire 4 yrs.?? If so-D'oh!

 

[leslie3977]

Ah...so this is a hypothetical tread?

Sort of. I know someone in this situation.

 

[mainman]

Just like drugs and alcohol....

 

[leslie3977]

Has "this person" been gambling for the entire 4 yrs.?? If so-D'oh!

Yes, but never like the $5,000 in one month. But, she's been paying all the bills while he brings home barely anything after gambling and drinking all his money away.

 

[itsbob]

Yes, but never like the $5,000 in one month. But, she's been paying all the bills while he brings home barely anything after gambling and drinking all his money away.

I'd tell her to ditch him, and on the way out the door have her give him Tiffany's number..

 

[Fubar]

Yes, but never like the $5,000 in one month. But, she's been paying all the bills while he brings home barely anything after gambling and drinking all his money away.

And drinking?? Oh hellllll no..........

 

[itsbob]

Yes, but never like the $5,000 in one month. But, she's been paying all the bills while he brings home barely anything after gambling and drinking all his money away.

Letting him do this is beyond belief.. for every action there should be an equal or greater reaction.

Tell him, "I bet my best friend this months paycheck that you were too responsible to gamble all your money away and leave your family high and dry. How do you suggest we pay the bills now??"

 

[Vince]

Yes, but never like the $5,000 in one month. But, she's been paying all the bills while he brings home barely anything after gambling and drinking all his money away.

She needs to get a clue and get the hell out.

 

[aps45819]

At one point you save up $5,000 and they blow all that in a month. Would you leave this person because of this problem if everything else in the relationship is good?

If you can't trust them, why be in a relationship with them?

 

[mainman]

I'm just curious, is this local? Where is he gambling at? What is he doing?

 

[leslie3977]

She needs to get a clue and get the hell out.

 

[Fubar]

Please say there aren't chillin involved!

 

[leslie3977]

I'm just curious, is this local? Where is he gambling at? What is he doing?

No, not local. I'm not sure how he's gambling.

 

[leslie3977]

Please say there aren't chillin involved!

His and hers but thank God none live with them.

 

[Tinkerbell]

No, not local. I'm not sure how he's gambling.

Very possibly he can blow it on scratch offs, Keno and on-line gambling. I've known people who have bankrupted themselves this way. It's sad.

She needs to toss him out, or pack her bags and hit the road.

 

[mainman]

Very possibly he can blow it on scratch offs, Keno and on-line gambling. I've known people who have bankrupted themselves this way. It's sad.

She needs to toss him out, or pack her bags and hit the road.

I was wondering if he was addicted to Keno, for some reason I would want to laugh at that...:shrug:

 

[migtig]

Let's say you've been with someone for 4 years. Everything in the relationship is pretty good except one thing. The person you are with is a gambler. They blow all their money, leaving you paying the bills and scraping to get by. At one point you save up $5,000 and they blow all that in a month. Would you leave this person because of this problem if everything else in the relationship is good?

(no this is not about me, just wondering)

Should have separate accounts. :shrug: If he's gambling now, odds are he was gambling then. Obviously it wasn't a problem before. He must have been winning. :shrug:

I know plenty of guys who gamble. However, they pay their bills first and then blow their money. Again, I say have separate accounts. He pays for his bills first and then should be free to do whatever he wants with anything that's left. Of course, if he wins, that's his money as well.

My ex-husband was a huge gambler. HUGE. However, we never had an issue over it.

 

[leslie3977]

I just don't get it. She said but he's great about everything else. (She being my sister btw) Then my mom even told me, he's great about everything else at least. And I'm like