Is it mine? Or should I give it back?

Bann

Bann

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lovinmaryland said:
But she would have been. He/and the family obviously cared enough about her to give her the ring/heirloom. I just wonder how it came about.

If it were me personally once I got under control from losing my fiance (which could be months-years) I would have probably given it back to the family w/ no asking necessary... the thing that throws me as that they actually asked her for it back and offered a replacement ring.
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Almost doesn't count in marriage! The law/court doesn't care if he obviously cared about her. They weren't legally married & she isn't legally related to that family heirloom.
 
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blitz10

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Qurious said:
Guess I'm alone on this one.

I would keep the ring until I was ready to give it back....i deserve to have whats left of my would be husband...im greiving. what sick coldhearted family does this? they were ready to accept me into their home as a daughter in law but now its like "whatever - give us back our property."
And.......this is totally disrespectful to my would be dead husband. He's probably rolling over in his grave, he would want me to have whats left of our love.
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split it....melt it down and make 2 rings or charms...take the stone and give them the ring or vise-a-versa....how long were you engaged?
 
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Tigerlily

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vraiblonde said:
ALL of her threads are hypothetical. I can't believe you guys thought all that crazy crap actually happened to her!

:roflmao:

:pointsandlaughs:
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I do believe it was I that first illuded that this was the exact scenario of a movie I saw and provided the name of said movie and how to look it up.

I then further went on to indicate that if this indeed happened to her, what my additional thoughts were.:popcorn:
 
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blitz10

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Tigerlily said:
I do believe it was I that first illuded that this was the exact scenario of a movie I saw and provided the name of said movie and how to look it up.

I then further went on to indicate that if this indeed happened to her, what my additional thoughts were.:popcorn:
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:confused::confused::confused::confused::confused:
 
LadyWolf

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Qurious said:
Lets say you were engaged to be married, and received a family heirloom (about 80 years old) as the engagement ring. Your fiance' dies before you get married. His family wants the heirloom back and is willing to give you a replacement ring.

Should I give it back? Or do I keep it?
What would be the legal answer to this as well since the contract was with him, NOT his family.
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From a "legal" perspective, you should ask a lawyer but more than likely you could keep it. As far as "conscience" whether you want to keep it or not, that is up to you. You shouldn't look at this as a "contract" with him. He gave you the ring out of love, or at least it should have been out of love and not some binding agreement. I don't always look at things from a business perspective when it comes to relationships. Either way, a replacement ring shouldn't even be considered. It's that ring or no ring at all, BUT then again, that is my feeling and if one chooses to be greedy, so be it.
 
itsbob

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lovinmaryland said:
Hmm that is actually a hard one... first instinct would be to give it back, but then again that was something special that he would have given to you and wanted you to have. I am not sure what I would do.
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But he gave it to her thinking in the future she would be family, and the ring would stay in the family...

She will not be family now, it should go back.

UNLESS there was a child involved (of his) then the ring should go to his child.
 
donbarzini

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nachomama said:
No, it wasn't syphyllis. He died of chemical poisoning. She made him dip his :gossip: in clorox before he could put it near her. :lol:
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I heard that he had been drunk and actually used the clorox the day after when he sobered up and asked :"I screwed WHO?????????"
 
LateApex

LateApex

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Just chiming in with a guy's perspective.

If I were the one that died.

I.E. If I gave the ring to the woman that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with and suddenly died, I would want my family to let her keep it.

If I was that committed to want to spend the rest of my life with her then that would have meant that she was the love of my life.

I would want her to keep the ring.

I wouldn't, however, expect her to never marry again. I wouldn't want her to go through life alone.

But, I would like her to have something that she can hold onto that would remind her of the special love that we shared.
 
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This_person

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Qurious said:
Lets say you were engaged to be married, and received a family heirloom (about 80 years old) as the engagement ring. Your fiance' dies before you get married. His family wants the heirloom back and is willing to give you a replacement ring.

Should I give it back? Or do I keep it?
What would be the legal answer to this as well since the contract was with him, NOT his family.
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IMHO, keep it. The fiance gave it, and the blushing bride to be did nothing to un-earn it (unless she killed him.

Just my thought.
 
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mAlice said:
Knowing the importance of a "family" heirloom, I'd give it back. If you had gotten married and had a child, it would have eventually gone to another one of his family members. Since that didn't happen, the right thing to do would be to return, so that it will remain in the family.

Even if I married, then divorced at some point, I'd return a family heirloom if I didn't have a child associated with his family to will it to.
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I agree
 
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