Is It OK For the Girl to Propose?

[Hank]

I have a friend, who I think after several years of marriage ended up taking her last name (when they got married, she kept hers)... I am too afraid to ask him for fear of laughing in his face!

 

[SoMD_Fun_Guy]

If Ms. Smith marries Mr. Johnson then the traditional thing is for her to take his name.
Hence, at the wedding they proclaim "I now present to you Mr and Mrs Johnson."

What if he takes her name?
Do they proclaim "I now present to you Mrs and Mr Smith"?

 

[Dakota]

I have several female friends who became known or successful with their maiden names and never changed it after being married. I have my husband's last name but use my maiden name on social media and never bothered to change my utilities to my married name after more than 2 decades. I guess it is whatever the couple decides.

 

[Wenchy]

If I EVER get married again I will be keeping my former married name.

Too much of a PITA to change it...and I want to have my son's last name.

I don't see the big deal with a woman proposing.

I've never done it but I have made the first move and asked the majority of my SO's out (usually in a group setting) and then it led to LTR's.

 

[stockgirl]

If I EVER get married again I will be keeping my former married name.

Too much of a PITA to change it...and I want to have my son's last name.

I'd think the new hubby would have an issue with that. I certainly would.

 

[MarieB]

No

I'm more on the traditional side.

As far as name change, it was a no brainer for me.

Whatever you decide, don't hyphenate. Choose one or the other

On a side note, I don't understand when women choose to take their maiden names back after a divorce when they have children

 

[vraiblonde]

Even after I was an established professional, I still took Larry's name when we married. It's a sign of respect and a commitment to us being a family.

As far as asking a guy out, I think Kwilly hit that nail right square on the head: You ask him and he's like, meh, why not. You are not special. If he steps up, NOW you are special because he actually got off his ass to woo you. So many women undervalue themselves and it's just sad.

 

[GURPS]

my wife was never so Glad to get rid of SMITH


apparently it is very difficult to order a Pizza for delivery if you tell the order taker your name is smith

 

[Wenchy]

I'd think the new hubby would have an issue with that. I certainly would.

That would be someone I wouldn't marry.

It's not like I would be giving the new husband a child.

I want to keep the last name of my child.

My current last name will be in my paid for (by social services?) two line obituary. Who pays for it? I don't care.

 

[vraiblonde]

That would be someone I wouldn't marry.

And to me that's a great weeder question:

So, if we got married would you mind if I didn't take your last name?

Any answer other than, "What kind of retarded feminazi lesbian question is that?" would result in him not getting another date.

I like men. If I wanted a woman, I'd go get one.

 

[Wenchy]

I like men. If I wanted a woman, I'd go get one.

I do as well.

I'm not going to take a man or woman's last name if I get married again.



Would I propose? Yes.

I would already know that the person involved didn't have an issue with names.

 

[GURPS]

would it really be a 'proposal'


down on one knee and all that ...

.. or a 'Honey can we Talk for a Minute'



[oh shiat what did I do now]

 

[Wenchy]

would it really be a 'proposal'


down on one knee and all that ...

.. or a 'Honey can we Talk for a Minute'



[oh shiat what did I do now]

Neither of the above.

Probably a and me suggesting marriage a trip to Bermuda (on his tab)

 

[Bann]

And to me that's a great weeder question:

So, if we got married would you mind if I didn't take your last name?

Any answer other than, "What kind of retarded feminazi lesbian question is that?" would result in him not getting another date.

I like men. If I wanted a woman, I'd go get one.

Well, this is the quote of the day!

My .02: I'm old fashioned and traditional - I think the man ought to propose.

I took my husband's name when I married, although I did take back my maiden name when I divorced. I WAS going to keep it for my son's sake and didn't get it changed by the court at the time I divorced. But it made me nauseous every time I wrote my name - every time. So I got it changed.

If I were to marry again, I would take my husband's name.

 

[Dakota]

I'm glad I don't have to worry about this.... if by some chance, I'd end up single again... I am not getting married again. I say once in a lifetime is enough.

 

[Wenchy]

I'm glad I don't have to worry about this. I say once in a lifetime is enough.

In a perfect world and I wish you the best of a perfect world..

 

[czygvtwkr]

What about the nagging "Why aren't we married yet?"

 

[Dakota]

In a perfect world and I wish you the best of a perfect world..

Nobody's world is perfect. I just, personally, will not get married again if ever in that position to make that decision. It is a hard road getting used to living with somebody in the 1st place and it took my husband and I everything we had to get us where we are today... it was difficult and sometimes painful and I just don't think I'd have the energy or willingness to do that again.

 

[vraiblonde]

What about the nagging "Why aren't we married yet?"

And the answer is: because you're not woman enough to know how to get what you want from a man.

 

[itsbob]

Kwillia and BG brought up the laziness factor in the other thread. It depends on what you're willing to settle for.

What other thread?