Is It OK For the Girl to Propose?

[BadGirl]

Maybe they had goofy last names and did not want to carry it on. :shrug:

I have a goofy-assed last name, and when I married Bob, had the opportunity to take his normal/safe name. I choose to keep my goofy-assed last name. It suits me. AND, our son has MY goofy-assed last name. I'm the last of many in my girl-only family, and I wanted to carry on that goofy-assed last name.

Also, I figured that *if* Bob and I divorce, I won't have to go through the hassle of changing my name back. I'm lazy like that. (see above post, Bob).

 

[slotpuppy]

When I got married, I told the wife that it didnt matter to me if she changed her name or not, it was her choice. She actually brought up us getting married first, we had been living together for years and she suggested that we marry on our aniversary.

I see no problem with the women proposing.

 

[TerriT]

The kind that TerriT danced with or the kind that's in Misfit's pants?

or the 17 different ones that impregnated you?

 

[withrespect]

And the answer is: because you're not woman enough to know how to get what you want from a man.

You're feisty, I love it!

 

[SamSpade]

And the answer is: because you're not woman enough to know how to get what you want from a man.

And there's the difference. If you ignore the spoken language and just observe the body language - women pretty much always do the asking. They just don't do the part that is spoken. Women invite men to them, use body language that encourages or discourages him but the communication is clear - ask me out, I will say yes; go away, it ain't happening. Most guys however, don't know they're in a conversation already.

Same with proposals. I don't know a woman who DIDN'T know they were about to hear a proposal. They'd been subtly working towards that for a long time.

 

[vraiblonde]

And there's the difference. If you ignore the spoken language and just observe the body language - women pretty much always do the asking. They just don't do the part that is spoken. Women invite men to them, use body language that encourages or discourages him but the communication is clear - ask me out, I will say yes; go away, it ain't happening. Most guys however, don't know they're in a conversation already.

Same with proposals. I don't know a woman who DIDN'T know they were about to hear a proposal. They'd been subtly working towards that for a long time.

Exactly. The conversation has actually been taking place for quite awhile.

The best way to get what you want from a man? Make him think it was his idea.

 

[DEEKAYPEE8569]

Please.

You know you're really the schizz if you can get some schmuck to take your last name....and it's not even *your* name but your ex-husband's.

I know a lady who has been divorced for decades; she still uses her ex's last name. Go figure.....

 

[SamSpade]

Exactly. The conversation has actually been taking place for quite awhile.

The best way to get what you want from a man? Make him think it was his idea.

That's true with everyone - and the best way to "win" an argument.

 

[DEEKAYPEE8569]

If I EVER get married again I will be keeping my former married name.

Too much of a PITA to change it...and I want to have my son's last name.

I don't see the big deal with a woman proposing.

I've never done it but I have made the first move and asked the majority of my SO's out (usually in a group setting) and then it led to LTR's.

With the S.O.'s or the group?
Hadda ask.....

 

[DEEKAYPEE8569]

my wife was never so Glad to get rid of SMITH


apparently it is very difficult to order a Pizza for delivery if you tell the order taker your name is smith

.....or your name is Michael Hunt; "order for M....."

Made myself laugh

 

[DEEKAYPEE8569]

would it really be a 'proposal'


down on one knee and all that ...

.. or a 'Honey can we Talk for a Minute'



[oh shiat what did I do now]

Isn't that the ususal reaction to "Honey can we talk for a minute?"

 

[DEEKAYPEE8569]

When I got married, I told the wife that it didnt matter to me if she changed her name or not, it was her choice. She actually brought up us getting married first, we had been living together for years and she suggested that we marry on our aniversary.

Well yeah.....how else would you not remember when you got married?
Wait.....you meant the adversary of when you started dating.
Now it makes sense.

 

[DEEKAYPEE8569]

That's true with everyone - and the best way to "win" an argument.

I think it was Jeff Foxworthy who said something like, (to his wife): "If we're gonna have an argument; let's do it nekkid." H*LL of an idea.

 

[itsbob]

I don't know if you'd call it a proposal per se..

I just got a phone call at work one day, told me to be at the courthouse on 31 Dec at a certain time.

 

[ArkRescue]

Please.

You know you're really the schizz if you can get some schmuck to take your last name....and it's not even *your* name but your ex-husband's.

LOL that is too funny - I recall a guy wanting to take a woman's last name ... not sure what his motivation was, although I believe he somehow thought his prior credit worries would go away - fat chance.

 

[drivingdaisy]

I waited for my husband to propose, but by the end I was tired of waiting. I knew he was the kind of guy who wanted to ask and it be a surprise (if such a thing can really be a surprise after 7 1/2 years and if I hadn't accidentally seen a receipt from the jewelers) so I let him.

I do think its silly for a girl to sit around and wait for some guy to ask without having conversations about the future. Hopefully man and woman would have discussed their futures and their futures together before popping the question.

As for last names... Maybe I'll feel compelled to change mine to his when baby comes or maybe I won't. I always liked my last name and it is used as the basis of a lot of my nicknames so I didn't want to change it. I wear my wedding band, people know I am married, having one last name or another doesn't change that.

 

[drivingdaisy]

I did read some where about reasons guys might change their last name and a lot of the ones who did it was because they didn't want to be named after their dad or really disliked their family. I also read of some instances of man and woman picking out a new name together for both of them.

 

[ArkRescue]

I waited for my husband to propose, but by the end I was tired of waiting. I knew he was the kind of guy who wanted to ask and it be a surprise (if such a thing can really be a surprise after 7 1/2 years and if I hadn't accidentally seen a receipt from the jewelers) so I let him.

I do think its silly for a girl to sit around and wait for some guy to ask without having conversations about the future. Hopefully man and woman would have discussed their futures and their futures together before popping the question.

As for last names... Maybe I'll feel compelled to change mine to his when baby comes or maybe I won't. I always liked my last name and it is used as the basis of a lot of my nicknames so I didn't want to change it. I wear my wedding band, people know I am married, having one last name or another doesn't change that.

Not to mention that it is such a PITA to change one's name. I seriously would not want to go through a name change again. It can't be that important, well unless you get married and you still have your ex's last name LOL

 

[vraiblonde]

If a guy doesn't ask you to marry him, that means he doesn't want to marry you. What other reason could there possibly be?

Anyway, I have a renewed appreciation for male/female roles in romantic relationships and can't believe I settled for some of the dip####s I hooked up with in the past.

 

[Bann]

If a guy doesn't ask you to marry him, that means he doesn't want to marry you. What other reason could there possibly be?

Anyway, I have a renewed appreciation for male/female roles in romantic relationships and can't believe I settled for some of the dip####s I hooked up with in the past.