Tina2001aniT
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Pete,
Women are witches!
Love,
Tina
Women are witches!
Love,
Tina
Just when you thought you ex was a POS Pete posted a story about his and suddenly I f
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Wickedwrench
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Damn! Sorry to hear about all your woes with this sorry excuse for a woman. It sucks that the kids are always used as pawns in their sick games.Pete said:
I'll give you credit,you know that they all play out of the same book when they do the run around on ya. That's the same tactic I use when I want my ex off the phone,too!
That guilt is a biatch!Calvert newbie
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i have one of those ex's
im in the same boat my ex hardly has 24 overnites a year i havent seen a dime in 4 years when she calls she talks to me even though my daughter is five and can tell her whats going on in her life and i also have to transport back and fourth to balt and bring food for my daughter and her half sister for the vist
im in the same boat my ex hardly has 24 overnites a year i havent seen a dime in 4 years when she calls she talks to me even though my daughter is five and can tell her whats going on in her life and i also have to transport back and fourth to balt and bring food for my daughter and her half sister for the vist
Pete, I know you want to keep Boy's mother in his life but....did you ever think that it might be better to just let her fade away? I mean, what benefit does she really bring to the table?
I just think if you explained it to Boy realistically and honestly, without calling his mother a POS, that he'd have a better understanding that it's HER, not HIM, that is the defective person. Stop making her your problem.
If Larry's ex did stuff like that, I'd have to wonder what goes on when the girls are with her for weekends. Then I'd have to question whether that's really beneficial to them or not.
I just think if you explained it to Boy realistically and honestly, without calling his mother a POS, that he'd have a better understanding that it's HER, not HIM, that is the defective person. Stop making her your problem.
If Larry's ex did stuff like that, I'd have to wonder what goes on when the girls are with her for weekends. Then I'd have to question whether that's really beneficial to them or not.
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Kain99
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On the grand universal scale this doesn't even amount to a spec of dust. Penn's right she is jerking your chain and you are allowing it.
The question here is why?
You already know she is worthless... so why are you continually sweating it? Let the past go and live your life. She is winning this fight Pete. You just don't know it yet.
Focus on the boy and his needs. He is all that matters.
Who cares if she's a welfare queen? Who cares about her stupid Christmas pictures? Who cares if she is never home?
If you are still carrying a torch, call her up and say so. If not, let this crap go!! It'll ruin everything for you in the end..... Including a healthy relationship with a new woman.
The question here is why?
You already know she is worthless... so why are you continually sweating it? Let the past go and live your life. She is winning this fight Pete. You just don't know it yet.
Focus on the boy and his needs. He is all that matters.
Who cares if she's a welfare queen? Who cares about her stupid Christmas pictures? Who cares if she is never home?
If you are still carrying a torch, call her up and say so. If not, let this crap go!! It'll ruin everything for you in the end..... Including a healthy relationship with a new woman.
fttrsbeerwench
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Pete and my BF should really hook up and have a beer together, they have the same ex, I am sure of it.How he handles it is like this, he knows that the time he has the kiddies is more time that they will have his influence, not hers. Plus, the reassuring fact that one day, both kids will ask to live with him full time once they see what's up!
Hang in there man, I have selfish ex too!
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Kizzy
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After listening to everyone talk about their ex’s and the horror stories where the children are involved several times in the past, I am grateful that I am not in that situation, that after 14 1/2 years of marriage, with many cross roads, hurdles, differences, and a near divorce, a 2-parent household prevailed.
I’ve known Pete for over a year now IRL, and I have been impressed with his unselfish efforts of making sure “mom” does have a role in his life, driving out of his way 6-hours (even if he did meet her ½ way to drop off and pick up it is still 6-hours) to ensure she gets to spend quality time with boy, only to come home and patiently wait for his return. He has even opened up his house on a few occasions, so that she can visit and be a role in boy’s life. He even planned a camping trip this past summer with the intention of boy having both parents there for a change, and to despite that effort, she ended up not being there with boy.
I have clearly seen that Pete’s life centers on his son and his son’s best interest. But, the bottom line is boy loves his mother, I know this just from my conversations with boy, and boy does look forward to seeing her and being with her. Boy spent the night at my house last night, and this morning he sat in front of his cereal bowl, looked at me, and told me about this dilemma with his mother and we talk about the choices. Nevertheless, I don’t think anything I could have said could have made him feel better about telling his mother “no.” So, I was happy to hear this morning that she called last night and left a message while they were out saying she was sorry and boy shouldn’t have to choose. I think she needs to think about things before flying off the handle, calling acting like a selfish brat demanding her way, because no child should ever be put in this situation, especially a situation boy had no role in, a situation created because of her ill choices, leaving Pete no other option than to raise him as a single father and not in the 2-parent household he had hoped for.
Pete knows I love his son, his son knows I love him very much, and that I am always going to be here when ever I am needed. (well, unless Pete breaks down and gets that restraining order.
) I know I am not his mother, nor do I claim to be, he has a mother, but I think that as the years go by and he sees and understands more and more, he will grow to resent her. 
Either way, Pete got the better end out of all of this, he got boy.
I’ve known Pete for over a year now IRL, and I have been impressed with his unselfish efforts of making sure “mom” does have a role in his life, driving out of his way 6-hours (even if he did meet her ½ way to drop off and pick up it is still 6-hours) to ensure she gets to spend quality time with boy, only to come home and patiently wait for his return. He has even opened up his house on a few occasions, so that she can visit and be a role in boy’s life. He even planned a camping trip this past summer with the intention of boy having both parents there for a change, and to despite that effort, she ended up not being there with boy.
I have clearly seen that Pete’s life centers on his son and his son’s best interest. But, the bottom line is boy loves his mother, I know this just from my conversations with boy, and boy does look forward to seeing her and being with her. Boy spent the night at my house last night, and this morning he sat in front of his cereal bowl, looked at me, and told me about this dilemma with his mother and we talk about the choices. Nevertheless, I don’t think anything I could have said could have made him feel better about telling his mother “no.” So, I was happy to hear this morning that she called last night and left a message while they were out saying she was sorry and boy shouldn’t have to choose. I think she needs to think about things before flying off the handle, calling acting like a selfish brat demanding her way, because no child should ever be put in this situation, especially a situation boy had no role in, a situation created because of her ill choices, leaving Pete no other option than to raise him as a single father and not in the 2-parent household he had hoped for.
Pete knows I love his son, his son knows I love him very much, and that I am always going to be here when ever I am needed. (well, unless Pete breaks down and gets that restraining order.
) I know I am not his mother, nor do I claim to be, he has a mother, but I think that as the years go by and he sees and understands more and more, he will grow to resent her. Either way, Pete got the better end out of all of this, he got boy.
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And he's one helluva an awesome dad! 
Kizzy said:After listening to everyone talk about their ex’s and the horror stories where the children are involved several times in the past, I am grateful that I am not in that situation, that after 14 1/2 years of marriage, with many cross roads, hurdles, differences, and a near divorce, a 2-parent household prevailed.
I’ve known Pete for over a year now IRL, and I have been impressed with his unselfish efforts of making sure “mom” does have a role in his life, driving out of his way 6-hours (even if he did meet her ½ way to drop off and pick up it is still 6-hours) to ensure she gets to spend quality time with boy, only to come home and patiently wait for his return. He has even opened up his house on a few occasions, so that she can visit and be a role in boy’s life. He even planned a camping trip this past summer with the intention of boy having both parents there for a change, and to despite that effort, she ended up not being there with boy.
I have clearly seen that Pete’s life centers on his son and his son’s best interest. But, the bottom line is boy loves his mother, I know this just from my conversations with boy, and boy does look forward to seeing her and being with her. Boy spent the night at my house last night, and this morning he sat in front of his cereal bowl, looked at me, and told me about this dilemma with his mother and we talk about the choices. Nevertheless, I don’t think anything I could have said could have made him feel better about telling his mother “no.” So, I was happy to hear this morning that she called last night and left a message while they were out saying she was sorry and boy shouldn’t have to choose. I think she needs to think about things before flying off the handle, calling acting like a selfish brat demanding her way, because no child should ever be put in this situation, especially a situation boy had no role in, a situation created because of her ill choices, leaving Pete no other option than to raise him as a single father and not in the 2-parent household he had hoped for.
Pete knows I love his son, his son knows I love him very much, and that I am always going to be here when ever I am needed. (well, unless Pete breaks down and gets that restraining order.
Either way, Pete got the better end out of all of this, he got boy.
Very well said!
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Kain99
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No pipe for me killer.....Pete said:
I'm honestly trying to help you. Why are you so mega involved in what she is doing? Who cares?
Your boy, has everything that he needs with you! Cut the POP 101 "He needs his Mommy" Crap, out!
You are enough..... End of story.
She's got a point, Pete. :shrug:Kain99 said:
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Kain99 said:
1. I am not mega involved in what she is doing. I could care less except that we have a kid together, have to cooperate at times. "Mega" would imply I know or care what she does on a daily basis, which I don't.
2. He doesn't need his mommy, he loves his mommy. Would you be the one to look deeply into boys eyes and tell him he is not going to go see her because I think she is a crap person?
3. My life is totally perfect except when she gets a case of the stupid. I am not holding a candle for her and would be perfectly happy never having to hear from her again. Alas I have 10-11 more years.
4. Looking at it from her standpoint how would you like it if someone stopped you from seeing your kid? For all her ills, adultery and stupidity are not crimes.
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Kain99
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Pete said:
I must have misunderstood you..... I thought you did not like this shiat! My bad.
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Kain99
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Then create a situation where you can live with it. She does not have ultimate control, you do.Pete said:
She is a total life sucker. Stop the cycle.
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I think I have the perfect situation. I do have most of the control, she is not getting her way AND she is not guilt tripping Boy. Unfortunatly she does have rights and if I were to be an unreasonable prick the court would decide for me when she would see boy and for how long. I chose to be a tad benevolent and keep the decision for myself instead of forfieting it to some judge. as long as I can show I am reasonable and somewhat accomodating she will never get traction with Boy or a court against me.Kain99 said:
I just like sharing/venting the outrageous crap she tries. It makes me feel like I am still sane when others read it and agree with me.
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Kain99
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Pete... I have been there.... I know how much it sucks and how much it completely wrecks you.Pete said:
I just want you to understand, one tiny thing.... You will blink ..Gorgeous baby boy will be walking out of your life into adulthood.
You have absolutely no choice but to hang on to yourself and your morals. I know he loves her but he is an innocent.
Daddy... Trust yourself, You have seen the world. If ya want to let him have Momma ok... But you cannot spend one more day like this! You count! You really do!
We have one life Pete, you cannot let her take it away.