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[Dymphna]

I think I have the perfect situation. I do have most of the control, she is not getting her way AND she is not guilt tripping Boy. Unfortunatly she does have rights and if I were to be an unreasonable prick the court would decide for me when she would see boy and for how long. I chose to be a tad benevolent and keep the decision for myself instead of forfieting it to some judge. as long as I can show I am reasonable and somewhat accomodating she will never get traction with Boy or a court against me.

I just like sharing/venting the outrageous crap she tries. It makes me feel like I am still sane when others read it and agree with me.

Don't let them rile you, Pete. Boy is young now, and he already sees that you are trying to do your best to keep his mother in his life. One day boy will see through mom and understand what you already know. You'll grow ten feet in his eyes when he sees that you loved him enough to put up with her crap anyway.

 

[Kain99]

Don't let them rile you, Pete. Boy is young now, and he already sees that you are trying to do your best to keep his mother in his life. One day boy will see through mom and understand what you already know. You'll grow ten feet in his eyes when he sees that you loved him enough to put up with her crap anyway.

Seee Above: This is POP 101 Crapola! Been there done that! Pete I know you might be really mad at me right now but the azz kissers are not helping you at all.

 

[Pete]

Nobody is helping me, I see, analyze, act and go on with it on my own. Note that nowhere in my first post did the words "what should I do" appear.

I am mad at no one. I do appreciate the warm sentiments, kind words and support but in the end I am ultimatly responsible.

 

[Kain99]

Nobody is helping me, I see, analyze, act and go on with it on my own. Note that nowhere in my first post did the words "what should I do" appear.

I am mad at no one. I do appreciate the warm sentiments, kind words and support but in the end I am ultimatly responsible.

True Pete....Ultimately, you are smarter than all of us. Stay strong.

 

[BTE]

Don't let them rile you, Pete. Boy is young now, and he already sees that you are trying to do your best to keep his mother in his life. One day boy will see through mom and understand what you already know. You'll grow ten feet in his eyes when he sees that you loved him enough to put up with her crap anyway.

Pete, keep doing what you are doing. I am exactly where you are....I go through very similar things with my daughter and her father. I do most of the driving (from FL to NC) and tend to accomodate his schedule. Quite frankly, as her mother, I feel it's my responsibility to foster their relationship. She loves her Daddy very much. I know, that in time, she will see everything for what it is.

She will know who was true to her and she will "get it" all on her own. I have never said a bad thing about her father and would never. I don't have to. She'll eventually figure it out. We as parents don't want our children to get hurt or be disappointed, and we try and do what we can to prevent that from happening. If in trying to do that, we have to put up with extra crap from the ex....then so be it.

Whenever I give in to him or change my plans to accomodate his visitation..I remind him that I am doing it for her...NOT for him.

Keep your chin up and keep doing what you are doing. It sounds like you are a wonderful father and Boy is very lucky to have you.

 

[Ken King]

Sounds like you should just go ahead and marry her again.

 

[kwillia]

Don't let them rile you, Pete. Boy is young now, and he already sees that you are trying to do your best to keep his mother in his life. One day boy will see through mom and understand what you already know. You'll grow ten feet in his eyes when he sees that you loved him enough to put up with her crap anyway.

Pete, you are doing good by your boy. Right now, his unconditional love for his mother continues to run the show. The 'unconditional' part will lessen as Boy gets older and wiser. As that happens, you will gain ground. You are doing a great job attempting to keep her in Boy's life, yet keep her in check as well. Hang in there, it will get better and Boy will be a bigger, better person as a result of your efforts.

 

[Pete]

Sounds like you should just go ahead and marry her again.

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[Penn]

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Gee, just when I thought Ken was starting to feel sorry, too?

 

[Pete]

huh?

 

[carolinagirl]

Speaking from experience, Boy will see her for what she really is in time. I was in the same situation with my oldest daughter, but because she loved her POS father so much I bit my tongue and usually ended up taking one in the a$$ trying to accomodate him. She is 12 yo now and is finally seeing him for what he is. The sad part is I told him if he didn't straighten up this would happen, but he is too self-centered to listen.

Anyway, just keep doing what your doing and Boy will figure it out.

 

[Ken King]

huh?

It's Penn, don't expect it to make sense.

 

[jazz lady]

It's Penn, don't expect it to make sense.

 

[Penn]

It's Penn, don't expect it to make sense.

Who said anything about sense?

BTW, how are you, OLD FART??

 

[jazz lady]

Anyway, just keep doing what your doing and Boy will figure it out.

Kids are smart and see a lot more than we realize.

 

[BTE]

Funny that we were just discussing this....I recently started reading Dr. Phil's book Family First. He talks exactly about this subject...

"If your spouse simply won't get into the game and adhere to the guidelines, you must do so anyway. The only person you control is you. Let me appeal to your greed by saying that, if you do take the high road, in the long run your children will admire you for it. The day will come when they look back and say: My mother [or father] behaved with such class, dignity and respect that I can see how much he or she loved me and wanted peace and tranquility in my life. I'm so grateful for that gift. I only wish my other parent had been so selfless."