Roberta
OLD WISE ONE
IF YOU had taken him out side the employee would not have had to say that for you to hear above all the teens and tweens in the place. It couldn't have been too loud in there.
Larry's Comic Place Doesn't Like Toddlers
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IF YOU had taken him out side the employee would not have had to say that for you to hear above all the teens and tweens in the place. It couldn't have been too loud in there.
mitzi
Well-Known Member
Point is, it should not have been said. I don't care how you feel about the customer or if the kids are being bratty you do not make comments about the customer in front of others. We were only in there a few minutes and in line, it's not like we sat down to eat and he was screaming the whole time. When we got to the counter to place the order, that's when I heard him. Maybe I have a different set of standards from a lifetime of working with the public. I don't care how aggravated a customer makes you, whether it was an adult or a screaming, bratty kid you don't make snide remarks about them in front of others. I worked at one place where I dreaded seeing certain families come in so I know what it's like, but I sure as hell didn't say anything.
Sounds like you caught a grouchy person in one of his bad moods, no biggy move on. Personally I would never talk about a baby crying, what do people expect. I see your point too, if it were a nice quiet restaurant or movie you would have went outside. Someone commented that he is such a nice guy, sounds like wolf in sheep clothing if all it takes is a little baby for him to get ignorant and disrespectful.
Dye Tied
Garden Variety Gnome
You said that you take him outside when he gets like that...Doesn't that mean it happened more than once before?
As a patron, I would have looked you square in the eye and asked to to please remove the squawking child. If your child is disturbing the adult conversing patrons, remove the little noise maker.
Newborn Wails While Mom Works Up A Sweat At The Gy
DEAR ABBY: A member of my gym brings her newborn in with her every morning. She sets the carrier down next to her treadmill, puts in her earplugs and runs. The baby usually cries on and off, but today he cried nonstop during my entire 20-minute workout. It drove me crazy.
I'm a mom, too. A crying baby, especially a newborn, is heartbreaking. This woman never stops to see why her little one is crying or to console him. This situation doesn't seem to bother the other gym members. Should I talk to her and risk a hostile response, or speak to the gym manager? -- HEAVY-HEARTED GYM BUNNY IN RIVERVIEW, FLA.
DEAR GYM BUNNY: Talk to the manager. The crying infant may not bother the other gym members, but it bothers you. The woman isn't stopping her workout to see what may be wrong because with her earbuds in she can't hear the child, which doesn't make her a candidate for mother of the year. She's causing a distraction and an inconvenience to you, so speak up.
DEAR ABBY: A member of my gym brings her newborn in with her every morning. She sets the carrier down next to her treadmill, puts in her earplugs and runs. The baby usually cries on and off, but today he cried nonstop during my entire 20-minute workout. It drove me crazy.
I'm a mom, too. A crying baby, especially a newborn, is heartbreaking. This woman never stops to see why her little one is crying or to console him. This situation doesn't seem to bother the other gym members. Should I talk to her and risk a hostile response, or speak to the gym manager? -- HEAVY-HEARTED GYM BUNNY IN RIVERVIEW, FLA.
DEAR GYM BUNNY: Talk to the manager. The crying infant may not bother the other gym members, but it bothers you. The woman isn't stopping her workout to see what may be wrong because with her earbuds in she can't hear the child, which doesn't make her a candidate for mother of the year. She's causing a distraction and an inconvenience to you, so speak up.
What kind of mother stands by while her infant child is crying. I guess she wants to get those pounds off from having the baby, yea that is more important.
ftcret
New Member
I beleive more people should speak up about crying/misbehaving children. You wouldn't allow an adult to carry on in a disruptive manner. Just as loud disruptive adult patrons are asked to respect the rights of others, those with small children in tow should expect the same. The loss of the patron will be made up from those of us who enjoy conversational levels of sound, with or without children. Here is a news flash for some of you, Children can be taught to behave in public. I know it sounds radical, but I do not subscribe to the thought process that allowing children to behave like the world is their own primate house does not foster learning and mtoor skill coordination. Teach them early to interact with the rest of society and perhaps I or Clem won't have to shoot the next one that thinks they can violate someone elses space with impunity.
hvp05
Methodically disorganized
Seems as though the baby was the proverbial last straw, especially since you (mitzi) were standing near the counter where the employee was. Your ultimate point is right, though, that he should not have made the comment so carelessly.
LadyCoyote
New Member
The guy was out of line to "voice" his thoughts loudly. He's an employee and the job is dealing with the PUBLIC -- for him to speak outloud like that - uncalled for, and definitely bad judgement/indiscreet. Deal with it, fella -- make the sale and give the people their food. They will be out the door in a few minutes. So it's a screaming child -- he's probably got to deal with customers talking on the cellphones, texting, gabbing or doing other annoying things. I would guarantee you that his voicing of opinion probably turned OTHERS off, as well...it just speaks of an unwelcoming atmosphere.
The real answer to the question is that management shouldn't allow children of any age in the equipment area. It would be quite easy for them to get injured. I'm surprised they'd let her do that.
I disagree with each point. Management does indeed have the right to demand appropriate behavior in their store. And they have the right to say so out loud, in front of other customers, and to hell with the person they embarrass. The person should be embarrassed by their screaming toddler, not the person who complains about it.
And I'm sure the other patrons were more irritated by the kid than the manager saying something about it.
Good point. Maybe it's a second rate gym that doesn't provide child care. :shrug:
I take it you don't have children? There are professional and decent ways to handle things, and smarty pantz comments is not one of them. For example if I were a manager/owner and I walked up to you as a customer and said, how about you get your head out of your azz. Yea that is great, you usually make sense in here when you talk, put that rum and coke down.
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Sweet 16
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Agree with the masses - bawling tots are annoying. Take them outside for their meltdown.
Or better yet, keep them at home in bed at naptime instead of dragging them all over hell and creation and your screaming toddler won't be so cranky when you go out. Toddlers are not too young to learn the word "no" and how to behave in public.
Dye Tied
Garden Variety Gnome
Seems as though the baby was the proverbial last straw, especially since you (mitzi) were standing near the counter where the employee was. Your ultimate point is right, though, that he should not have made the comment so carelessly.
You're messin' with an elf with a sinus headache
Pete
Repete
My squirt wasn't perfect by any means. It is a matter of respect for others. When my boy was little and began squalling my first step was to remove him from public until he calmed down. Does that mean not a single note of his squalling hit an eardrum? No, but to me there is no hot dog on the planet worth exposing the public to prolonged caterwalling.
On the Petian scale of audio annoyances with a 1 being a squeaking fan belt and the Kings of Leon being a 10, a squalling kid is 9.5.
Not anymore, no - four former toddlers, all grown up now.
Apparently OP forgot RULE #1.
http://forums.somd.com/parenting-children/208531-attention-mommies-toddlers-small-children.html
lovinmaryland
Well-Known Member
Did the OP bring the toddler into the cafe/store screaming or did he start screaming after being inside? I guess it really doesnt matter because as a mother of 5 kids I have to agree w/ you. There is nothing more annoying than a tantrum throwing toddler. I would have removed my child immediately when he/she started the tantrum. It is common courtesy. I dont agree w/ the man making that comment, that was very rude. But not any ruder than OP sitting inside w/ a screaming toddler.Take the kid out of the building vs. letting it annoy everyone else.
I went in there yesterday w/ my toddler & 18 month old for an ice cream cone around 1 pm, while there were people inside I wouldnt say it was very loud. Regardless it is a cafe/restaurant. I would not want to hear a screaming child whether it was mine or someone elses. Also it was very small inside so I can see how a screaming child could echo through out the store/cafe.
Its called the Mom/Dad look, the ass beating in the bathroom, or my patented squeeze move.
