Leaving child unattended at party

[RareBreed]

I would much rather be the one to get control of their kid if they act up. Have you seen the way kids interact with their parents these days???

I'd get sued if it were up to me to get control of them. I've snatched mine up before and would like to do it to some of the kids I've seen.

 

[vraiblonde]

I would much rather be the one to get control of their kid if they act up. Have you seen the way kids interact with their parents these days???

Kids are always more likely to act like buttheads when their parents are around. It was the same with my kids - they were always better behaved as a guest in someone's house if I wasn't there.

 

[Bronwyn]

I think that I would stay if I was really good friends with the parents. There have been parties that we were invites to (birthdays for the children of friends) where the kids didn't even know one another. We were invited to attend as a family. For example we are going to a party at my husbands co-workers house for his son.
If my son got an invitation for a party from a child that was a friend of his, I would be more inclined to drop him off and leave.

 

[BadGirl]

I'd be more pissed off that the parents gave you such a 'tude when you told them to come get their kids when the party was over with.

 

[poster]

I don't like it when the parents leave, I stay. This year was the first time I did leave my daughter at an outdoor party (after offer by the host) and came back at designated time. When I returned she had allowed the kids to walk the neighborhood. I specifically asked before I left her if they would be staying at the house/yard. I was told yes. When I got there the yard was empty and all the family was inside. The mother met me at the door and said "they went for a walk, I'm not sure which way they went, they should be back soon". She'll never go back, I was so pi**ed.

 

[poster]

Also, because I prefer the parents stay our parties are a cookout with family and friends w/ kids. I let my daughter invite 2 friends from school, I expect that they will probably be left. I'm usually busy and don't feel I could watch more than that anyway.

 

[vegmom]

I think it's up to the host and should take the location (in the house? at a park? the local kiddie entertainment trap?) into account as well as the kids' ages.

I've never left my daughter at a party without asking what time I should return and giving the host parent my cellphone # in case of an emergency.

 

[cashncarry]

The bigger question should be "How well do you know the adult hosts of the kids birthday party?" If I didn't know them my kid would not be staying at all without me or I'd stay so that I could get to know them. Some of what I'm reading in hear speaks to overly protective parents. When a child is 6 or 7 they should be able to try out their wings and go to a friend's birthday party without Mama and Papa Bird hovering.

 

[cashncarry]

I don't like it when the parents leave, I stay. This year was the first time I did leave my daughter at an outdoor party (after offer by the host) and came back at designated time. When I returned she had allowed the kids to walk the neighborhood. I specifically asked before I left her if they would be staying at the house/yard. I was told yes. When I got there the yard was empty and all the family was inside. The mother met me at the door and said "they went for a walk, I'm not sure which way they went, they should be back soon". She'll never go back, I was so pi**ed.

I would be furious too and would have made that abundantly clear to the host. In this day and age it's plain stupid to let kids roam around alone. Did any of them have a cell phone so they could call if there was a problem?

 

[poster]

The bigger question should be "How well do you know the adult hosts of the kids birthday party?" If I didn't know them my kid would not be staying at all without me or I'd stay so that I could get to know them. Some of what I'm reading in hear speaks to overly protective parents. When a child is 6 or 7 they should be able to try out their wings and go to a friend's birthday party without Mama and Papa Bird hovering.

I wouldn't say I'm over protective. I wouldn't want 10-12 kids dropped on me to watch so I don't drop off mine. I did that once and look how that worked out. After a certain age the party thing is over anyway, it's not cool anymore.

 

[poster]

I would be furious too and would have made that abundantly clear to the host. In this day and age it's plain stupid to let kids roam around alone. Did any of them have a cell phone so they could call if there was a problem?

Nope - the birthday girl, 9yrs, was the oldest. They went totally out of sight through the neighborhood and into a wooded area to pet a neighboring farms horses. No adults present. I waited 25min for them to come back, I was told they'd already been gone for about 30min. I didn't say anything to the mother but she knew I was ticked.

 

[aps45819]

Nope - the birthday girl, 9yrs, was the oldest. They went totally out of sight through the neighborhood and into a wooded area to pet a neighboring farms horses. No adults present. I waited 25min for them to come back, I was told they'd already been gone for about 30min. I didn't say anything to the mother but she knew I was ticked.

Why didn't you just go get her?
Did your righteous indignation feel good?

 

[Geek]

Me either. When I was a kid, I went to the party and my Mom picked me up afterward. So did all the other Moms. Same with my kids, both parties they were going to and parties we hosted.

But I didn't have any kids in my class who were sickly and required constant medical attention, either. And none of my kids had friends like that. There was one little girl with all kinds of stupid crap that her overprotective Mommy wanted to make sure I knew about. This kid was never invited back.

Damn

 

[poster]

Why didn't you just go get her?
Did your righteous indignation feel good?

From where - she had no idea where she was!!!!! Should I wander aimlessly through a neighborhood I know nothing about? Had more time passed I probably would have. And no nothing about not knowing where your child is feels good.

 

[aps45819]

They went into a wooded area to pet a neighboring farms horses.

From where - she had no idea where she was!!!!!

Through the woods to where the horses are

 

[poster]

Through the woods to where the horses are

Read my posts, I only new that information after they returned. The only info I had was the mother saying, "they went for a walk, I'm not sure which way they went, they should be back soon".

 

[Geek]

Screw that ####. I stay with my kids. Too many freaks. I have heard too many stories of kids getting sexually abused and these ####ers look at a busy party as an opportunity.

 

[cattitude]

I'm amazed my children grew up to be adults.

 

[poster]

Screw that ####. I stay with my kids. Too many freaks. I have heard too many stories of kids getting sexually abused and these ####ers look at a busy party as an opportunity.

Yeah that!!

We have a family member with a BF we don't trust so therefor this family member is only allowed to visit our daughter, she is not allowed to go anywhere with them alone or to their house.

We look at it like this - maybe I hurt your feelings, but guess what? You'll get over it. Will I ever be able to live with myself if I let them have her "just this once" and something happens? Don't think so.

 

[mlseskar]

It depends. Most time I stay, unless it is a really close family friend that I would be willing to leave them alone. But, the whole family is invited to those close parties.

I would have been furious if I went to pick up my child and were told that they went for a walk and not sure which way they went.