Living with Parents at 27
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Bay_Kat
Tropical
I'm fearing this is the new norm. Please someone convince me I'm wrong...
I'm pretty sure you're not wrong. So sad.
Chasey_Lane
Salt Life
I'm fearing this is the new norm. Please someone convince me I'm wrong...
If you treat your 15 year old like a 3 year old, they will live with you at 30. If you treat your 15 year old like an adult, who is supposed to be independent, has responsibilities, is accountable for their actions, and has a set of household rules to follow, they will be out of the house and flourishing.
kwillia
n/a
Oh I get all of that... but what us parents have zero control over is them actually being able to afford to move out when they are still starting out in a career. I moved out at the age of 19 and split the cost of renting a house with a friend. But back in the 90s you could rent a house for under a thousand and utilities, food and gas to get back and forth to work was a drop in the bucket compared to what those expenses are today. You know how much a 2 bedroom apartment cost today.If you treat your 15 year old like a 3 year old, they will live with you at 30. If you treat your 15 year old like an adult, who is supposed to be independent, has responsibilities, is accountable for their actions, and has a set of household rules to follow, they will be out of the house and flourishing.
The reality is their income just doesn't cover what needs to be covered each month if they lived on their own.
mAlice
professional daydreamer
and that's pretty much the bottom line...the economy. Even when my daughter attempted to make it on her own, she had a roommate that didn't pay on time, didn't contribute to the food bill (but was happy to help consume it). Given a choice, who would you choose? Family.
Chasey_Lane
Salt Life
You make it work. If living with roommates is the answer to paying all of your bills, that's what happens.
Chasey_Lane
Salt Life
Around $900 - $1200 would be my guess.
mAlice
professional daydreamer
That's about right...at least, last time I looked. Pretty steep for entry level anything.
Wenchy
Hot Flash
I'm starting a new life at the age of 48. I can relate.
My first home (1600 sq ft/ 3 bedrooms/2/1/2 baths) my PITA was <$500.
2nd WAS $550. A Sears Craftsman with french doors/ attic/ basement and a gourmet kitchen.
3rd was a brand new little cape with a $750 PITA ( I know this is PITI, but PITA sounds more appropriate at the moment)
I am now in a 1000 sq ft apt with 2 bedrooms/ 2 baths. Rent is $960/month.
The last thing I will do is move in with my parents or my sibling with the huge McMansion who is now unemployed.
Hard times out there.
The reality is I won't make much more out there than I did with my first home purchase...if I can even find a job. Lucky for me, I did make investments and buried money here and there.
It's still no excuse for these bratty kids singing about living off Mommy and Daddy.
I do want my daughter to move from NYC back to Salisbury.
She refuses. She loves the city life.However, my last destination will be back to my relatives.
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MadDogMarine
New Member
I'm fearing this is the new norm. Please someone convince me I'm wrong...
Wait until this guys grandparents move in with him due to the economy!
Both of my kids moved out right after high school. The daughter was back briefly when she flunked out of college after the first effing year (not that I'm still bitter about that 
lol), but then she left again and started her grown up life. Son hasn't lived with me since the day before he left for boot camp.
If it's expected that they grow up and get their own life, they will. There are also a lot of parents who like having their adult kid still living at home, and that's fine.
lol), but then she left again and started her grown up life. Son hasn't lived with me since the day before he left for boot camp.If it's expected that they grow up and get their own life, they will. There are also a lot of parents who like having their adult kid still living at home, and that's fine.
Hank
my war
kwillia
n/a
So son joined military... they put the roof over his head so that doesn't count as moving out on his own. If I recall correctly, didn't daughter leave college and move in with a boyfriend? Cause leaving your house and going to a college dorm wasn't "doing it on her own" and leaving college and moving in with a guy wasn't "doing it on her own"...:shrug:Both of my kids moved out right after high school. The daughter was back briefly when she flunked out of college after the first effing year (not that I'm still bitter about that
If it's expected that they grow up and get their own life, they will. There are also a lot of parents who like having their adult kid still living at home, and that's fine.
bcp
In My Opinion
If you treat your 15 year old like an adult, who is supposed to be independent, has responsibilities, is accountable for their actions, and has a set of household rules to follow, they will hate you and consider you the worst parents ever to be placed on earth and will not be able to wait to be out of the house and flourishing.
But they will still expect you to pay for the car, college and the dorm,, because you are their parents, and they love you come time to write the checks each month.
Bay_Kat
Tropical
My son is 23 and was so lucky, right out of high school he got an amazing job, owns his home, has trucks cars and all kinds of toys and still has the same job. I'm so proud of him. I think the video irritated me because the kid doesn't seem to think there is anything wrong and the part where he's just playing video games irks me.
Why doesn't joining the military count as moving out on his own?
And daughter didn't live with a boyfriend - she had a female roommate. Or does that not count as moving out on her own either? Because if that's the case, I just moved out on my own 6 years ago and you never have.
desertrat
0_0
Yep, I moved out and lived in a big gray floating apartment at 19 after trying the junior college for a while. From there on I always had my own place.