Marriage counseling

nachomama · Jan 22, 2009

As much as I love Warnutz, I'm sooooo happy I'm single. :lol:

vraiblonde · Jan 22, 2009

SoMDGirl42 said:
It amazes me how many men I know that have attended marriage counseling, only to realize when the therapist isn't going to have sympathy and coddle him, agreeing with every horrible thing he has to say about his wife, therapy session over and so is the marriage.

Only if they really want to save the relationship can it sometimes help. When they just want justification for their wrongs, don't bother. IMO.

Well, there's a flipside to that, too. :lol:

SoMDGirl42 · Jan 22, 2009

jetmonkey said:
I don't know any men like that. Amazing.

I know one woman like that too. Amazing. :killingme

frbdnrose · Jan 22, 2009

We did it about 10 years ago, it helped a lot! Although...... we are back in it now..... but that is because he is wrong and I am right! It is helping, he seems to sleep with both eyes shut now, and I have put the shotgun back in the cabinet.

theArtistFormerlyKnownAs · Jan 22, 2009

sanchezf said:
See I am a very brutally honest person to the point where I sometimes hurt people feelings (not intentionally) so why do I need to tell someone else, I'm already telling you the honest truth, now lets do something about it.. end of story..

And in advance..I know folks, I haven't been married, so some of you throw my input out the window in advance...to those who care: I've always been one to be completely open about any issues I'm having, especially in a relationship, and it has worked out great for *us* both talking openly about problems...If you talk openly then the worst issue you could come up with is realizing someone isn't willing to change an aspect of themselves for you, which isn't all that bad because why would you want to be with someone who isn't going to make you happy?

Lay it all out on the table and then play the hand you've got.
Some people need help with this (counselor), but I'm all for open discussion of relationship issues :yay:

lovinmaryland · Jan 22, 2009

pcjohnnyb said:
And in advance..I know folks, I haven't been married, so some of you throw my input out the window in advance...to those who care: I've always been one to be completely open about any issues I'm having, especially in a relationship, and it has worked out great for *us* both talking openly about problems...If you talk openly then the worst issue you could come up with is realizing someone isn't willing to change an aspect of themselves for you, which isn't all that bad because why would you want to be with someone who isn't going to make you happy?

Lay it all out on the table and then play the hand you've got.
Some people need help with this (counselor), but I'm all for open discussion of relationship issues

get out of this thread you arent married and never have been :howdy:

theArtistFormerlyKnownAs · Jan 22, 2009

lovinmaryland said:
get out of this thread you arent married and never have been

New form of torture: forcing terrorists to read all of my posts on SOMD.com :roflmao:

vraiblonde · Jan 22, 2009

lovinmaryland said:
get out of this thread you arent married and never have been

This could have been an interesting thread, but now that Mr. Know It All is here, it's tarded up.

You kids have fun.

nachomama · Jan 22, 2009

vraiblonde said:
This could have been an interesting thread, but now that Mr. Know It All is here, it's tarded up.

You kids have fun.

This place is full of new siggy quotes today. roflmao:

theArtistFormerlyKnownAs · Jan 22, 2009

It never ceases to amaze me how one person's input can affect so many people :lmao:

If you don't give a flying F what I think then why would it mean anything at all to you? :smile:

Pete · Jan 22, 2009

pcjohnnyb said:
It never ceases to amaze me how one person's input can affect so many people
If you don't give a flying F what I think then why would it mean anything at all to you?

Ever get a rock in your shoe?

Radiant1 · Jan 22, 2009

My ex and I were in marriage counseling no less than 3 times over the years, the last time for 9 months straight. We're divorcing now.

Kain99 · Jan 22, 2009

Lee refuses marriage counseling. He feels it's a total rip off. "If two people can't talk to each other they need a divorce."

lovinmaryland · Jan 22, 2009

Kain99 said:
Lee refuses marriage counseling. He feels it's a total rip off. "If two people can't talk to each other they need a divorce."

Big B was the same way... I kinda forced him to go.. so that probably didnt help matters :lol:

Is it terrible that come Sunday I am pulling my hair out because he is driving me up a friggin wall :lmao:

vraiblonde · Jan 22, 2009

Radiant1 said:
My ex and I were in marriage counseling no less than 3 times over the years, the last time for 9 months straight. We're divorcing now.

I'm trying to think if I've ever heard of anyone who's had successful marriage counseling, as in it helped them communicate and made their marriage stronger. I can't recall anyone off the top of my head - everyone I know who's gone to counseling ended up divorcing or separating.

rack'm · Jan 22, 2009

Like Vrai said, it greatly depends on the counselor

Both parties have to give 110%, fight fair and don’t keep score…….if you can’t follow these simple rules, you need to find someone that is willing to. :coffee:

SShewbert · Jan 22, 2009

vraiblonde said:
I'm trying to think if I've ever heard of anyone who's had successful marriage counseling, as in it helped them communicate and made their marriage stronger. I can't recall anyone off the top of my head - everyone I know who's gone to counseling ended up divorcing or separating.

We tried it and we have not divorced or separated, but it did not work either. As the masses have said it made us fight worst. We finally decided that it was gonna take us talking to each other and working on it ourselves without adding another person into the mix in order to get it to work.

theArtistFormerlyKnownAs · Jan 22, 2009

vraiblonde said:
I'm trying to think if I've ever heard of anyone who's had successful marriage counseling, as in it helped them communicate and made their marriage stronger. I can't recall anyone off the top of my head - everyone I know who's gone to counseling ended up divorcing or separating.

At least you get someone's opinion of "why" you're seperating. :lmao:

Pandora · Jan 22, 2009

Kain99 said:
Lee refuses marriage counseling. He feels it's a total rip off. "If two people can't talk to each other they need a divorce."

Then leave! :shrug:

When your shiat is packed and you've put a deposit down on a place - that attitude may change things quick! :shrug: If it doesn't, it was for the best but if it does, there is a side worth having and living in everyday. Life is far too short to be miserable.

But there is a flip side to counseling, you may find out that not all the problems that exist are HIS fault, or HER fault, but a joint effort in the mess that is created over time and relinquishing control on both ends is hard to do but worth it in the end.

To the thread start, good luck!

LordStanley · Jan 22, 2009

vraiblonde said:
This could have been an interesting thread, but now that Mr. Know It All is here, it's tarded up.

You kids have fun.

Hes not a tard. thank you!

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