Mommy Guilt

[slotpuppy]

These threads on child care/raising always crack me up.

you always find someone that has a newish child, and suddenly the moment the baby plops out the clam, they are experts on children from day one to middle age.
The reality? children are different, children change as they grow.
What you think is right today you may find out is wrong tomorrow.

There are no experts, there is nobody here (including me) that has a better grasp on it than anyone else.

But the biggest fraud of the advice crowd is the one giving advice on how to handle a 5 year old when their own oldest is maybe 1.

Be careful who you take advice from, be it medical or child rearing.
People do like to pretend to be experts on this stuff.

You really screwed up raising skillet girl cause she is so much smarter than you are.

 

[bcp]

You really screwed up raising skillet girl cause she is so much smarter than you are.

Um,
Thanks and F you very much?

not sure how to respond.

 

[withrespect]

Um,
Thanks and F you very much?

not sure how to respond.

You respond with "This is why I hate everyone."

 

[bcp]

You respond with "This is why I hate everyone."

You mean, why I hate everyone except withrespect?

 

[withrespect]

You mean, why I hate everyone except withrespect?

Of course.

 

[ZARA]

I run for the door to get away from them, especially on Mondays. I'm such a horrible mother.

This does NOT make you a bad mommy. This makes you a WOMAN that needs some personal time. I think it's one of the reasons I wake so early, so I can have at least two hours of total solitude.

 

[Roman]

This does NOT make you a bad mommy. This makes you a WOMAN that needs some personal time. I think it's one of the reasons I wake so early, so I can have at least two hours of total solitude.

I thought your Kids were grown?

 

[KDENISE977]

And this little face makes all the stress and worry of being bad mommy/good mommy worth every lost minute of sleep...today, it was a good day

 

[ZARA]

I thought your Kids were grown?

My youngest will be 18 this year and still lives at home. I still need my solitude because when the family is home, I am on demand. I value silence and enjoy being alone. Drives my husband NUTS. So I get my solitude in the mornings when the entire world is sleeping. It's tranquility for me. It was a habit I started years ago..now I can't sleep in.