Mother-in law babysitting children

[lovinmaryland]

I paid 100%.

Isn't there a few year waiting list for the child care program? Chit there was a waiting list at my boys school when i tried to get them in the schools before and after program.

 

[vraiblonde]

He should ask her to stop, thats your house not hers!

I agree. MIL is definitely intruding on your turf and being rude. I wouldn't like my OWN mother doing my laundry, let alone my MIL. Just because they've agreed to do you a favor doesn't give them the right to take advantage and invade your privacy.

So either cut her loose and pay for child care, or quit your job. Family harmony is at stake.

 

[Qurious]

I'm going to agree with Qurious on this...

I certainly would LOVE someone to do my laundry for me during the day. And FREE childcare - at my home to boot - I would LOVE that. Plus, it's your MIL, so you KNOW the kids are being well taken care of and loved - cause it's Grandma! I know her moving things around can be annoying, but just move them back, or rearrange them a completely different way - it could be like a game!

and she better not say anything either....mess around the MIL will start charging!!!

 

[sockgirl77]

Isn't there a few year waiting list for the child care program? Chit there was a waiting list at my boys school when i tried to get them in the schools before and after program.

Starmaker got my 2 year old right in but there was no infant spot open for the baby. I had no problem finding spots for the both of them down here.

 

[Qurious]

I agree. MIL is definitely intruding on your turf and being rude. I wouldn't like my OWN mother doing my laundry, let alone my MIL. Just because they've agreed to do you a favor doesn't give them the right to take advantage and invade your privacy.

So either cut her loose and pay for child care, or quit your job. Family harmony is at stake.

its not like the MIL is smelling her drawls or anything - gimmie a break "invading my privacy" cuz she's doing her laundry???!!!

Wives submit to your husbands. Its his mom and he's the one working...she really needs to fall back and let him do what he does best which is to take care of home and provide someone to watch their children...who best than the MIL?

Otherwise wifey needs to get her ass up and get a good job for child care...let the costs kick her ass for a few months until she realizes how foolish she was being to let her MIL stop watching her kids.

 

[Cowgirl]

I agree. MIL is definitely intruding on your turf and being rude. I wouldn't like my OWN mother doing my laundry, let alone my MIL. Just because they've agreed to do you a favor doesn't give them the right to take advantage and invade your privacy.

So either cut her loose and pay for child care, or quit your job. Family harmony is at stake.

The MIL probably doesn't even know she's hurting anybody's feelings! The husband probably doesn't want to seem like a jerk for telling her to stop helping out around the house. :shrug:

I know when I go visit someone else's house, I want to help them....do dishes, prepare meals, etc. I feel like a lazy bum if I sit there and let them do all of the work. Most relatives that visit us ask for chores to do so they can help out. :shrug: It's being polite. If MissMissy doesn't want her MIL to help out, she needs to keep her house spotless, or better yet, just politely say, "I know you're trying to help out, and I really appreciate all you do for us [for free and without being asked] but it makes me uncomfortable."

 

[nanstime]

My mom has pigs salt and pepper shakers. We rearrange them to hump.

I gotta ask Do you and hubby? hump? or do you stack the pigs salt and pepper shakers up to look like they are humping?

 

[Chasey_Lane]

How much of that was being paid by the childcare program?And how much were your co-pays?

How do I take advantage of said childcare program? I'd like to use that extra money on boxed pancakes for breakfast.

 

[cattitude]

Wives submit to your husbands.

sure

 

[K_Jo]

I gotta ask Do you and hubby? hump? or do you stack the pigs salt and pepper shakers up to look like they are humping?

 

[vraiblonde]

I know when I go visit someone else's house, I want to help them....do dishes, prepare meals, etc.

When I go to someone's house as a guest, I help with cooking and clean-up but I would never presume to go digging in their dirty clothes basket and throw in a load of their laundry. That crosses a boundary.

Underwear is sacred and not for MILs to handle.

 

[RoseRed]

Otherwise wifey needs to get her ass up and get a good job for child care...let the costs kick her ass for a few months until she realizes how foolish she was being to let her MIL stop watching her kids.

Okay my husband and I have been fighting ever since his mother has been babysitting our kids while we are at work.

She has a job.

 

[cattitude]

When I go to someone's house as a guest, I help with cooking and clean-up but I would never presume to go digging in their dirty clothes basket and throw in a load of their laundry. That crosses a boundary.

Underwear is sacred and not for MILs to handle.

You won't be watching Boy.

 

[Qurious]

She has a job.

READING IS FUNDAMENTAL...

I said get a good job FOR CHILD CARE.


you and hubby are working and u still can't afford child care?

get a better job!! UPGRADE!!

 

[milkshake]

How do I take advantage of said childcare program? I'd like to use that extra money on boxed pancakes for breakfast.

Its a program through social services ,they help pay your childcare.

 

[RoseRed]

READING IS FUNDAMENTAL...

I said get a good job FOR CHILD CARE.


you and hubby are working and u still can't afford child care?

get a better job!! UPGRADE!!

Maybe she has no skills other than McDonald's. :shrug:

 

[Qurious]

Its a program through social services ,they help pay your childcare.

You basically have to live in poverty to qualify or work at Walmart full time.

 

[vraiblonde]

You won't be watching Boy.

I might watch him, but I'm NOT washing Pete's skivvies.

They have a perfectly good trampoline to play on so I can't imagine that I would waste any time on underpants.

 

[Cowgirl]

When I go to someone's house as a guest, I help with cooking and clean-up but I would never presume to go digging in their dirty clothes basket and throw in a load of their laundry. That crosses a boundary.

Underwear is sacred and not for MILs to handle.

You wouldn't catch me dead in some else's laundry...but MIL probably has no clue she's offending wifey-poo.

All it takes is for wifey-poo to grow a sack and tell MIL it bothers her....she shouldn't put her husband in the middle.

 

[cattitude]

I might watch him, but I'm NOT washing Pete's skivvies.

They have a perfectly good trampoline to play on so I can't imagine that I would waste any time on underpants.

I'm old, I don't heal well.