Mother-in law babysitting children

[lovinmaryland]

Please explain to us what exactly it is that she's moving. Maybe that will "shed a little light" on things.

yeah, watch it be stuff from the goody drawer

 

[vraiblonde]

At least Vrai disagreed with me publicly...so much for discussing ideas.

Tweren't me. I don't give red karma just because I disagree.

 

[migtig]

Somehow I don't think that's going to work, considering MIL is pissed because Missy moved stuff around IN HER OWN HOUSE.

I'll trade my roommate for her mother-in-law.

 

[vraiblonde]

You should get a hotel for a couple of nights

Get the hell out of here! SHE should get a hotel room and leave her home because her MIL is being a cow????

I don't think so.

 

[Oz]

SHE should get a hotel room and leave her home because her MIL is being a cow????

 

[snuzzy]

To everyone that thinks my MIL is a perfect little angel. I just got a call from my husband. MIL is mad b/c I moved things around when she moved them yesterday. Shes manipulative. Now hes mad b/c she was so upset. WTF!!!!!

Not saying that she is a perfect angel, or that you shouldn't be upset by things being moved. I was only suggesting that you deal with it in a more forward fasion with your MIL, not ask hubby to stick up for you. This seems to be "case in point", he's not taking your side in this, and you have moved things after she moved things, so you are all upset and nothing has been discussed "in the open". I had a friend's marriage break up over something similar. He (the husband ...was upset with the wife's mother always being in their home doing all the "wifey" things he thought she should be doing, even though she had a full time job...so they kept on like you are now and their marriage/relationship fell apart. I'm just suggesting that you talk things over, with all parties involved and come to some compromise, or at least to agree to disagree, before it gets to that point. LexiGirl's suggestion to go to a hotel for a couple of nights might not be a bad idea, have a "cooling off" period (but let hubby know upfront that that is what it is so he doesn't feel abandoned, I'm not into game playing...), then make a date, place and time to meet with him and MIL to explain your feelings... Good luck!

 

[Roberta]

To all you ladies who would be perfectly fine with your MIL doing your laundry:

(Don't listen, guys)

When you have your monthly visitor, occasionally there is a little leakage. Do you REALLY want your MIL hitting that with the stain remover? Really?

Why the He!! not?? She is a woman and knows about theses things and she is FAMILY!!! If you were rich enough to afford a maid, she would have to deal with it. Have you ever had to send your clothes out to be washed?

 

[snuzzy]

Somehow I don't think that's going to work, considering MIL is pissed because Missy moved stuff around IN HER OWN HOUSE.

I don't think it will work either, at least not as far as the MIL goes, but she needs to show hubby that she can stand up for herself, and at least make an attempt to get along with his mommy, since she is obviously very important to him!

 

[snuzzy]

Tweren't me. I don't give red karma just because I disagree.

I know, that's why I used you as an example, you disagree like and adult!

 

[vraiblonde]

I don't think it will work either, at least not as far as the MIL goes, but she needs to show hubby that she can stand up for herself, and at least make an attempt to get along with his mommy, since she is obviously very important to him!

You know, after I got done being pissed, I'd probably have to have some fun with this. Put the knicknacks in the refrigerator, put the Comet in with the dishes. When Mom puts them back in their "rightful" place, do it again the next day. See how long it takes before you can drive her crazy.

 

[vraiblonde]

Have the neighbors bring over all of their laundry so Mom is confronted with these enormous piles of dirty clothes.

 

[vraiblonde]

Make a fake love letter to myself from someone named Jean Claude and leave it in my bedside table.

 

[LexiGirl75]

Get the hell out of here! SHE should get a hotel room and leave her home because her MIL is being a cow????

I don't think so.

My reasoning is, they will see how upset she is and let her win. :shrug:

 

[LexiGirl75]

I don't think it will work either, at least not as far as the MIL goes, but she needs to show hubby that she can stand up for herself, and at least make an attempt to get along with his mommy, since she is obviously very important to him!

If MIL goes home in the evening and wifey bounces off to the hotel right after and hubby is left with them bebes you know he will cave, I seriously doubt she would even have to stay an extra night.

Worse case scenairo MIL comes back to take care of kids and hubby and at that point she needs to put foot up two adults azzes.

 

[snuzzy]

If MIL goes home in the evening and wifey bounces off to the hotel right after and hubby is left with them bebes you know he will cave, I seriously doubt she would even have to stay an extra night.

Worse case scenairo MIL comes back to take care of kids and hubby and at that point she needs to put foot up two adults azzes.

My MIL, before she was my MIL, went to a hotel b/c hubby wasn't giving her enough support with disciplining/chores, etc. My husband is scarred by that to this day! I have to thank her, 'cause I only have to threaten and it straightens his azz right up!!

 

[LexiGirl75]

My MIL, before she was my MIL, went to a hotel b/c hubby wasn't giving her enough support with disciplining/chores, etc. My husband is scarred by that to this day! I have to thank her, 'cause I only have to threaten and it straightens his azz right up!!

Don't you like when someone else paves the way.

 

[river rat]

Okay my husband and I have been fighting ever since his mother has been babysitting our kids while we are at work. My problem is that she baby sits them at our house. I don't like the fact that every single day she is over there. On top of it she does things that drives me crazy like moving things around to where she wants them, washing my clothes, the list goes on and on. He says I'm acting like a "little girl". I asked him to ask her to just babysit the kids. He won't do it. He says there is nothing wrong with what she is doing. It's driving me crazy. We can't afford to put them in daycare right now. Am I wrong and am I acting like a little girl or should he respect me and ask her to stop?

I can't make my decision on this topic until you elaborate on the "things"

What are these things?

 

[maxima87]

Is it just your laundry you have a problem with her doing, or you childrens as well? Perhaps you could put the kids dirty clothes and yours and hubbys in a different basket? My mother also watches my children for me and does the laundry...I have no complaints but if it were a problem that is what I would do.

Now what are these "things" she is moving? Are they items that she uses everyday to take care of the children with? If so, maybe she is doing that to make life easier for her while she is caring for your children. My mother rearranged certain things in my house for just that reason. Is she moving knick knacks to keep the children from breaking them? If that is the case, you could reason with her on the word NO. Are the children walking yet? She may be moving things for their saftey. There are all different reasons that this could be happening. I could understand her being upset if she did it to make life easier during child care hours, such as the changing station or whatever you may have.

Perhaps you could rearrange your room and then make a big deal out of it. Tell her..."Wow...I finally got the room how I want it...it is perfect! I hope it stays like this!" I understand it is your house, but being that it is in home FREE childcare (with the exception of a headache), I would be up for a compromise. However, this is YOUR life, and this is just a message board with individual opinions. Just my $.02.

 

[kom526]

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They have a perfectly good trampoline to play on so I can't imagine that I would waste any time on underpants.

I'll bring the Cherry Wheat and a camera.

 

[baileydog]

You know, after I got done being pissed, I'd probably have to have some fun with this. Put the knicknacks in the refrigerator, put the Comet in with the dishes. When Mom puts them back in their "rightful" place, do it again the next day. See how long it takes before you can drive her crazy.

I just love your wicked side.