Mothers owning up to having a favourite child

[toppick08]

You sound like a lovely son. I think people feel that about most people visiting. Sometimes you need your own privacy to relax and stuff.
Whereabouts does your mum live?.Nice time to come.I enjoyed last Autumn here .However I am an Autumn person .
I am so silly I am getting excited about the corn maze

Brandon, Mississippi..........

 

[marthajean]

My favorite was always the one I was holding at the time. It pains me beacause my daughter favors her son so much over her daughter. She doesn't see it and gets angry if anyone brings it up to her.

 

[frozenrain]

Brandon, Mississippi..........

My next door neighbour in England was from Mississippi. She told me quite a bit about Mississippi. I hope to visit her one day. She went back about 3 months before we left. Quite a long way away.

 

[frozenrain]

My favorite was always the one I was holding at the time. It pains me beacause my daughter favors her son so much over her daughter. She doesn't see it and gets angry if anyone brings it up to her.

That must be hard to see. You wonder if she realizes she is doing it?

 

[camily]

Yes, I love them equally, but there are differences.
Oldest- Love her in a special way because she is y first.
Middle- Love him in a special way becaus he is my only boy.
Youngest- Love her in a special way because she is my baby and has medical isues.
My oldest and I often struggle because, well, she is a 13 year old girl. She drives me nuts sometime. Does that make me a bad mom to admit it? I don;t think so. I love her to death, but she gets on my nerves sometimes. It's the whole "13" thing. She is excellent in school though and has alot of leadership skills. She better marry a man that likes to cook and clean because she is not about that!
My son has has issues as well. Smart mouth to start with. But he is brave and a great cook. He knows what he likes and doesn't like. He thrives on one on one time. He is a schmoozer. Teachers love him.
The baby, spoiled rotten but has the "it" factor. Does that make me a bad mom to admit it? I don't think so. She just has that something about her personality that stands out.
She is bossy and truely spoiled. I did this. I know it, I admit it.

 

[camily]

That must be hard to see. You wonder if she realizes she is doing it?

Of course she does, that's why she gets mad. I'm sure she loves them both with all her heart though.

 

[frozenrain]

Yes, I love them equally, but there are differences.
Oldest- Love her in a special way because she is y first.
Middle- Love him in a special way becaus he is my only boy.
Youngest- Love her in a special way because she is my baby and has medical isues.
My oldest and I often struggle because, well, she is a 13 year old girl. She drives me nuts sometime. Does that make me a bad mom to admit it? I don;t think so. I love her to death, but she gets on my nerves sometimes. It's the whole "13" thing. She is excellent in school though and has alot of leadership skills. She better marry a man that likes to cook and clean because she is not about that!
My son has has issues as well. Smart mouth to start with. But he is brave and a great cook. He knows what he likes and doesn't like. He thrives on one on one time. He is a schmoozer. Teachers love him.
The baby, spoiled rotten but has the "it" factor. Does that make me a bad mom to admit it? I don't think so. She just has that something about her personality that stands out.
She is bossy and truely spoiled. I did this. I know it, I admit it.

This topic is very complex. Yes my son is not aggressive in any way but he does 'talk back ' sometimes which can be annoying.However I alao remember my mum telling me to stop 'talking back' . Childrens brains are wired differently and have not fully developed.I have yet to meet a child that worries about turning the lights off.I remember being told'will you stop leaving the lights on' and you know I say that now to my children but as a child you just wonder what all the fuss is about and forget to do it....

There is a big difference between treating children differently because one is better at a sport than the other than because of behavioral issues or personality clash for example. I have seen this happen in another family where one son was really sporty and the other arty and the dad favoured the sporty son.....

 

[marthajean]

I will saw that now that they are grown I enjoy being with one more so than the others. It's easy and fun. My one daughter is hard to be around, she has become very judgemental and always telling all of us everything we do wrong. She has taken her husbands views on politics and religion and he is god to her and if anyone thinks differant than them they come right out and tell you.

 

[Cowgirl]

I worry when we get another dog that I won't love him/her as much as Scooter.

 

[DanceMom]

I love both my children. I have one of each, a boy and a girl and they both need different things from me. My daughter is older and is showing me that she is intelligent and ready to start doing things for herself - she is ready for Pre-K and is social, kind and a good friend. She wants to learn and do things. She wants to be a big girl.

My son has medical issues and needs more patience, love and time.

I take time for each of my children and explain when the other gets more. Neither seem to mind and both are growing healthy.

I'm a mom, I do the best I can and when I need help - I reach out to those who can help me with what I can't.

 

[Dymphna]

Doesn’t talk back, doesn’t ask for money and never complains about what’s for dinner!

My cat talks back all the time, she's very talkative, in fact, especially when she wants something. She's not as expensive as the children, but she does demand to be maintained in the manner to which she's become accustomed and heaven forbid you give her the wrong food or she WILL complain.

Now why did I have kids?

 

[Dymphna]

It may change day to day, hour by hour.

I keep threatening that one of these days I'm going to make one of my kids an only child. Just soon as I figure which one is worth keeping.

 

[SoMDGirl42]

My mother has a favorite. I'm not it, but I come in a close 6th place.

 

[frozenrain]

My mother has a favorite. I'm not it, but I come in a close 6th place.

Well that is not nice knowing.Obviously you do not want to put too much personal stuff on here but such a feeling must have repercussions in life...

 

[camily]

My mother has a favorite. I'm not it, but I come in a close 6th place.

I'm the third favorite. there are only three of us

 

[pixiegirl]

I am board mommy's favorite.


My favorite child is the one that's behaving.

 

[BadGirl]

I have a favorite, and I'm not afraid to admit it.





psssssst: I only have one.

 

[godsbutterfly]

I was #4 of 5 girls (no brothers). I wasn't anybody's favorite either and knew it so I swore I'd never do that to my kids. My favorite is always whichever one of my 3 kids or 2 step-kids needs me the most at the moment. My own are all grown - I hear from the girls everyday usually more than once a day (I think because they are at home with their babies.) and my son about 3 times a week. My step-kids live with us so no need for them to call!
I have a friend who will tell you straight up she loves her youngest son more than her 1st son. Says she "Just can't help it".

 

[camily]

I was my fathers favorite. The only one that looked and acted like him. I am my mothers least favorite. :shrug: I can do somthing that each of my sisters also does but I will be the one who hears about it. Forever. I get "the look" and scoffed at. They do no wrong. Ever.

 

[frozenrain]

I was #4 of 5 girls (no brothers). I wasn't anybody's favorite either and knew it so I swore I'd never do that to my kids. My favorite is always whichever one of my 3 kids or 2 step-kids needs me the most at the moment. My own are all grown - I hear from the girls everyday usually more than once a day (I think because they are at home with their babies.) and my son about 3 times a week. My step-kids live with us so no need for them to call!
I have a friend who will tell you straight up she loves her youngest son more than her 1st son. Says she "Just can't help it".

Does your friend not give any reasons for this?

I was my fathers favorite. The only one that looked and acted like him. I am my mothers least favorite. :shrug: I can do somthing that each of my sisters also does but I will be the one who hears about it. Forever. I get "the look" and scoffed at. They do no wrong. Ever.

That is tough. I think unless you go through this yourself people do not understand.... I am glad you were close to your father. Do you think your sisters noticed that you were your father's favourite and your mum tried to compensate?:shrug:
I was always a daddy's girl. ...