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[libertytyranny]

Doggy is killing me.

Seriously. I have undergone herculean efforts to get this dog to be part of the family, and he just can't do it. Poor thing is such a sweetheart and a love bug..but he is so strong and rough and will not listen to a word I say. He is the ex's dog, but he has zero interest in caring for him and I have been left to try to control him. hundreds of dollars for useless training, pills, powders..the dog is impossible. He needs a man to take care of him. He is semi-agressive with other dogs, and twice now has broken away from me and gotten into scraps with other dogs (to be fair, they were both in his yard and he mostly growled/nipped hasnt really hurt either of them) But he can jump out of his outdoor kennel, so I can't safely leave him there anymore (its like 8 foot high, he clears it from standing on the ground) he is able to break out of his cage indoors and will not listen to me to save his life. He isn't mean, he is very interested in the baby, but knocks her down without even meaning too..he is sweet to her, but does not know his own strength. I am at wits end with him. Taking him to the shelter is out of the question..if I have to continue like this for the rest of his life, I certainly will. Even if ex abandoned him, I won't. But here has to be something...I am getting to where I HATE the dog and I don't want to feel like that.

If I could find him a good home, I would let him go. he needs a single man who has the strength and mind to control him. He is STRONG.

I just don't know what to do, its upsetting and getting out of control. He was doing so much better with the outdoor kennel..but thats not an option anymore.

 

[StadEMS3]

What kind of dog? Pic? :shrug:

 

[libertytyranny]

He is sup to be a pit according to the jerkoff back yard breeder ex got him from, but he looks very american bulldog to me. He is a drop dead beautiful dog. Once I get my cell back I can get a pic up. he is white and brindle, really beautiful. and a HELL of a jumper, I will tell you that. if they had dog jumping competitions, he would take home the jackpot, for sure.

 

[kwillia]

He is sup to be a pit according to the jerkoff back yard breeder ex got him from, but he looks very american bulldog to me. He is a drop dead beautiful dog. Once I get my cell back I can get a pic up. he is white and brindle, really beautiful. and a HELL of a jumper, I will tell you that. if they had dog jumping competitions, he would take home the jackpot, for sure.

The ex can't take him?

 

[libertytyranny]

The ex can't take him?

Won't. He doesn't have anywhere to take him, really, hess taying with his parents now, and is on travel constantly// And when I told him to come get the damn dog, his only plan was to take him to the shelter, and I just don't think I could live with myself.

 

[Misfit]

All we heard is that you’re single now.

 

[libertytyranny]

Is there maybe a local rescue that would help me place him? I know they are full up..but If I continue to hold him, and just maybe use their contacts or have them list him/go to adoption events?

 

[Misfit]

Is there maybe a local rescue that would help me place him? I know they are full up..but If I continue to hold him, and just maybe use their contacts or have them list him/go to adoption events?

I had a German Shepard years ago and I took her to an animal rescue. They wanted $50 to take her. I sold her in the parking lot for $20 to a nice lady with 3 kids.

 

[nobody really]

Won't. He doesn't have anywhere to take him, really, hess taying with his parents now, and is on travel constantly// And when I told him to come get the damn dog, his only plan was to take him to the shelter, and I just don't think I could live with myself.

good luck to you, you've got a big heart.

 

[Nickel]

I don't have any answers for you but I think its great that you want to do right by this dog. We went through a rough patch with our pup a few years ago and I know how absolutely frustrating it can be to feel like some punk dog is running your life. Luckily we were able to turn it around and now we have a wonderful, loving family pet but I know it doesn't end that way for most.

 

[vraiblonde]

If it were me, I would dump the dog off at ex's parents' house. Then I would walk away with the affirmation that this was never my problem in the first place, I merely allowed someone to make it my problem, and now that problem once again belongs to its rightful owner. Then I would spend my time on things that *are* my problem and never think about that other person's problem again.

 

[Sharon]

he can jump out of his outdoor kennel, so I can't safely leave him there anymore (its like 8 foot high, he clears it from standing on the ground

If it's a chain link kennel how about adding a chain link roof. Then you can put a tarp over it to protect him from the weather. I'm not suggesting leaving him out there permanently, but it would give you some relief inside the house for a few hours.

Also, do you walk him frequently? Maybe he just needs some way to burn off the energy.

For my dogs, a long walk is usually followed by a good nap.

 

[vraiblonde]

And if the ex takes the dog to the shelter...well...that's on his karma, not yours.

 

[libertytyranny]

If it's a chain link kennel how about adding a chain link roof. Then you can put a tarp over it to protect him from the weather. I'm not suggesting leaving him out there permanently, but it would give you some relief inside the house for a few hours.

Also, do you walk him frequently? Maybe he just needs some way to burn off the energy.

For my dogs, a long walk is usually followed by a good nap.

I can't walk him, that was the idea behind the outside kennel..I cannot physically control him and it is completely irresponsible for me to walk him knowing this. If he were to see a dog or something he wanted, I couldn't stop him and if he hurt someone/something I would be culpable and rightly so. He has already given me a black eye, a permanent scar on my ankle and sprained my finger in attempts to get at other dogs/people (not in an unfriendly way, either..just excited) just in the few feet from the kennel to the house.

I am working on getting a roof for now, but its pretty clear he needs a different owner/home.

 

[libertytyranny]

If it were me, I would dump the dog off at ex's parents' house. Then I would walk away with the affirmation that this was never my problem in the first place, I merely allowed someone to make it my problem, and now that problem once again belongs to its rightful owner. Then I would spend my time on things that *are* my problem and never think about that other person's problem again.

I wish. But it is a living creature, not an ugly sofa or velvet dogs-playing- poker painting. His fate rests on me. there have been a few times (notably after he sprained my finger) that I wanted nothing more than to drop his dumb ass off somewhere. But the poor thing isn't mean or evil..just stupid and exciteable. and unfortunately his strength and size make it something not easily dealt with.

 

[Misfit]

But the poor thing isn't mean or evil..just stupid and exciteable. and unfortunately his strength and size make it something not easily dealt with.

Creepy.....You just described me.

 

[vraiblonde]

His fate rests on me.

No, you have chosen to take on your ex's responsibility.

Let me ask you, though: who do you suppose is going to take a dog that is that big and powerful, and that unruly on top of it? Barring taking the dog back to its owner, my suggestion is to have it put down. I don't know what other choice you have.

 

[libertytyranny]

No, you have chosen to take on your ex's responsibility.

Let me ask you, though: who do you suppose is going to take a dog that is that big and powerful, and that unruly on top of it? Barring taking the dog back to its owner, my suggestion is to have it put down. I don't know what other choice you have.

I think he would be fine with someone bigger and burlier than me. He seems to respond to men. I don't have the strength or forceful voice to reign him in. I sound like a barbie on speed and Im fairly small.

Ive thought about putting him down, thats how bad its gotten..but the poor thing is so loving

 

[ICit]

No, you have chosen to take on your ex's responsibility.

Let me ask you, though: who do you suppose is going to take a dog that is that big and powerful, and that unruly on top of it? Barring taking the dog back to its owner, my suggestion is to have it put down. I don't know what other choice you have.

I dont think he needs that... i think he needs someone that can be his leader and show him the right way. also someone who is willing to commit to the job of helping him, learning the right way to work out his energy,

not all dogs are suited for everyone... i have many people ask about GSD's and the Bloodhound... and both are working dogs and both need jobs.


I do think there is hope for this dog..but if she cant commit to walking him and working with him each day... day in and day out then he does need to find another home.

I have offered to meet her down in solomons to eval him and help train him and HER..... but training is never a one time thing... its all about repetition!!

 

[struggler44]

I can't walk him, that was the idea behind the outside kennel..I cannot physically control him and it is completely irresponsible for me to walk him knowing this. If he were to see a dog or something he wanted, I couldn't stop him and if he hurt someone/something I would be culpable and rightly so. He has already given me a black eye, a permanent scar on my ankle and sprained my finger in attempts to get at other dogs/people (not in an unfriendly way, either..just excited) just in the few feet from the kennel to the house.

I am working on getting a roof for now, but its pretty clear he needs a different owner/home.

What about an obedience class and a shock collar? Tell ur ex to pay for it;