No Sex With Wife After seeing Her Give Birth

[Misfit]

A husband confesses: 'Seeing my wife give birth put me off sex for a YEAR!' | Mail Online

Neither of us said anything, but I could sense we were thinking the same thing. As we lay there, side-by-side in the darkness, a chasm was growing between us.

I longed to reach over and draw my wife Diana to my side, but something stopped me. I felt frozen to the spot, my stomach in knots and my heart pounding.

The problem? We hadn’t had sex for more than a year and the longer we left it, the higher the hurdle became.

And the reason? Witnessing Sonny’s birth had turned me off sex altogether.

There is no denying that having a baby changes a woman’s body immeasurably. People don’t like to talk about scars from the Caesarean, saggy stomachs or greatly increased nipple size, but that’s the reality.

 

[MMM_donuts]

I work with mostly men and one day I overheard them sharing their reaction to the baby coming out. They didn't all feel the same way and they didn't all have the same experiences but quite a few of their opinions really shocked me.

Some were more mature than others but it really hurt my heart to hear what they said and I am so thankful not to be married to them. I've always been told about the "miracle of childbirth" and how amazing it is to watch a little one emerge (albeit, a little gross at times) - that is NOT what these men had to say about it.

 

[kwillia]

I work with mostly men and one day I overheard them sharing their reaction to the baby coming out. They didn't all feel the same way and they didn't all have the same experiences but quite a few of their opinions really shocked me.

Some were more mature than others but it really hurt my heart to hear what they said and I am so thankful not to be married to them. I've always been told about the "miracle of childbirth" and how amazing it is to watch a little one emerge (albeit, a little gross at times) - that is NOT what these men had to say about it.

I wouldn't hold it against a guy for being grossed out because I learned a long, long time ago that men just plain outright do not think or react with the same emotions and thought process as a female brain does. We are wired differently and there is no changing it.

I don't think a woman should be offended if the father of her child choses to stay to the other side of where the action is happening.

 

[libertytyranny]

I truely, firmly, with alllll my heart believe that men do NOT belong in the delivery room. It is only recently that it has become the thing to do..and half the time it is women holding a gun to their head forcing them to take part in their fantasy of the "miracle of life" let me tell you..having a baby is ####ing disgusting. there is nothing miraculous, pretty, or special about it no matter what hippie feminists want to sell you. I also do not get the trend of having everyone and their mother in the room with you..siblings, parents, neighbors, the guy in the cube down the hall..for heaven's sake they can visit with you once your vagina is sewn up and the baby has the amniotic fluid sucked from its nose. Doesn't make birthing a brand new human any less exciting if they don't get to be involved in all the gory disgusting details.

Men and everyone else belong in the waiting room handing out cigars like God intended.

 

[Chasey_Lane]

I wouldn't hold it against a guy for being grossed out because

No kidding. I fully expect men to be turned off for a while. It's not the prettiest thing to see or be a part of. Child birth is a miracle but a disgusting one.

 

[MMM_donuts]

I wonder if men get insecure about stuff like this like women do. Do they worry about their woman not being physically attracted to them like they once were? Does an inkling of jealously float through their heads when we start a thread over Magic Mike? Or how Jack Nicholson looks old and, by default, now unattractive?

 

[EmptyTimCup]

I seen 4 of my 5 born ....

2 were C-Sections, and I was asked in after they had pulled the baby out uterus laying on the outside while the finish the clean up as strange




I and I still :bang: :bang: :bang: as much as possible

 

[Misfit]

The brief second of seeing two heads on one body at different ends was a little weird for me but I got over it. I did not like cutting the umbilical cord though because some of the juice got in my mouth and eye.

 

[vraiblonde]

There is nothing sexier than a guy who adores his children and wants to participate as much as possible in the birth process, and it's dismaying that any woman would not agree.

Many men do indeed react emotionally to the birth of their children, and sometimes even more so than the woman. My first husband was quite overwhelmed, especially with our first one, while I was exhausted and panicking at the thought of the next 18 years. He was supportive and terrific through both of the kids being born and there's no way I would have ever wanted to do that without him.

Childbirth is the biggest moment you will ever share as man and wife. The guy in the article needs to grow the #### up, or his wife needs to find a real man and stop fooling around with boys.

 

[kwillia]

There is nothing sexier than a guy who adores his children and wants to participate as much as possible in the birth process, and it's dismaying that any woman would not agree.

Many men do indeed react emotionally to the birth of their children, and sometimes even more so than the woman. My first husband was quite overwhelmed, especially with our first one, while I was exhausted and panicking at the thought of the next 18 years. He was supportive and terrific through both of the kids being born and there's no way I would have ever wanted to do that without him.

Childbirth is the biggest moment you will ever share as man and wife. The guy in the article needs to grow the #### up, or his wife needs to find a real man and stop fooling around with boys.

I'm not saying they don't react emotionally and I'm not saying that all men are grossed out about seeing such a thing. I am saying that women will always fail if they expect and/or assume men should think and react like we do to something.

The guy in the article is a douche and obviously has bigger problems than the fact that he saw the uncensored birthing process... but I don't think any less of a man if his is up there holding my hand and couching rather than having full view of every gory detail.

 

[RoseRed]

I'm not saying they don't react emotionally and I'm not saying that all men are grossed out about seeing such a thing. I am saying that women will always fail if they expect and/or assume men should think and react like we do to something.

The guy in the article is a douche and obviously has bigger problems than the fact that he saw the uncensored birthing process... but I don't think any less of a man if his is up there holding my hand and couching rather than having full view of every gory detail.

Husband took a quick peek and almost fainted. He chose the chair up next to my head for the rest of the show.

 

[kwillia]

Husband took a quick peek and almost fainted. He chose the chair up next to my head for the rest of the show.

And he was a manly man who was a very doting father...

 

[RoseRed]

And he was a manly man who was a very doting father...

He even sniffled and teared up, too.

 

[Toxick]

The problem? We hadn’t had sex for more than a year and the longer we left it, the higher the hurdle became.

WTF?

I don't remember how long you're supposed to lay off the sex after a baby (last time I had to worry about it was 9 years ago), but I do remember that at 11:59PM on the day before the green-light came on, The arrow from Cupid's quiver was nocked, and the bowstring drawn as tight as it would go.


A year.

Dayum.

And the reason? Witnessing Sonny’s birth had turned me off sex altogether.

Gay.


This guy is gay and he was looking for any excuse to not have to delve into any feminine crevasse.

There is no denying that having a baby changes a woman’s body immeasurably. People don’t like to talk about scars from the Caesarean, saggy stomachs or greatly increased nipple size, but that’s the reality.

Total homo.






Not that there's anything wrong with that - but don't pretend you like girlie parts when you really want a stiff one in the chute.

 

[Dakota]

Apparently Elvis Presley went through the same thing… he didn’t have problems having sex with other women but he couldn’t look at Pricilla as anything other than a mommy. She got fed up with that, of course. :shrug:

 

[vraiblonde]

I'm not saying they don't react emotionally and I'm not saying that all men are grossed out about seeing such a thing. I am saying that women will always fail if they expect and/or assume men should think and react like we do to something.

The guy in the article is a douche and obviously has bigger problems than the fact that he saw the uncensored birthing process... but I don't think any less of a man if his is up there holding my hand and couching rather than having full view of every gory detail.

I'm not saying he needs to have his face in the works, but he should at least want to be in the room for the big event. This guy is a major league douche and, as Tox indicated, most likely a homo.

 

[MMM_donuts]

Now that I've read the entire article, it isn't anything like I thought it would be. He's all like PTSD over putting his wife's body through so much trauma and stuff. Interesting. I thought it was just a general replusion to the changes of her body.

And then there's this:

But I now realise I was far from alone. A recent survey by parenting website Netmums revealed that three-quarters of couples make love less than they did before they had children.[/QUOTE] Which I would imagine is more due to the general exhaustion of providing complete care to a brand new individual than what this man went through.

But, geez, over a year without bedroom activity? They're practically strangers now!

 

[BadGirl]

Hell, giving birth is so yucky that even I didn't want to be there. I sure as he'll didn't want anyone else there with me, too.

 

[Toxick]

I work with mostly men and one day I overheard them sharing their reaction to the baby coming out.

The first time I ever witnessed this event was about 11 years ago. Since that time, I think I've only discussed the event out loud twice. Both times with Mrs Toxick. I dunno - maybe I'm the freak, but the topic of actual birth rarely comes up - not the event of childbirth which all dads talk about, but the actual act of birth... the baby crowning and the sequence that follows - particularly around a bunch of dudes.


Point of order though: While MrsToxick was in labor with the youngest ninja, they offered her a mirror so she could witness the act (with the other ones, no mirror was offered), she said OK. As soon as she saw what was going on she told them to get rid of that ####ing thing.

Other than that it was a good day.

 

[Misfit]

As soon as she saw what was going on she told them to get rid of that ####ing thing.

Did she mean the mirror?