O.d.d.

Nanny Pam

Nanny Pam

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Has anyone had any experience with this? Please advise.

I am about to cry. I am at wits end. I've researched the internet. The Mother did warn me about this child, but I took him anyway. I put up with her late payments because she's a single Mom.
I've been kicked, bitten, #### on, punched, screamed at, etc. I hate to turn my back on a child that really needs help, but my concern now, is with my other children who are also confused with his defiant behavior. It's not fair to them. I guess I've answered my own question. I really should dismiss this child.

Any experience with ODD will be helpful to me. What comes next?

Thanks!

Pam
 
cattitude

cattitude

My Sweetest Boy
I dunno...seems like a brat to me. But I don't subscribe to all the pretty names and illnesses for the kids these days.

Sorry you have to deal with this.
 
twinoaks207

twinoaks207

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Nanny Pam said:
Has anyone had any experience with this? Please advise.

I am about to cry. I am at wits end. I've researched the internet. The Mother did warn me about this child, but I took him anyway. I put up with her late payments because she's a single Mom.
I've been kicked, bitten, #### on, punched, screamed at, etc. I hate to turn my back on a child that really needs help, but my concern now, is with my other children who are also confused with his defiant behavior. It's not fair to them. I guess I've answered my own question. I really should dismiss this child.

Any experience with ODD will be helpful to me. What comes next?

Thanks!



Pam
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Firm and consistent limits are necessary. Do not get into power struggles. It is best to give the child a choice - for example: you may pick up your toys or sit on the couch for 5 minutes. Repeat the choice the same way as many times as you need to do this. Do not vary your words and do not engage in discussion.

Praise the positives -- give praise when the child does something when asked without exhibiting the ODD behavior.


Is the child in school? If so, is there an IEP with behavior goals? It might help if you had access to that so you, the parent, and the school are all on the same page.

For further resources & assistance:

Children With Oppositional Defiant Disorder | American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry

Oppositional Defiant Disorder ODD

Solutions to Oppositional Defiant Disorder

Many more available on Google search.
 
Bay_Kat

Bay_Kat

Tropical
cattitude said:
I dunno...seems like a brat to me. But I don't subscribe to all the pretty names and illnesses for the kids these days.

Sorry you have to deal with this.
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:yeahthat:

Not fair the the other kids that this one is disruptive to say the least. I would have to dismiss him.
 
libertytyranny

libertytyranny

Dream Stealer
Nanny Pam said:
Has anyone had any experience with this? Please advise.

I am about to cry. I am at wits end. I've researched the internet. The Mother did warn me about this child, but I took him anyway. I put up with her late payments because she's a single Mom.
I've been kicked, bitten, #### on, punched, screamed at, etc. I hate to turn my back on a child that really needs help, but my concern now, is with my other children who are also confused with his defiant behavior. It's not fair to them. I guess I've answered my own question. I really should dismiss this child.

Any experience with ODD will be helpful to me. What comes next?

Thanks!

Pam
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Personally I think ODD is a crutch for inconsistant parenting. But let's just say the kid does have some sort of disorder...ODD kids need to be run ragged, IMO. This is very helpful with ADD kids as well. Keep them tired. Find something he wants and make him run laps for it. They generally respond very well to rewards...and it helps to let them make choices..on everything. Even if it is essentially the same thing they are choosing. Such as "bratty johnny, would you like to eat lunch now, and then play or would you like to play for five minutes then eat lunch and play some more?" This avoids telling him what to do, and makes him less likely to argue. My adolescent psych teacher swears by the "choices" method..and said it has helped her patients..never tried it myself..but it makes sense.
 
Geek

Geek

New Member
Nanny Pam said:
Has anyone had any experience with this? Please advise.

I am about to cry. I am at wits end. I've researched the internet. The Mother did warn me about this child, but I took him anyway. I put up with her late payments because she's a single Mom.
I've been kicked, bitten, #### on, punched, screamed at, etc. I hate to turn my back on a child that really needs help, but my concern now, is with my other children who are also confused with his defiant behavior. It's not fair to them. I guess I've answered my own question. I really should dismiss this child.

Any experience with ODD will be helpful to me. What comes next?

Thanks!

Pam
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Hey gorgeous! Is the kid old enough to follow a behavior chart? Maybe set one up and give him a sticker if he completes a task without hitting, kicking, etc. Sometimes a kid with this kind of behavior needs more of a one on one setting, and has nothing to do with how hard you try. When this kid goes to school, the other kids will have no choice but be in the classroom with him, so maybe a stress free daycare is a nice gift you can give the other kids.

Free Behavior Charts, Free Chore Charts, Free Potty Charts, Free Teeth Care Charts, Kids Charts
 
sockgirl77

sockgirl77

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I would definitely speak to the mother about failing to warn you about his condition. Every daycare I've ever had my kids in has had paperwork to fill out and it specifically asks about medical and behavioral issues. I don't know anything about ODD other than what I just read but it seems like a lot to deal with. 1. I'd up the rates for having to deal with a special needs child and buy plenty of Advil. Or 2. Tell the mother it's too much for you and keep the biatch's deposit for not telling you about the ODD.
 
Nanny Pam

Nanny Pam

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twinoaks207 said:
Firm and consistent limits are necessary. Do not get into power struggles. It is best to give the child a choice - for example: you may pick up your toys or sit on the couch for 5 minutes. Repeat the choice the same way as many times as you need to do this. Do not vary your words and do not engage in discussion.

Praise the positives -- give praise when the child does something when asked without exhibiting the ODD behavior.


Is the child in school? If so, is there an IEP with behavior goals? It might help if you had access to that so you, the parent, and the school are all on the same page.

For further resources & assistance:

Children With Oppositional Defiant Disorder | American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry

Oppositional Defiant Disorder ODD

Solutions to Oppositional Defiant Disorder

Many more available on Google search.
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No he's not in school yet. He is 3 years old, but as big as a 5 yr. old. Thanks for the links. I've read most everything, for the past 2 weeks. I'd like to chat with someone who is/has actually dealt with this.
 
Nanny Pam

Nanny Pam

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Geek said:
Hey gorgeous! Is the kid old enough to follow a behavior chart? Maybe set one up and give him a sticker if he completes a task without hitting, kicking, etc. Sometimes a kid with this kind of behavior needs more of a one on one setting, and has nothing to do with how hard you try. When this kid goes to school, the other kids will have no choice but be in the classroom with him, so maybe a stress free daycare is a nice gift you can give the other kids.

Free Behavior Charts, Free Chore Charts, Free Potty Charts, Free Teeth Care Charts, Kids Charts
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Hey sex pot! :smoochy:

Thanks for the printable charts! Love them!!
 
belvak

belvak

Happy Camper
Nanny Pam said:
No he's not in school yet. He is 3 years old, but as big as a 5 yr. old. Thanks for the links. I've read most everything, for the past 2 weeks. I'd like to chat with someone who is/has actually dealt with this.
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Sorry Nanny, nothing to add, but BIG :huggy:
 
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NewMotherOf1

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My mother was helping take care of a child with ODD and multiple other mental issues as well. We met the child when she was 4 by the time she was 10, we had tried literally everything. She was in different mental institutions. We tried everything the books said to try. Nothing helped. It got so bad to where she was grabbing a hold of knives and threatening to kill us. By the time the girl was 11, the mother left to the other side of the country and took the girl with her. The last I heard was she was still in and out of mental institutions and different help places... It seems like its getting worse.

I wish you the best of luck. We did notice that the "keeping the kid tired" idea helped a little. So did the rewards, like if you were good this week with no problems we will do this big thing on the weekend.

Good luck.
 
Vince

Vince

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libertytyranny said:
Personally I think ODD is a crutch for inconsistant parenting.
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Have to agree. The kid is probably the result of permissive parenting. Never disciplined. Now, who is paying for it and since you can't spank etc. Give him back to his mother. Her problem.
 
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