Parent rant tread...

Larry Gude

Larry Gude

Strung Out
Do you have a great relationship with your folks? Lost one or both and miss them dearly? That's nice. Now, get lost.

This is for the not awful but, just annoying as all ####ing hell parental relationship where neither one of you can't, or won't, break the cycle of interaction that just makes you...

...when I ask my dad for help, I mean to say "Will you take care of this?" when I know he WILL say "Sure."

...and then bombard me with enough questions about it and things that could potentially happen or go wrong that make me just want to ####ing tear my goddamn ####ing stupid head off for asking again. He wants to help. He means well but, when I ask for help, it's not so I can micro manage how you do it. It's so you can help me. It's not so you can ask me enough questions so as to make any help get lost in the balance of loss of peace of mind and frustration AND this is with FULL acknowledgment that it is every bit as much my fault, as his. Maybe more.

:banghead: :tantrum:


AARRRRRGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Thanks for listening.



:banghead:
 
Railroad

Railroad

Routinely Derailed
I can totally relate to that. I hated the inquisition so badly that I often went without asking his assistance even when it hurt. Perhaps that was his goal all along.
 
aps45819

aps45819

24/7 Single Dad
Larry Gude said:
Do you have a great relationship with your folks? Lost one or both and miss them dearly? That's nice. Now, get lost.

This is for the not awful but, just annoying as all ####ing hell parental relationship where neither one of you can't, or won't, break the cycle of interaction that just makes you...

...when I ask my dad for help, I mean to say "Will you take care of this?" when I know he WILL say "Sure."

...and then bombard me with enough questions about it and things that could potentially happen or go wrong that make me just want to ####ing tear my goddamn ####ing stupid head off for asking again. He wants to help. He means well but, when I ask for help, it's not so I can micro manage how you do it. It's so you can help me. It's not so you can ask me enough questions so as to make any help get lost in the balance of loss of peace of mind and frustration AND this is with FULL acknowledgment that it is every bit as much my fault, as his. Maybe more.

:banghead: :tantrum:


Thanks for listening.



:banghead:
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You ungrateful little twerp :smack:

My dad has passed and I'd love to have him ask me a stupid question.
Cherish every one of those stupid questions and be grateful that you have a father willing to help and is so concerned that he do it the way you want that he pesters you with questions.

When he's gone you'll miss it.
You should take him out for a nice dinner and tell him you're grateful for everything he's done for you
 
MarieB

MarieB

New Member
He just wants to make sure he's doing it you way you want it done, and people change as they get older and perhaps second guess themselves. My mom's thought processes are not the same as they were say 10 or even 5 years ago.
 
KDENISE977

KDENISE977

New Member
You don't realize how lucky you are just to have them AROUND !! My father passed YEARS ago and my mother lives in NC. My husbands mother and father live in Maine...we have NO one to ask for help with ANYTHING and my little one met his grandfather for the FIRST time this past Christmas, I'd LOVE to have someone around to ask for help. :cds:
 
vraiblonde

vraiblonde

Board Mommy
PREMO Member
Patron
Larry Gude said:
Do you have a great relationship with your folks? Lost one or both and miss them dearly? That's nice. Now, get lost.
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:lmao:

:high5:

As the only person on this forum who has seen this interaction first hand:

Like Marie said, he just wants to make sure he does it the way you want it done. He is "one of those" who likes to over-plan, whereas you are the fly by the seat of your pants guy. It's natural that there will be conflict.
 
Hank

Hank

my war
Larry Gude said:
Do you have a great relationship with your folks? Lost one or both and miss them dearly? That's nice. Now, get lost.

This is for the not awful but, just annoying as all ####ing hell parental relationship where neither one of you can't, or won't, break the cycle of interaction that just makes you...

...when I ask my dad for help, I mean to say "Will you take care of this?" when I know he WILL say "Sure."

...and then bombard me with enough questions about it and things that could potentially happen or go wrong that make me just want to ####ing tear my goddamn ####ing stupid head off for asking again. He wants to help. He means well but, when I ask for help, it's not so I can micro manage how you do it. It's so you can help me. It's not so you can ask me enough questions so as to make any help get lost in the balance of loss of peace of mind and frustration AND this is with FULL acknowledgment that it is every bit as much my fault, as his. Maybe more.

:banghead: :tantrum:


AARRRRRGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Thanks for listening.



:banghead:
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:whitewhine:
 
b23hqb

b23hqb

Well-Known Member
PREMO Member
My dad's been with the Lord for 13 years now. I still strive to be the man he was.
 
Retrodeb54

Retrodeb54

Surely you jest ...
Please shorten your "AARRRRRGGGGGGGGGGHHHHH" some so the page doesn't stretch so much and I can read the thread.

Thank you,

:coffee:

NM it finally adjusted itself.

Oh hell, its stretched again.
 
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Dupontster

Dupontster

Would THIS face lie?
vraiblonde said:
:lmao:

:high5:

As the only person on this forum who has seen this interaction first hand:

Like Marie said, he just wants to make sure he does it the way you want it done. He is "one of those" who likes to over-plan, whereas you are the fly by the seat of your pants guy. It's natural that there will be conflict.
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This would be me.. Everything I do has to be almost perfect. (Doesn't always turn out like that though) My sons have the "Let's just get it done" attitude. Just wish I could have a regular father/son relationship with both of them.. But that's a whole nuther story and thread.. OH and BTW, I miss my Dad..


Hank said:
:whitewhine:
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Racist :lmao:
 
acommondisaster

acommondisaster

Active Member
There are a million things I'd love to tell my dad. I'd love to have him around to ask questions.

They filled me so full of security BS in my Navy A school that when my dad asked me what my job was going to be (as a decorated WWII vet), I told him it was classified and I couldn't tell him. He never again asked me anything about my job or the Navy, and I never knew how to approach him about it once I realized how ridiculous I'd been. The first person I wanted to tell that I'd been recruited for duty at the White House was my dad, because I knew he would be the one who would be proudest, but it was too late, by a matter of just a few months.

Larry, I'd even like to have the opportunity to be as frustrated with my dad as you seem to be right now with yours. How lucky you are to be able to ask him for help. If you dont like what ensues when you do ask, then put on your big boy pants and do it yourself.
 
itsbob

itsbob

I bowl overhand
KDENISE977 said:
You don't realize how lucky you are just to have them AROUND !! My father passed YEARS ago and my mother lives in NC. My husbands mother and father live in Maine...we have NO one to ask for help with ANYTHING and my little one met his grandfather for the FIRST time this past Christmas, I'd LOVE to have someone around to ask for help. :cds:
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You can ask for help anytime you like..
 
mamatutu

mamatutu

mama to two
I think we all wonder what our children will think of us when we are gone, and the legacy of it all. If we did the best we could, then we should rest easy.
 
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