Playground conversation...

[citysherry]

Little girl 1 & 2 announced during dinner the night before last..."Mommy, Carlee (classmate) told us that "her family's Christian and she's not allowed to marry brown people." I just sat there thinking what parent would burden their young child (7-8yrs) with such religious, racist crap. LG 1&2 then said "Mommy, we're Christian, does that mean we can't marry brown people?" I kept my reply simple and told them that you don't have any control over who your heart falls in love with but, you can use your brain to help your heart decide by asking is this person nice or mean. I also said that it wasn't a very Christian thing to say or think.

So, last night at dinner LG 1 & 2 announce..."oh, mommy Carlee didn't mean brown people, she meant black people - but Carlee said she didn't care what her mommy said because she's going to do it anyway." I asked "do what anyway?" Marry black people mommy, gee whiz."

Why do some parents fill their kids heads with hatred at such a young age

 

[Vince]

Little girl 1 & 2 announced during dinner the night before last..."Mommy, Carlee (classmate) told us that "her family's Christian and she's not allowed to marry brown people

If she told her daughter that, then she is not a Christian.

 

[Chasey_Lane]

Why do some parents fill their kids heads with hatred at such a young age

I want my daughter to marry a white boy.

 

[Dougstermd]

I want my daughter to marry a white boy.

 

[kwillia]

Not all parents raise their kids that way. I'm proud to relay a conversation my 13 year old son told me about last night...

It seems my son was talking with another classmate about rap music and my son said he didn't like it. The boy told him that was because he was white. My son replied, "Music isn't about black or white. It's about what you like to listen to and what you don't like to listen to. There are black people who sing country and blugrass just as there are white people who sing rap." The other kid said, "Oh, I see your point."

 

[citysherry]

I want my daughter to marry a white boy.

So, of course, you told her she's not allowed to marry a white boy.

 

[Softballkid]

Its not always hatred... I dont hate blacks, browns, or whatever, now all colors have there idiots...but I just believe in same race marriages..

JMO

 

[Chasey_Lane]

So, of course, you told her she's not allowed to marry a white boy.

No. She's never asked me who she can marry.

 

[citysherry]

Its not always hatred... I dont hate blacks, browns, or whatever, now all colors have there idiots...but I just believe in same race marriages..

JMO

And that's fine. I just don't understand why would you burden such young children with this issue. The playground is for playing not spreading racist views.

 

[citysherry]

Not all parents raise their kids that way. I'm proud to relay a conversation my 13 year old son told me about last night...

It seems my son was talking with another classmate about rap music and my son said he didn't like it. The boy told him that was because he was white. My son replied, "Music isn't about black or white. It's about what you like to listen to and what you don't like to listen to. There are black people who sing country and blugrass just as there are white people who sing rap." The other kid said, "Oh, I see your point."

It sounds like you are raising a very mature son.

 

[pixiegirl]

I don't care who my kids marry. It's a running joke amoungst those that know me that my oldest is going to be gay (he's very sensative for a little boy). I don't care if they marry black, white or purple women or men for that matter. What I do care about is that they grow up to be good men with strong character!

 

[Softballkid]

And that's fine. I just don't understand why would you burden such young children with this issue. The playground is for playing not spreading racist views.

I see whats your saying, its pretty weird to be doing at such a young age..I believe as a parent, your job is to raise someone you can always look back and say "We/I did good, nothing to worry bout there" and let them make there own judgements as they get older...

 

[sleuth]

Its not always hatred... I dont hate blacks, browns, or whatever, now all colors have there idiots...but I just believe in same race marriages..

JMO

I'm curious. What are your reasons why?

Certainly I can understand that many people believe in preserving cultures, heritages, and want to avoid the "single-race" that all humans will eventually become.

And I can also understand wanting to avoid the difficulties that mixed-race children have to endure, especially in a world that still is full of racism.

I can understand all of that, but I'm just wondering if any of this is your basis. Or do you have other reasons?

 

[citysherry]

I don't care who my kids marry. It's a running joke amoungst those that know me that my oldest is going to be gay (he's very sensative for a little boy). I don't care if they marry black, white or purple women or men for that matter. What I do care about is that they grow up to be good men with strong character!

I feel exactly the same way about my girls - and what I do care about is that they grow up to be happy, healthy, self-sufficient, productive women.

 

[mrweb]

I'm curious. What are your reasons why?

Certainly I can understand that many people believe in preserving cultures, heritages, and want to avoid the "single-race" that all humans will eventually become.

And I can also understand wanting to avoid the difficulties that mixed-race children have to endure, especially in a world that still is full of racism.

I can understand all of that, but I'm just wondering if any of this is your basis. Or do you have other reasons?

I was wondering the same thing. I am of Scottish decent, my wife, German and Turk. If you want to get real technical, depending on how strict of a definition of "race" you use, she married outside of her race, or is it just a Caucasian/Hispanic/Asian/Black thing?

 

[CityGrl]

I don't care if they marry black, white or purple women or men for that matter. What I do care about is that they grow up to be good men with strong character!

 

[tikipirate]

It's a running joke amoungst those that know me that my oldest is going to be gay (he's very sensative for a little boy). ... What I do care about is that they grow up to be good men with strong character!

Teasing a little boy about his sexuality is no way to ensure he grows up to be a good man with strong character. Any stigma you and your friends cast upon him may end up following him around, and he could end up being either a bully (to disprove the gayness) or fodder for predators.

What positive (and constant) male influence does he have in his life?

 

[MMDad]

Teasing a little boy about his sexuality is no way to ensure he grows up to be a good man with strong character. Any stigma you and your friends cast upon him may end up following him around, and he could end up being either a bully (to disprove the gayness) or fodder for predators.

What positive (and constant) male influence does he have in his life?

Wow. I never saw anything that indicated she teased her son about his sexuality, especially since he is too young to express it to anyone but a Catholic priest.

It sounds to me like she recognizes her son's proclivities, and talks about them with her support network (friends, family, etc.)

If she notices a troubling trend, and does nothing about it, then your judgement might be appropriate. Until then, you might consider the fact that she is the mom, you know nothing about the situation, and it is her decision what to do.

 

[RoseRed]

I just met her two little angels two weeks ago and they are both absolutely adorable. Boy #1 was a very inquisitive little boy and asked me all sorts of questions. Very sweet.

 

[Softballkid]

To my reasons why... Im not saying race as in a white christian can only marry another white christian, or a black catholic can marry a balck catholic.. not meaning like that... Im not wetnoodle white supremecy or nothing.....

Im just meaning white and white, black and black, orange and orange, brown and brown, blue and blue....

And yes part of it does have to do with the kids they will have, because though you can teach and preach to your kid everyday that everyone is equal, skin is just a color, its whats inside.... not all kids are like that, Im 22, so I just got out of school a few years ago, and I can remember back when I was in elementary, and middle school, I remember how bad those kids got picked on, and seeing fights just because the kid was an "oreo kid" (white parent, black parent) ....thats not a good lesson your kid wants to learn growing up....but it does happen in school.....


Another reason is because now adays there are more failed marriages than ever, many of which are inter racial marriages... people talk about them, they go home, get talking about it, leads to arguements, boom, done... because people will talk, and as always, it will lead to problems...

But like I said, this is JMO, as all of ya know, I have nothing to do with any of your kids, but say I did know them, Im not goin to preach to them to stay in there race to date and marry, thats not my place, AT ALL... how you teach and raise your kids is all your business...ya know...