nachomama
All Up In Your Grill
Hello there! 
Please help me convince a friend she needs to dump her scumbag boyfriend.
She's been dating this guy for about 4 years or so. He was unemployed for about half of this time. He finally got a halfway decent job working nights. During the time he was unemployed and working a minimum wage job, she was the sole supporter of their household. He didn't pay any household bills (they were living together).
Anyway, he got a decent job and started paying utilities. She was still carrying the rest of the bills (mortgage, food, cars, etc.). He always said he could never give her any extra cash but he always found money to do what he wanted to do. A couple times the electric was about to get turned off and the satellite was actually turned off. She had to pay to get them up to date. A couple months ago she had decided she had had enough and kicked him out. He got his own place and is finally paying his own bills. She is still talking to him, and still giving him money, hoping they can reconcile. In my mind, he's a POS but she's my best friend and she loves him so I gotta tell her my feelings but support her at the same time.
Anyway, last week was Mother's Day. He took his mom, her and her mom to dinner. He told her that he had a $900 boat bill to pay to get his boat fixed so he was going to need her help with dinner. She paid for her and her mom; he paid for him and his mom.
The other night, he got off work early. Instead of coming to see her, he decided to go to a local bar and hang out with some of his female "friends". She insists there's nothing going on there, but he has a night off from his job and instead of going to see her, he goes out to a bar.
She has bailed this guy out so many fricken times that it blows my mind. I'm trying to tell her that on top of everything else - sticking her with all the bills, doing what he wanted while she works two jobs to pay the bills, he buys what he wants when he wants, and instead of paying her money back that he's "borrowed" from her, he gets his boat fixed and then tells her she needs to pay for her own Mother's Day meal. The bar story was enough to make me lose it. I wanted to call this ahole up and tell him to go eff himself.
What say you? Should she dump this jerk or keep on taking his crap in hopes he will "get it" one day?
Help me to convince her that she's got to get rid of the crap. He's only holding her back and I need for her to see what other people think - without going too into detail about their personal life (which is a literal soap opera). I would post this on facebook but a lot of my friends would know exactly who I'm talking about.
Please help me convince a friend she needs to dump her scumbag boyfriend.
She's been dating this guy for about 4 years or so. He was unemployed for about half of this time. He finally got a halfway decent job working nights. During the time he was unemployed and working a minimum wage job, she was the sole supporter of their household. He didn't pay any household bills (they were living together).
Anyway, he got a decent job and started paying utilities. She was still carrying the rest of the bills (mortgage, food, cars, etc.). He always said he could never give her any extra cash but he always found money to do what he wanted to do. A couple times the electric was about to get turned off and the satellite was actually turned off. She had to pay to get them up to date. A couple months ago she had decided she had had enough and kicked him out. He got his own place and is finally paying his own bills. She is still talking to him, and still giving him money, hoping they can reconcile. In my mind, he's a POS but she's my best friend and she loves him so I gotta tell her my feelings but support her at the same time.
Anyway, last week was Mother's Day. He took his mom, her and her mom to dinner. He told her that he had a $900 boat bill to pay to get his boat fixed so he was going to need her help with dinner. She paid for her and her mom; he paid for him and his mom.
The other night, he got off work early. Instead of coming to see her, he decided to go to a local bar and hang out with some of his female "friends". She insists there's nothing going on there, but he has a night off from his job and instead of going to see her, he goes out to a bar.
She has bailed this guy out so many fricken times that it blows my mind. I'm trying to tell her that on top of everything else - sticking her with all the bills, doing what he wanted while she works two jobs to pay the bills, he buys what he wants when he wants, and instead of paying her money back that he's "borrowed" from her, he gets his boat fixed and then tells her she needs to pay for her own Mother's Day meal. The bar story was enough to make me lose it. I wanted to call this ahole up and tell him to go eff himself.
What say you? Should she dump this jerk or keep on taking his crap in hopes he will "get it" one day?
Help me to convince her that she's got to get rid of the crap. He's only holding her back and I need for her to see what other people think - without going too into detail about their personal life (which is a literal soap opera). I would post this on facebook but a lot of my friends would know exactly who I'm talking about.
You can only kick her in the ass so many times.
