ZARA
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We were living 3000 miles away from all family. Support system is a huge thing, and I'm not talking financial support. People really take this for granted. More and more people are moving for work, and it does change societal norms.
Beliefs also differ. Glad to her that things worked out well for you
Those three things are the hardest.
Lack of family.
Lack of support group (no one to depend on in times of .)
And not being prepared for life's upper cuts. nomoney
For a while I was a single mom. I HAVE NO FAMILY. I have me. I didn't plan on being a single mom. I didn't plan on a lot of things. But the bad kept coming. I worked two jobs just to pay my bills (17 to 18 hrs a day). I slept when I could which was about 4 hrs a day if that because I had to watch my son. I feel very bad for that time because I had to work so much and my son was neglected. I did not have a choice.
I lost the first custody battle. And I will always remember the reason why, the Judges words, and the sound of his voice for the rest of my life.
"This is never an easy decision to make. You are obviously a loving mother but you do not have the family support you need to raise a child." I have no idea what he said after that. I died right then.
I wallowed in grief for about a month. Then I got good and enraged. I studied Texas Family law for six months. Then wrote my own Order for Modification, filed, and took my ex back to court. I walked out with full custody. And the last set of words the Judge said, "Some times I make mistakes."
There is NOTHING easy about being a Good parent.