Pros and cons

[MarieB]

My LW and I waited 6 years before we had our 1st. I was 32 and she was 30, only you know what is best for you.

LW?

But, yeah that!

We talked about having kids when we thought we were ready and decided that we weren't financially ready (maybe not even emotionally at that point?) when we felt that "twinge". We were married 12 years when we started a family

 

[MarieB]

We did get a dog before we had our first. We wanted to see if the dog would live.

We got a dog after we talked about wanting to have a kiddo and deciding that the timing wasn't right financially speaking

 

[DoWhat]

Of having kids.

A lot of the girls I went to high school with had kids in school *

How old are you?

 

[mamatutu]

We did get a dog before we had our first. We wanted to see if the dog would live.

That is a weird indicator, control factor, or test. I assume all have lived, or you wouldn't be posting that info. Creepy, to say the least.

 

[DoWhat]

Any pain a woman has ever felt is nothing compared to the agony she feels when her child hurts.

Fathers feel that too.
Or should I say I do?

 

[kom526]

That is a weird indicator, control factor, or test. I assume all have lived, or you wouldn't be posting that info. Creepy, to say the least.

It was a joke you dumbass.

 

[kom526]

LW?

LW = Lovely Wife

 

[DoWhat]

It was a joke you dumbass.

psst, she ain't the brightest one out there.

 

[Dakota]

I don't blame women who choose not to do it one little bit.

Totally agree with that... I have said that so many times in the past and don't understand why some of those who have decided they want no children come across as feeling bad that they don’t… they really shouldn't. Children are a great deal of responsibility - emotionally, physically and financially.

 

[afjess1989]

How old are you?

24 soon. Some times I get a feeling that I want to have a kid and I'm ready to have one then I snap back from Lala land and laugh and get another drink

 

[afjess1989]

My parents were 24 and 26 when I was born. Pops in the military and mom a stay at home wife for a while

 

[Kris10]

Thank you, Kris. I'd never read that before but it's nice to know someone besides me was a neurotic who took her job as parent very seriously.

Any pain a woman has ever felt is nothing compared to the agony she feels when her child hurts. You will never be so in control and terrified at the same time. So intelligent and so insecure. So wise and so stupid. The epiphany is when your daughter becomes a beautiful teenage pre-woman, and you pass the torch. When your son becomes a man.

My daughter is 26 and my son 30, and they are so much more on the ball than I was at that age, and I seriously pat myself on the back because I know I gave that to them. Like Larry said, there is nothing you will ever do in your life that is as important as successfully raising the next generation. But it's painful and a job, and I don't blame women who choose not to do it one little bit.

I completely agree. Being a parent is the most important, rewarding job I will (and anyone would) have the honor of experiencing.

Fathers feel that too.
Or should I say I do?

24 soon. Some times I get a feeling that I want to have a kid and I'm ready to have one then I snap back from Lala land and laugh and get another drink

Lol, funny

If you're not married though, wait. I know things happen and people have children before marriage but that's not something I'd recommend 'planning'. Enjoy your life, get married, enjoy your husband then make a family

 

[ZARA]

Kris raised a REALLY Good point. "Enjoy your husband."

We tend to forget this but the Husbands go through A LOT when their wives give birth and the husbands do get severely neglected for the following 2-3 yrs.

That is extremely wonderful advice Kris. Thank you.

Get married and enjoy being a couple for a few years...or 8 years.

 

[MarieB]

I always thought a good 5 years if you have the time

 

[belvak]

This is so true. Wait till your older if you can

For myself, I don't agree with this. I wanted to have my children grown before I was too old! Imagine having a teenager when you're in your 50's or 60's!

Thank you, Kris. I'd never read that before but it's nice to know someone besides me was a neurotic who took her job as parent very seriously.

Any pain a woman has ever felt is nothing compared to the agony she feels when her child hurts. You will never be so in control and terrified at the same time. So intelligent and so insecure. So wise and so stupid. The epiphany is when your daughter becomes a beautiful teenage pre-woman, and you pass the torch. When your son becomes a man.

My daughter is 26 and my son 30, and they are so much more on the ball than I was at that age, and I seriously pat myself on the back because I know I gave that to them. Like Larry said, there is nothing you will ever do in your life that is as important as successfully raising the next generation. But it's painful and a job, and I don't blame women who choose not to do it one little bit.

Oh, and are you me???? Our son will be 30 in December and our daughter will be 26 in July! I never realized we were so close on the child front!!

We talked about having kids when we thought we were ready and decided that we weren't financially ready (maybe not even emotionally at that point?) when we felt that "twinge". We were married 12 years when we started a family

If you want children and wait until you're financially ready, you'll never have them! Words of experience!!

We got a dog after we talked about wanting to have a kiddo and deciding that the timing wasn't right financially speaking

We started with a cat a couple of months after we got married. That was fun, but we found ourselves wanting something more. It worked out fine for us. 31 years later, our "babies" are raised and starting their own families. The cat was a good start, but nowhere near as satisfying as the "real thing."

 

[aps45819]

For myself, I don't agree with this. I wanted to have my children grown before I was too old! Imagine having a teenager when you're in your 50's or 60's!

yeah...... Imagine that

 

[MarieB]

If you want children and wait until you're financially ready, you'll never have them! Words of experience!!



We started with a cat a couple of months after we got married. That was fun, but we found ourselves wanting something more. It worked out fine for us. 31 years later, our "babies" are raised and starting their own families. The cat was a good start, but nowhere near as satisfying as the "real thing."

We had them when we felt we were financially ready, words of experience . We will also have teenagers when we are in our 50's.

Everyone walks in different shoes

 

[belvak]

We had them when we felt we were financially ready, words of experience . We will also have teenagers when we are in our 50's.

Everyone walks in different shoes

We were lucky in that Hubby could do "side jobs" to make money to cover any baby related costs. I know not everyone is in that position, but I stand by my belief that if you wait until you're ready, you'll never be ready! Sometimes, GOD just makes those decisions for us. In our case, He talked to us and we listened. Worked great for us.

 

[MarieB]

We were lucky in that Hubby could do "side jobs" to make money to cover any baby related costs. I know not everyone is in that position, but I stand by my belief that if you wait until you're ready, you'll never be ready! Sometimes, GOD just makes those decisions for us. In our case, He talked to us and we listened. Worked great for us.

We were living 3000 miles away from all family. Support system is a huge thing, and I'm not talking financial support. People really take this for granted. More and more people are moving for work, and it does change societal norms.

Beliefs also differ. Glad to her that things worked out well for you

 

[belvak]

We were living 3000 miles away from all family. Support system is a huge thing, and I'm not talking financial support. People really take this for granted. More and more people are moving for work, and it does change societal norms.

Beliefs also differ. Glad to her that things worked out well for you

We were definitely lucky that his parents, and mine were close by. We didn't rely on them for babysitting, but it was nice to know they were there if needed! I will be the first one to tell you that we were lucky. Not only did we have both sets of parents close by, we had two babies that were "easy."

We're currently enjoying the heck out of our new granddaughter!!! She is a new light in our lives!!! And, we can enjoy her!! I thank GOD for this blessing every day!