Oh pooh. If the kid is a little embarrassed, maybe he'll think twice before doing something stupid again.
Public Humiliation as a Punishment?
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Oh pooh. If the kid is a little embarrassed, maybe he'll think twice before doing something stupid again.
Fubar
Look my ass glows!
vrai-you find taking a child to the local mall, making him stand for hours on end wearing a sign "Please pray for me, I misbehaved in school” a just punishment? Why not take him to church for council since the mother is so God fearing, or take him to school to "work this out" with his teacher.
For thought–if the mother got the kid to wear such a terrible sign, how is it she couldn’t get him to do anything else?
Wonder how she achieved that.....
This child learned many things that day at the mall, by the example set by his mother and by those bystanders who did not intervene on his behalf. He learned that it is right and proper to cause and then to ignore a "loved" one's suffering. He learned that even those who claim to love us can hurt us. The anger, frustration, embarrassment, and helplessness he felt then, and has probably felt many times before the incident at the mall, are likely to form the foundation for a life of unhappiness, and possibly even a life of crime. Our society bemoans the rising crime rate, yet does little to prevent its real origins in the early years of childhood.
What kind of love is it if it doesn't allow for mistakes (which all of us make)? To love a child means to treat him or her with respect, patience, gentleness and compassion, and in a way that is consistent with the Golden Rule.
Tough love is tough, all right, but it has nothing to do with love.
Oh for pete's sake.
It's not like she beat the hell out of the kid. She didn't even make him wear a diaper in public or girls clothes - THAT would be humiliation and uncalled for. The fact that most of the parents on here disagree with you and applaud the mother should tell you that your views are outside the mainstream and nobody seems to think this is so horrifying.
I know a woman who made her son stand outside with a sign that said "I lied".
Chasey_Lane
Salt Life
What about all the slogan t-shirts teens wear today? Wouldn't that be the same thing as holding up a sign? And if the teenager wore something disrespectful, his parents could say their kid is humiliating them. :shrug:Oh for pete's sake.
It's not like she beat the hell out of the kid. She didn't even make him wear a diaper in public or girls clothes - THAT would be humiliation and uncalled for. The fact that most of the parents on here disagree with you and applaud the mother should tell you that your views are outside the mainstream and nobody seems to think this is so horrifying.
I know a woman who made her son stand outside with a sign that said "I lied".
foodcritic
New Member
I think the mother did the best thing for her and her child. I don't want to be mean but Fubar you sound a little cooky. Don't you think that this mother was showing love to her son by not wanting him to grow up to be a thug? We pamper kids to much these days and they soon realize that they don't have to be responsible for their behavior. Especially if there are no consequences. Don't you remember all the stories of parents making their kids go back to stores and apologizing for taking things without paying for them? Do you think that was too embarassing for those kids? I'm sorry but your posts are just a little to wacky for me.
Mdcopswife
Boss Lady
I can remember as a kid being disrespectful to the bus driver. I can remember my father making me stand in front of the entire bus and apologizing to her and the rest of the students. I can also remember never being bad on the bus again.
I think sometimes after all other means have been exhausted, doing something this drastic may be what’s needed. Is it harsh, yes. Will it get the kids attention, yes. Will he do again, more than likely not, but you never know.
I am sure this was not the kids first time being in trouble. We don’t know the whole story. I am glad that she did something now rather than wait for him to be totally out of control.
I think sometimes after all other means have been exhausted, doing something this drastic may be what’s needed. Is it harsh, yes. Will it get the kids attention, yes. Will he do again, more than likely not, but you never know.
I am sure this was not the kids first time being in trouble. We don’t know the whole story. I am glad that she did something now rather than wait for him to be totally out of control.
Mdcopswife
Boss Lady
Oh for pete's sake.
It's not like she beat the hell out of the kid. She didn't even make him wear a diaper in public or girls clothes - THAT would be humiliation and uncalled for. The fact that most of the parents on here disagree with you and applaud the mother should tell you that your views are outside the mainstream and nobody seems to think this is so horrifying.
I know a woman who made her son stand outside with a sign that said "I lied".
Damn wish I would have thought of this one to.
smoothmarine187
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BlackSheep
New Member
Oh for pete's sake.
It's not like she beat the hell out of the kid. She didn't even make him wear a diaper in public or girls clothes - THAT would be humiliation and uncalled for. The fact that most of the parents on here disagree with you and applaud the mother should tell you that your views are outside the mainstream and nobody seems to think this is so horrifying.
I know a woman who made her son stand outside with a sign that said "I lied".
Me thinks there is more going on in the home than we know...
I work w/kids a lot-personally speaking, humiliation isn't a tool or tactic I would suggest or use....IMHO
Some of you have strange ideas about what constitutes "humiliation".
theArtistFormerlyKnownAs
Well-Known Member
He had to hold a sign...a sign you can barely read in the picture :shrug:
I personally feel that if he was a repeat offender (acting up) then this isn't punishment enough :shrug:
Me thinks there is more going on in the home than we know...
I work w/kids a lot-personally speaking, humiliation isn't a tool or tactic I would suggest or use....IMHO
I volunteer at my son's (middle) school for various activities. I threaten embarrassment in the form of disco dancing all the time
as a TOOL to encourage his good behavior. Just the threat of mortification is working so far for us!
But he knows I'd do it, too!
