Relationships

[backagain39]

Why do friends insist that there is something *wrong* if a person has no desire to be in a relationship. Not bitter here, I just prefer to be alone. And alone is not the same as lonely.

I enjoy my quiet times. I enjoy being able to just get up and go at will without having to confer with a SO. I like having my own money. I like not eating dinner or getting up at 2am to have breakfast. Basically I guess I like being INDEPENDENT!!!!!!

I have friends that honestly can not stand being alone and that is fine for them just not what I want.

Anyone else have this situation with friends and family and how do you handle it?

 

[Kain99]

To each his own sugar! Don't let anyone tell you how to live your life. People love to sit in judgement and that's usually due to their own insecurities.

I had a dear friend tell me that I have no life last week. My initial response was to say I have the life I chose. I'm happy watching movies with my SO and going to the beach with the kids.

Then I thought about it and realized that my friend is probably deeply jealous. I think people say things out of anger and stupidity without even knowing why.

Be proud, live strong!

 

[truthbknown]

I had a dear friend tell me that I have no life last week little does she know. My initial response was to say I have the life I chose. I'm happy meeting different guys off of here and having fun with them.

Then I thought about it and realized that my friend is probably deeply jealous. I think people say things when they know what their friends are doing is wrong when their married.

Be proud, live strong!

:fixed:

 

[backagain39]

To each his own sugar! Don't let anyone tell you how to live your life. People love to sit in judgement and that's usually due to their own insecurities.

I had a dear friend tell me that I have no life last week. My initial response was to say I have the life I chose. I'm happy watching movies with my SO and going to the beach with the kids.

Then I thought about it and realized that my friend is probably deeply jealous. I think people say things out of anger and stupidity without even knowing why.

Be proud, live strong!

I have a couple of girlfriends that keep wanting me to go bar hopping with them and telling me ya might meet some interesting men, ahhh duh first off I don't drink and second I don't enjoy seeing drunks making azzes of themselves, so the type of men they are talking about are not ones that I would be interested in.........

Now if my friends wanted to go to flea markets or to take a trip to the beach, that would be cool!

 

[Kain99]

I have a couple of girlfriends that keep wanting me to go bar hopping with them and telling me ya might meet some interesting men, ahhh duh first off I don't drink and second I don't enjoy seeing drunks making azzes of themselves, so the type of men they are talking about are not ones that I would be interested in.........

Now if my friends wanted to go to flea markets or to take a trip to the beach, that would be cool!

I hate bars! I am so uncomfortable, that I know I stick out like a sore thiumb. I just think life is way to short to be worrying about what anyone else thinks.

 

[backagain39]

What they think doesn't bother me, it's the constant you need a man mentality and we are going to find you one whether you like it or not....................

 

[ItalianScallion]

I have a couple of girlfriends that keep wanting me to go bar hopping with them and telling me ya might meet some interesting men, ahhh duh first off I don't drink and second I don't enjoy seeing drunks making azzes of themselves, so the type of men they are talking about are not ones that I would be interested in.........

Now if my friends wanted to go to flea markets or to take a trip to the beach, that would be cool!

Sounds like your friends are insecure, afraid to be without a man or have no life of their own??? Just think about what types they meet in bars. I lived the bar scene for 17 years. Glad to be out of that! I enjoy being single but I'm always open to the possibility of new lady friends. Some people, however, just can't live without a "signifigant other".
Speaking of the beach, I'll be at OC in 2 weeks! It's sooo nice to get away and have a change of scenery.

 

[godsbutterfly]

I have a couple of girlfriends that keep wanting me to go bar hopping with them and telling me ya might meet some interesting men, ahhh duh first off I don't drink and second I don't enjoy seeing drunks making azzes of themselves, so the type of men they are talking about are not ones that I would be interested in.........

Now if my friends wanted to go to flea markets or to take a trip to the beach, that would be cool!

After my 1st marriage ended I had 2 types of people I encountered all of the time: 1. Those who were afraid I would be after every man around now that I was divorced. 2. Those who thought I needed a new man to replace the old one. I never did the bar scene either. I had kids to take care of and it wasn't my "thing" even before I got married. Just be yourself and continue to live your life as you think best. Having peace of mind goes a long way to enrich your life!

 

[toppick08]

Why do friends insist that there is something *wrong* if a person has no desire to be in a relationship. Not bitter here, I just prefer to be alone. And alone is not the same as lonely.

I enjoy my quiet times. I enjoy being able to just get up and go at will without having to confer with a SO. I like having my own money. I like not eating dinner or getting up at 2am to have breakfast. Basically I guess I like being INDEPENDENT!!!!!!

I have friends that honestly can not stand being alone and that is fine for them just not what I want.

Anyone else have this situation with friends and family and how do you handle it?

Don't let it worry you, I understand your situation..........

 

[CMC122]

It's nice to see a person who doesn't require a SO! Girls in the relationship revolving door crack me up

 

[Dougstermd]

Sounds like your friends are insecure, afraid to be without a man or have no life of their own??? Just think about what types they meet in bars. I lived the bar scene for 17 years. Glad to be out of that! I enjoy being single but I'm always open to the possibility of new lady friends. Some people, however, just can't live without a "signifigant other".
Speaking of the beach, I'll be at OC in 2 weeks! It's sooo nice to get away and have a change of scenery.

I knew this fread would attract you like a moth to a flame

 

[BS Gal]

I knew this fread would attract you like a moth to a flame

 

[backagain39]

It's nice to see a person who doesn't require a SO! Girls in the relationship revolving door crack me up

Sounds like a friend of mine.........always drama and disappointments with her.......

 

[backagain39]

After my 1st marriage ended I had 2 types of people I encountered all of the time: 1. Those who were afraid I would be after every man around now that I was divorced. 2. Those who thought I needed a new man to replace the old one. I never did the bar scene either. I had kids to take care of and it wasn't my "thing" even before I got married. Just be yourself and continue to live your life as you think best. Having peace of mind goes a long way to enrich your life!

I agree, peace of mind is priceless............

 

[backagain39]

Sounds like your friends are insecure, afraid to be without a man or have no life of their own??? Just think about what types they meet in bars. I lived the bar scene for 17 years. Glad to be out of that! I enjoy being single but I'm always open to the possibility of new lady friends. Some people, however, just can't live without a "signifigant other".
Speaking of the beach, I'll be at OC in 2 weeks! It's sooo nice to get away and have a change of scenery.

Yep, I know women like this and I don't get it.........:shrug:

I had one girlfriend tell me that she hated being alone......so she is doing the dating/move them in thing. She moves to fast and gets disappointed every time. I don't understand why she puts herself through all this. I have told her to just take a chill pill and take her time. Why she makes herself this miserable is just beyond me.

 

[bresamil]

I understand. I'm pretty happy on my own and focusing on my kids. It took some time for my friends to understand it. When, IF, you are ready to share your life with someone, you'll know it.

 

[BuddyLee]

What they think doesn't bother me, it's the constant you need a man mentality and we are going to find you one whether you like it or not....................

I'll take you to the beach suga'.

 

[backagain39]

I'll take you to the beach suga'.

LMAO.....Ok as long as you don't want to borrow my under panties.....and if you dress like that then your paying!!!!!!!

 

[BuddyLee]

LMAO.....Ok as long as you don't want to borrow my under panties.....and if you dress like that then your paying!!!!!!!

Shwoo! I'm glad the costume stopped at the underpants. I'd forgotten about that.

 

[Queenofdenile1]

Why do friends insist that there is something *wrong* if a person has no desire to be in a relationship. Not bitter here, I just prefer to be alone. And alone is not the same as lonely.

I enjoy my quiet times. I enjoy being able to just get up and go at will without having to confer with a SO. I like having my own money. I like not eating dinner or getting up at 2am to have breakfast. Basically I guess I like being INDEPENDENT!!!!!!

I have friends that honestly can not stand being alone and that is fine for them just not what I want.

Anyone else have this situation with friends and family and how do you handle it?

I think it's probably more of a concern that family and friends don't want you to be alone. I am single, never married, and my friends and family want me to "meet someone". "Get on-line, MATCH.com, E-Harmony" etc. It's not my thing, but I would like to meet someone, but..... I'm also not willing to put myself out there to just get anyone. I'm okay w/being alone BUT I've alone for quite awhile. It's not great but it's not terrible. I tell my friends and family that "Yes, I would like to meet someone but it will happen when it's supposed to". For you, just say you're not interested in a relationship at the present time. There was a time when I didn't want a relationship and that is what I told people. If your family and friends ask "Why?" Just tell them that you are enjoying the single life right now and don't want to be confined to a relationship.