Relationships

[CRoyal]

Why do friends insist that there is something *wrong* if a person has no desire to be in a relationship. Not bitter here, I just prefer to be alone. And alone is not the same as lonely.

I enjoy my quiet times. I enjoy being able to just get up and go at will without having to confer with a SO. I like having my own money. I like not eating dinner or getting up at 2am to have breakfast. Basically I guess I like being INDEPENDENT!!!!!!

I have friends that honestly can not stand being alone and that is fine for them just not what I want.

Anyone else have this situation with friends and family and how do you handle it?

Relationships and marriage are overrated. For some reason, society expects everyone to be paired off and producing spawn... Most times people do this before they even know want they want or who they are as people. Who cares if you’re in a relationship or not? Odds are whatever relationship you do end up getting into will be worth a lot more than one you just get pushed into cause your friend says ‘you can’t be alone’.

 

[ItalianScallion]

I knew this fread would attract you like a moth to a flame

And why not? It happens to be where I am right now.

You're not being nice today!

 

[ItalianScallion]

I had one girlfriend tell me that she hated being alone......so she is doing the dating/move them in thing. She moves to fast and gets disappointed every time. I don't understand why she puts herself through all this. I have told her to just take a chill pill and take her time. Why she makes herself this miserable is just beyond me.

It's the women who lose in those types of relationships. My neighbor (a 24 yr old guy) has had 3 gals move in with him in the last 2 years and he just had the 3rd one move back in after she left earlier this year. I really believe that some people aren't truly happy unless there is drama and conflict in their lives. They can't handle loneliness so they convince themselves that drama is healthy. Misery loves company, I guess.

 

[Queenofdenile1]

It's the women who lose in those types of relationships. My neighbor (a 24 yr old guy) has had 3 gals move in with him in the last 2 years and he just had the 3rd one move back in after she left earlier this year. I really believe that some people aren't truly happy unless there is drama and conflict in their lives. They can't handle loneliness so they convince themselves that drama is healthy. Misery loves company, I guess.

Your right!!! I don't think women or men realize. Nobody like loneliness but who the he$$ likes the crap too? I would 10 times rather be alone now then to have to go through the other stuff. It's nothing but a headache and I'm too old and too tired to put up with it. You also have to understand it's YOUTH!!! You do things like that at 24 and be surprised how much you can tolerate. It's not until MUCH LATER and too many lousy relationships that you begin to not care anymore of whether or not your alone. You also become set in your ways and much choosier about potential mates.

 

[Chain729]

Why do friends insist that there is something *wrong* if a person has no desire to be in a relationship. Not bitter here, I just prefer to be alone. And alone is not the same as lonely.

I enjoy my quiet times. I enjoy being able to just get up and go at will without having to confer with a SO. I like having my own money. I like not eating dinner or getting up at 2am to have breakfast. Basically I guess I like being INDEPENDENT!!!!!!

I have friends that honestly can not stand being alone and that is fine for them just not what I want.

Anyone else have this situation with friends and family and how do you handle it?

It's called low hormones which create a low libido. If it wasn't for testosterone, I'd probably be a hermit.

 

[Chain729]

Your right!!! I don't think women or men realize. Nobody like loneliness but who the he$$ likes the crap too? I would 10 times rather be alone now then to have to go through the other stuff. It's nothing but a headache and I'm too old and too tired to put up with it. You also have to understand it's YOUTH!!! You do things like that at 24 and be surprised how much you can tolerate. It's not until MUCH LATER and too many lousy relationships that you begin to not care anymore of whether or not your alone. You also become set in your ways and much choosier about potential mates.

You aren't picky, you're just a bitter, man-hater.

 

[Queenofdenile1]

You aren't picky, you're just a bitter, man-hater.

You know, I don't even care anymore. You've already labeled me as a man-hater and thats fine. It's comical now. I'm tired of arguing w/you about it. You think whatever you want.

And to the comment about putting up with or not putting up with the crap......I rest my case!!!

 

[Baja28]

I have a couple of girlfriends that keep wanting me to go bar hopping with them and telling me ya might meet some interesting men, ahhh duh first off I don't drink and second I don't enjoy seeing drunks making azzes of themselves, so the type of men they are talking about are not ones that I would be interested in.........

Now if my friends wanted to go to flea markets or to take a trip to the beach, that would be cool!

1. What do you look like?
2. Are you chubby?
3. What kind of bike do you ride?
4. Who's your driver?
5. Did you know Otter is a fireman?

 

[Chain729]

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You know, I don't even care anymore. You've already labeled me as a man-hater and thats fine. It's comical now. I'm tired of arguing w/you about it. You think whatever you want.

And to the comment about putting up with or not putting up with the crap......I rest my case!!!

Acceptance is the first step toward changing for the better.

1. What do you look like?
2. Are you chubby?
3. What kind of bike do you ride?
4. Who's your driver?
5. Did you know Otter is a fireman?

You forgot: H/b/k

 

[backagain39]

1. What do you look like?
2. Are you chubby?
3. What kind of bike do you ride?
4. Who's your driver?
5. Did you know Otter is a fireman?

1. Average
2. Average
3. I used to ride a 10 speed bicycle years ago.....I don't do motorcycles...too old.
4. For NASCAR?....I was a Dale Earnhardt fan for years. I stopped watching after he died.
5. Who is Otter???

 

[backagain39]

It's called low hormones which create a low libido. If it wasn't for testosterone, I'd probably be a hermit.

I don't have a low libido, just no tolerance or time for drama. Quiet is good.........

 

[Chain729]

I don't have a low libido, just no tolerance or time for drama. Quiet is good.........

Anybody that can live without for extended periods and NOT be miserable has a problem.

 

[backagain39]

Anybody that can live without for extended periods and NOT be miserable has a problem.

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men.....

 

[Radiant1]

I don't have a low libido, just no tolerance or time for drama. Quiet is good.........

I enjoy my own company better than that of others, so I understand where you're coming from. Sometimes relationships just aren't worth the hassle and a good book is time better spent.

I've been six months as Mistress of My Domain and although I was really , I can't say I was miserable.

Good on ya for not being driven by your hormones!

 

[Larry Gude]

Yeah...

5. Did you know Otter is a fireman?

...it's true. I read it on the Internets.

 

[Chain729]

I enjoy my own company better than that of others, so I understand where you're coming from. Sometimes relationships just aren't worth the hassle and a good book is time better spent.

I've been six months as Mistress of My Domain and although I was really , I can't say I was miserable.

Good on ya for not being driven by your hormones!

your attitude says it for you.

 

[kris31280]

Anybody that can live without for extended periods and NOT be miserable has a problem.

... 1 acronym B.O.B.

B.O.B. comes in many shapes and sizes, many speeds, and often times can do things no man can do.

A girl can live quite unmiserably for quite some time if necessary with her B.O.B.

 

[Chain729]

... 1 acronym B.O.B.

B.O.B. comes in many shapes and sizes, many speeds, and often times can do things no man can do.

A girl can live quite unmiserably for quite some time if necessary with her B.O.B.

No, she just whines to her gf's about life not being fullfilling. There's a difference between sex and just getting off. One can't replace the other.

 

[jetmonkey]

... 1 acronym B.O.B.

B.O.B. comes in many shapes and sizes, many speeds, and often times can do things no man can do.

A girl can live quite unmiserably for quite some time if necessary with her B.O.B.

...

 

[Radiant1]

No, she just whines to her gf's about life not being fullfilling. There's a difference between sex and just getting off. One can't replace the other.

Are you referring to me?

Being Mistress of My Domain means not even using B.O.B. I don't want to live without it, but I can.