Role of a Daycare Center in Potty Training?

[KWAK]

Just looking for opinions here. . . you have a child, 3 years old, very ready to be using the potty (asks for diaper, tells me she's peeing in it, then takes it off when she's done). Said child is dropped off at daycare at 6:00 AM - and not picked up until about 4:30 PM. What role, in your opinion, should this daycare center play in potty training?

Another scenario - what would you think if you spent an entire weekend refusing such child diapers, cleaning pee constantly off the floor, then you send them to school Monday morning in big girl pants - only to pick her up wearing a diaper with her big girl pants overtop of the diaper? Would you be angry with the school for putting the diaper on? How would you have handled it?

 

[huntr1]

Just looking for opinions here. . . you have a child, 3 years old, very ready to be using the potty (asks for diaper, tells me she's peeing in it, then takes it off when she's done). Said child is dropped off at daycare at 6:00 AM - and not picked up until about 4:30 PM. What role, in your opinion, should this daycare center play in potty training?

Another scenario - what would you think if you spent an entire weekend refusing such child diapers, cleaning pee constantly off the floor, then you send them to school Monday morning in big girl pants - only to pick her up wearing a diaper with her big girl pants overtop of the diaper? Would you be angry with the school for putting the diaper on? How would you have handled it?

This is a situation you have to address BEFOREHAND with the childcare provider. Not the nutjobs on the internet.

 

[puggymom]

Just looking for opinions here. . . you have a child, 3 years old, very ready to be using the potty (asks for diaper, tells me she's peeing in it, then takes it off when she's done). Said child is dropped off at daycare at 6:00 AM - and not picked up until about 4:30 PM. What role, in your opinion, should this daycare center play in potty training?

Another scenario - what would you think if you spent an entire weekend refusing such child diapers, cleaning pee constantly off the floor, then you send them to school Monday morning in big girl pants - only to pick her up wearing a diaper with her big girl pants overtop of the diaper? Would you be angry with the school for putting the diaper on? How would you have handled it?

This is a tough question as I am a stay a home mom who is currently going through this whole potty training madness with my almost three year old.

I think that yes day care does have some obligation to assist in potty training. I mean almost every friend of mine whose child is in daycare says the child does BETTER with it in daycare. They are guessing a combination of the structure as well as following the lead of the other kids?

As for would I be upset? Yes, BUT I would give them the benefit of the doubt first and I would go in the next day a little early and explain specifically what you expect.

 

[puggymom]

This is a situation you have to address BEFOREHAND with the childcare provider. Not the nutjobs on the internet.

Are you a fellow Pastafarian?

 

[ImAChvyGirl]

If it were me I would let the day care know that I am trying to potty train and get them to encourage the use of the potty and do their best to not use a diaper. If rewards are involved with the child using the potty include them in the childs belongings when you drop them off to the day care center and get the provider to continue the reward process.

 

[RareBreed]

Just looking for opinions here. . . you have a child, 3 years old, very ready to be using the potty (asks for diaper, tells me she's peeing in it, then takes it off when she's done). Said child is dropped off at daycare at 6:00 AM - and not picked up until about 4:30 PM. What role, in your opinion, should this daycare center play in potty training?

Another scenario - what would you think if you spent an entire weekend refusing such child diapers, cleaning pee constantly off the floor, then you send them to school Monday morning in big girl pants - only to pick her up wearing a diaper with her big girl pants overtop of the diaper? Would you be angry with the school for putting the diaper on? How would you have handled it?

My day-care lady practically potty-trained both my kids. They would do so much better for her than for me, especially my youngest who would stay dry all day 7am-3pm and then come home and immediately pee in his pull-up. If your child is there all day, the day-care person has no choice but to assist in the training. If you let them know that you are going to start training and what you expect as in no diapers, they should stick with it. As far as the last scenerio, as a mom you expect to clean up the pee. As a day-care lady, I'd get sick of it real quick especially if it was all day which would imply that the child is not willing to use the toilet at my house. I would put the diaper back on too.

 

[terbear1225]

This is a situation you have to address BEFOREHAND with the childcare provider. Not the nutjobs on the internet.

I would imagine that daycare would be more than happy to help you with the potty training in whatever way you would like (if not, you need a different provider) they maybe just didn't know how you wanted them to handle accidents. my daycare has been wonderful in helping out but sometimes if there's someone different in peanut's room, they leave her in a pull up after nap because they simply don't know to take it off when she wakes up.

 

[KWAK]

I'm not trying to discuss anything with nut jobs on the internet - I'm trying to get the OPINION of other parents!

My daughter has been going to this school for over 2 years now - she took her first steps there - ate most of her first solid foods there - my point being that the lines of communication have ALWAYS been there! I've been having discussions with her teachers for months now in regard to potty training. Her morning teacher is very open to the idea - and willing to change her no matter how many times a day an accident may happen (which isn't all that frequesnt). Her afternoon teacher seems to be quite frustrated with her.

When I took her to school Monday morning, I made them all aware that she was wearing big girl pants, and that I hadn't allowed diapers all weekend (I don't use pull ups because then she changes herself - and I want her to feel some discomfort from a wet bum). They were well aware of what was going on. Heck, I've even offered cash to the person who gets my kid to pee on the potty!

My main reason for asking was to determine if I was overreacting a little that I kind of expect them to help out. At this point, I'm planning to take a week off from work to stay home and have the luxury of time to train her.

 

[terbear1225]

ok, with that info, my response is a little different. If you had a conversation with them about not wanting to use diapers and they did it anyway, then you have a right to be a bit upset.

something you might want to consider for daycare, have them put the diaper on outside the underwear. that way the discomfort of a wet "bum" is still there but there's less mess for a daycare provider to clean up.

 

[sockgirl77]

I'm not trying to discuss anything with nut jobs on the internet - I'm trying to get the OPINION of other parents!

My daughter has been going to this school for over 2 years now - she took her first steps there - ate most of her first solid foods there - my point being that the lines of communication have ALWAYS been there! I've been having discussions with her teachers for months now in regard to potty training. Her morning teacher is very open to the idea - and willing to change her no matter how many times a day an accident may happen (which isn't all that frequesnt). Her afternoon teacher seems to be quite frustrated with her.

When I took her to school Monday morning, I made them all aware that she was wearing big girl pants, and that I hadn't allowed diapers all weekend (I don't use pull ups because then she changes herself - and I want her to feel some discomfort from a wet bum). They were well aware of what was going on. Heck, I've even offered cash to the person who gets my kid to pee on the potty!

My main reason for asking was to determine if I was overreacting a little that I kind of expect them to help out. At this point, I'm planning to take a week off from work to stay home and have the luxury of time to train her.

Did you drop off extra pairs of big girl undies with her?

 

[KWAK]

Did you drop off extra pairs of big girl undies with her?

I dropped off 3 complete changes of clothes - big girl undies, pants, socks, tops, and even an extra pair of shoes!

 

[RareBreed]

ok, with that info, my response is a little different. If you had a conversation with them about not wanting to use diapers and they did it anyway, then you have a right to be a bit upset.

something you might want to consider for daycare, have them put the diaper on outside the underwear. that way the discomfort of a wet "bum" is still there but there's less mess for a daycare provider to clean up.

I agree about the diaper on the outside. I don't have my kids in a center so I don't know how they operate since there are more kids and more adults to help. I wanted the intamacy of a home care person so she had more time to devote to my kids. With my youngest, he was the only one at her house until recently. I agree that they should stick to your wishes but depending on how many kids there are there, they might have stuck her back in the diaper out of conveinence. If that's the case, you might want to check into gettting her into a smaller center or home day-care. As far as staying home for the week, don't expect miracles. She operates on her own time table, not yours. You might get her trained in that week or it might take a year. My youngest was on the verge of potty-training for a long time before he finally gave up and succumbed to always using the potty.

 

[jenbengen]

Just looking for opinions here. . . you have a child, 3 years old, very ready to be using the potty (asks for diaper, tells me she's peeing in it, then takes it off when she's done). Said child is dropped off at daycare at 6:00 AM - and not picked up until about 4:30 PM. What role, in your opinion, should this daycare center play in potty training?

Another scenario - what would you think if you spent an entire weekend refusing such child diapers, cleaning pee constantly off the floor, then you send them to school Monday morning in big girl pants - only to pick her up wearing a diaper with her big girl pants overtop of the diaper? Would you be angry with the school for putting the diaper on? How would you have handled it?

If child was peeing on the floor all weekend, child should probably have been sent to daycare with at least a pull up on as a compromise. Daycare has a role in helping with potty training, but cleaning pee of the floor numerous times a day and changing child's clothes more than once or twice is a lot to ask for a lot of them.

Talk some more with them about what will work best. Good luck to ya- it's a tough job!

 

[CableChick]

My new daycare has done more w/ potty training than my old daycare They even suggested I send him in w/ big boy underwear ... they'll do the clean-up. :shrug: It's a rough job, but everyone involved plays a role and a good daycare provider knows this. Surely they don't want to be changing the pull-ups of the 5 year olds.

 

[chemommy25]

Just looking for opinions here. . . you have a child, 3 years old, very ready to be using the potty (asks for diaper, tells me she's peeing in it, then takes it off when she's done). Said child is dropped off at daycare at 6:00 AM - and not picked up until about 4:30 PM. What role, in your opinion, should this daycare center play in potty training?

Another scenario - what would you think if you spent an entire weekend refusing such child diapers, cleaning pee constantly off the floor, then you send them to school Monday morning in big girl pants - only to pick her up wearing a diaper with her big girl pants overtop of the diaper? Would you be angry with the school for putting the diaper on? How would you have handled it?

I have had a lot of expierince in helping with toddlers potty training. i have worked at daycares for about 3 years. First you have to speak to the daycare about what your intentions are and what you are trying to accomplish and have them work with you. The daycare is supposed to repeatedly ask your child like every half hour or so if they need to go to the bathroom to try to aviod an accident. But if the child has too many accidents in one day the daycare can't help but to put her in a pull-up or diaper. You have to remember daycare workers are not only watching your children but many others, and they cant stop to clean up pee and change your childs outfit everytime she needs to pee. But i do know from experience that daycare workers will always listen to the parents when it comes to how they want tp potty trian your child. Beleive me when you work at a daycare you want all of the kids to be potty-trained, it is always more convienient for you when you dont have to stop and clean up a mess in the middle of activities and what not. So i would'nt be angry with the school.

 

[sockgirl77]

My new daycare has done more w/ potty training than my old daycare They even suggested I send him in w/ big boy underwear ... they'll do the clean-up. :shrug: It's a rough job, but everyone involved plays a role and a good daycare provider knows this. Surely they don't want to be changing the pull-ups of the 5 year olds.

My son is going to start peeing on trees this week.

 

[RareBreed]

My son is going to start peeing on trees this week.

I've had neighbors tell me they look out their windows and see mine with his pants at his ankles peeing in the leaves along side our court.

 

[Dymphna]

I'm not trying to discuss anything with nut jobs on the internet - I'm trying to get the OPINION of other parents!

My daughter has been going to this school for over 2 years now - she took her first steps there - ate most of her first solid foods there - my point being that the lines of communication have ALWAYS been there! I've been having discussions with her teachers for months now in regard to potty training. Her morning teacher is very open to the idea - and willing to change her no matter how many times a day an accident may happen (which isn't all that frequesnt). Her afternoon teacher seems to be quite frustrated with her.

When I took her to school Monday morning, I made them all aware that she was wearing big girl pants, and that I hadn't allowed diapers all weekend (I don't use pull ups because then she changes herself - and I want her to feel some discomfort from a wet bum). They were well aware of what was going on. Heck, I've even offered cash to the person who gets my kid to pee on the potty!

My main reason for asking was to determine if I was overreacting a little that I kind of expect them to help out. At this point, I'm planning to take a week off from work to stay home and have the luxury of time to train her.

School and daycare are two totally different things. "Schools" don't do potty training. As for a daycare center, which is what I gather you are really talking about here...it depends. Most have a method they use. This method may or may not be the best for a given child. It may or may not jive with the way a parents wants it done or with the parent's philosophy on the subject...do a search on potty training here and see how many different ideas you get.

You also need to consider that children act totally different at your home compared to daycare or even grandma's house. You can't assume that if the child is doing what she's supposed to at home, that she'll do the same at day care...and vice versa. Also, if she's in a room full of children, there is no way she'll get the one on one potty training attention most children need. OTOH, some children learn because they see their peers doing it, so the group situation works.

Also, I agree with jen, if she was peeing all over the floor all weekend, why would you expect someone else to accept that method when they have a room full of other children? Because I guarantee you as soon as she makes a puddle, some other little kid wants to play in it....Would you want to be the mother of that other kid?

 

[poster]

Just looking for opinions here. . . you have a child, 3 years old, very ready to be using the potty (asks for diaper, tells me she's peeing in it, then takes it off when she's done). Said child is dropped off at daycare at 6:00 AM - and not picked up until about 4:30 PM. What role, in your opinion, should this daycare center play in potty training?

Another scenario - what would you think if you spent an entire weekend refusing such child diapers, cleaning pee constantly off the floor, then you send them to school Monday morning in big girl pants - only to pick her up wearing a diaper with her big girl pants overtop of the diaper? Would you be angry with the school for putting the diaper on? How would you have handled it?

I could be wrong but I'm pretty certain than licensing will not allow a daycare let a child walk around in panties until they are fully trained. In other words accidents have to be rare. It is considered a health hazzard. Don't take this the wrong way but as a parent I would not want my child to have contact with anyone else's urine - even if it was accidental.

It's been my experience, when my daughter trained, it was mandatory for the providor to use pullups (to avoid leaks) and would ask the child to sit on the potty during every mandatory break, such as before/after playground or snack/lunch, and to take them whenever child asks (unless of course the child makes a game of this and they're asking to go every 10min., some kids do).

Also - not to offend, but if your cleaning pee off the floor, the child's not truely ready to train. You should ask the providor what they're policy is on training, all centers/providers differ. Keep in mind also that if your child is asking at home, it does not mean they're asking at daycare.

 

[thebird]

I'm not trying to discuss anything with nut jobs on the internet - I'm trying to get the OPINION of other parents!

My daughter has been going to this school for over 2 years now - she took her first steps there - ate most of her first solid foods there - my point being that the lines of communication have ALWAYS been there! I've been having discussions with her teachers for months now in regard to potty training. Her morning teacher is very open to the idea - and willing to change her no matter how many times a day an accident may happen (which isn't all that frequesnt). Her afternoon teacher seems to be quite frustrated with her.

When I took her to school Monday morning, I made them all aware that she was wearing big girl pants, and that I hadn't allowed diapers all weekend (I don't use pull ups because then she changes herself - and I want her to feel some discomfort from a wet bum). They were well aware of what was going on. Heck, I've even offered cash to the person who gets my kid to pee on the potty!

My main reason for asking was to determine if I was overreacting a little that I kind of expect them to help out. At this point, I'm planning to take a week off from work to stay home and have the luxury of time to train her.

I am in the very same situation as you now. My daycare provider has been told repeatedly that I need her help with this as he spends most of the day with her but somehow, someway...he always comes home in a diaper. I've tried talking to her numerous times to no avail...it just doesn't work. She has been like a grandmother to my son and I try to be understanding...but he does so great at home all weekend and then it isn't followed up with during the week and all of my progress is lost!