Scenario: Should he be in the delivery room?

[Qurious]

Men:
You left your wife who is 6 months pregnant with your 3rd child because you weren't happy. Your staying with a relative who you can't stand but refuse to come back home because you want to move on with your life. You do not visit your kids nor do you call them. You haven't been to one doctors appointment with your wife since she's been pregnant. The time comes for her to have the baby and you want to be there - Do you think your entitled to be in the delivery room when your 3rd child is born?

Ladies:

Do you think he is entitled to be there? Would you want him there?

 

[cattitude]

No. And NO!

 

[citysherry]

Is he entitled to be in the delivery room - ABSOLUTELY NOT! With that having been said, if I were in this particular situation, I would let him be present at the baby’s delivery because he is the baby's father...and the baby has to get use to having an azzclown for father anyway - so it might as well start from birth.

 

[vraiblonde]

Q, is this the woman you were talking about before?

http://forums.somd.com/showthread.php?t=79407

Anyway, the answer is no - he isn't entitled to be in the delivery room when she has this baby. He should have thought about that before he left her high and dry.

 

[Mikeinsmd]

If he's moved out, doesn't visit HIS kids, doesn't call HIS kids, (Dr's appts are irrelevant) he obviously wants out of his former life, why on earth would he want to be in the delivery room??

 

[BlackSheep]

Men:
You left your wife who is 6 months pregnant with your 3rd child because you weren't happy. Your staying with a relative who you can't stand but refuse to come back home because you want to move on with your life. You do not visit your kids nor do you call them. You haven't been to one doctors appointment with your wife since she's been pregnant. The time comes for her to have the baby and you want to be there - Do you think your entitled to be in the delivery room when your 3rd child is born?

Ladies:

Do you think he is entitled to be there? Would you want him there?

He wants to be there-ask the baby's mama-if she says NO-then NO it is.

 

[Club'nBabySeals]

Hell, I'm still debating whether or not my perfectly good husband who's been to every single one of my OB appointments should be allowed in the delivery room...

Should be a no-brainer. She'd best tell the guy to take a hike.

 

[Darkprincess]

Why would she even what him there?

 

[Tigerlily]

I would say it's up to her.:shrug:

 

[Dickinsmd]

He sure it's his?

 

[Fallen]

Your friends all sound like real winners. Or at least, the people they choose to be with and get pregnant by, seem to be.

 

[punjabigyrl]

I feel for you girl. I would talk to him and remind him that he is the one that left, not visited the kids, didn't put an E for effort to be at the OB appointments and for that he has NOOOOOOO right to be in the delivary room.

 

[Bustem' Down]

He probably shouldn't be there, but legally as the father, he has the right.

 

[buddy999]

Men:
You left your wife who is 6 months pregnant with your 3rd child because you weren't happy. Your staying with a relative who you can't stand but refuse to come back home because you want to move on with your life. You do not visit your kids nor do you call them. You haven't been to one doctors appointment with your wife since she's been pregnant. The time comes for her to have the baby and you want to be there - Do you think your entitled to be in the delivery room when your 3rd child is born?

Ladies:

Do you think he is entitled to be there? Would you want him there?

As a man, my initial answer to this would have been YES, the husband should be entitled to be there during the birth. If there has been no move by either party to file for divorce, then, as the husband he would still have the right to be there. That being said, the mother would have an equal right to refuse his request to be present and her desires, since he walked out would take presidence over his.

His being there or not being there would have no bearing on his responsibility as the father however.

Since the guy walked out to "start a new life", why would he even consider being at the birth? It's obvious that since he has had no contact with his other two siblings since he left, he has no interest in his family.

 

[aps45819]

You do not visit your kids nor do you call them. You haven't been to one doctors appointment with your wife since she's been pregnant. The time comes for her to have the baby and you want to be there - Do you think your entitled to be in the delivery room when your 3rd child is born?

If he has no contact with the wife and kids, how would he know when the birth occures?

Don't think Dad is "entitled" to anything if he walked out.

 

[aps45819]

True Story

Last wife got preggers, we got married, she walked a couple of months later. Son's birthday comes up and I get a call informing me of the impending delivery and an invite to attend.


Was on a date in the middle of dinner at the time.

 

[Homer J]

He probably shouldn't be there, but legally as the father, he has the right.

He may think he has the right but ultimately the expectant mother can say who she does and doesn't want in the delivery room. She and the baby are the doctor's and nurses only concern and if she says no then they will make sure the bum doesn't get in.

 

[Vince]

Men:
You left your wife who is 6 months pregnant with your 3rd child because you weren't happy. Your staying with a relative who you can't stand but refuse to come back home because you want to move on with your life. You do not visit your kids nor do you call them. You haven't been to one doctors appointment with your wife since she's been pregnant. The time comes for her to have the baby and you want to be there - Do you think your entitled to be in the delivery room when your 3rd child is born?

Ladies:

Do you think he is entitled to be there? Would you want him there?

The azzhole leaves his wife and kids, has no contact with either, wants to move on with his life.....doesn't take a brain surgeon to figure this one out. If he hasn't bothered with the kids he already has, what makes anyone think he would bother with the one that isn't born yet? And why would she even want him there. Take him for every penny of support she can get out of him and move on.

 

[workin hard]

Why does he suddenly want to be there for this one's birth if he hasn't had any contact with his other kids so far?

 

[morallyright]

It sounds to me like he's playing games with your emotions. Question for you, are the other children the same sex and he's hoping for a son or his little princess? But no way should he be in the delivery room, he's left you to do it alone this long?