She is at a loss
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can we just shack up on weekends first? 
Larry Gude
Strung Out
My husband and I met and married within 3 months. Everyone thought it wouldn't last a year. After 17 years so far, I think most think I'm just holding out just to spite everyone.
Even if that is the reason, it is YOUR reason, right? I mean, at first glance, most would agree with Vrai; this woman is nuts. But, we don't KNOW her. Or him.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Too soon, eh?
Yes. I guess after being pretty much single for 10 years makes me persnickety.
BadGirl
I am so very blessed
This is my sole purpose in life.Yeah, but, I bet you know people who were together for ages, then tied the not and, poof, over in a year.
Now, some of the long lasting relationships I know did, in fact, follow your point; get to know, years, then do it. Some are very happy, some I wouldn't want what they have. Hell, I think we all know some people who did everything the 'right' way but, stay together, basically, to keep one another miserable.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Yes. I guess after being pretty much single for 10 years makes me persnickety.
Is that what they're calling it these days?
I think it's because people spend so much time trying to fit square pegs in round holes. Like this crazy woman: its not right, they know it's not right, yet they hang in there anyway for whatever reason. Fear, laziness, financial security, don't like to admit defeat, who knows.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
There is a fair bit of research that points to year 2, 7 years and 14 years being 'tough' stages.
At two years NOTHING is new anymore. Familiarity settles in. ANYTHING that was kinda ignored is now annoying. If you get past that, it seems year 7 brings about the 'is this all there is???' and if you get past that, it sorta happens again at 14 and if you get passed that, you're pretty much good.
One of my lawyers has an awful story about some clients that, after 50 years, they decided to divorce. They went to war over everything and pretty much wasted all their resources on lawyers. Then, what did they do after a couple years of this?
Re marry.
My last girlfriend is, as I understand it, back with her ex. This after the two of them pissed away a bunch of money on lawyers. But, she was at year 20 or something when she left him.
Another couple I know is approaching 20 and have settled into a friendly, relaxed dislike of one another. Yet another couple are happy as clams at 20 years and their story is that they liked all the same things when they first hit it off; concerts, types of music, winter sports, lifestyle compatible, kids, shared friends, all of it. Their peers are this huge mixed bag of can't stand one another to sort of resigned to like one another well enough to doing it for the kids and so on and so forth.
WTH? He took her back after all that???
Baja28
Obama destroyed America
I would love to meet "the one" and in a few months spend the rest of my life happy but odds are against that happening.
I believe it will be someone I already know and we just haven't connected yet.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Don't ask me. I don't know how this #### works. I'm just here for the beer. :shrug: I don't know that they are together together because we don't talk anymore. I had heard that they are together around town at events and stuff. When we were still talking, she told me they were doing Sunday brunch every week and the house she bought is just down the road from him.
I still get a lot of miles out of Grandma and Boom Pa stories. :shrug:
JeJeTe
Happiness
I'd like to think the older the you get the more you know better. So a 21 year old me wouldn't enter the same relationship as the 33 year old me. Maybe the key is getting together later after you've learned some lessons versus how long you've known each other.
I would love to meet "the one" and in a few months spend the rest of my life happy but odds are against that happening.
I believe it will be someone I already know and we just haven't connected yet.
You never know what or who could be around the bend. That was always the best part about being single. You never knew where the day would take you or who it would take you to.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
I would love to meet "the one" and in a few months spend the rest of my life happy but odds are against that happening.
I believe it will be someone I already know and we just haven't connected yet.
Well, it's never too soon to get the pit ready because you just never know when true love will fall into your lap. So to speak. That's what I always say... :shrug:
Baja28
Obama destroyed America
:fixed: :iknowright:
JeJeTe
Happiness
Larry Gude
Strung Out
#### if I know. The last 4 women in my life who were around for more than a few months were all VERY different.
I can draw up, I think, my ideal 'her' at this point but, she's a composite.