Some Men....

[missperky]

No....thats men to a T.......Men always go stomping back to the woman prior that made their life hell in the first place. If you want to go back and be mistreated again and be in an unsatisfying relationship then go on back to her. you deserve her if you aren't wise enough to see you are better than that and you can to better. Its pretty damn sad.

They won't come stomping back if you don't allow it.

 

[gumbo]

Wrong rack'm, I bet your wife bangs her head on the wall trying to get you to take the trash out too.

The thing is, this issue is common among many woman, not just nit. I see an unequal household chore list in every household where a wife is present. Women connect helping with the household chores as intimacy, it is a fact. I guarantee if a man wants more sex, run the vacuum, dust, do laundry, clean the bathroom. It WILL work!

Point takin ..But thats only if both are working.

 

[nitwhit3286]

Wrong rack'm, I bet your wife bangs her head on the wall trying to get you to take the trash out too.

The thing is, this issue is common among many woman, not just nit. I see an unequal household chore list in every household where a wife is present. Women connect helping with the household chores as intimacy, it is a fact. I guarantee if a man wants more sex, run the vacuum, dust, do laundry, clean the bathroom. It WILL work!

The only thing I don't do is take out the garbage. But when you are mad or angry or upset....he will quickly go about making himself useful around the house.....and thats sweet.

 

[nitwhit3286]

They won't come stomping back if you don't allow it.

I will never be a second option to someone. I refuse to be second!! haha

 

[nitwhit3286]

Point takin ..But thats only if both are working.

And raising a child is not a "full time" job to you?

 

[missperky]

I will never be a second option to someone. I refuse to be second!! haha

You can be third..

 

[chewy3384]

The only thing I don't do is take out the garbage. But when you are mad or angry or upset....he will quickly go about making himself useful around the house.....and thats sweet.

this all isn't just about trash now is it.

 

[missperky]

And raising a child is not a "full time" job to you?

Don't get paid for it...:shrug:

 

[rack'm]

The only thing I don't do is take out the garbage. But when you are mad or angry or upset....he will quickly go about making himself useful around the house.....and thats sweet.

Kissing ass is not sweet.

 

[nitwhit3286]

this all isn't just about trash now is it.

no....like rack'm says..what I am dealing with isn't all guys...just the ones I pick....

 

[gumbo]

The only thing I don't do is take out the garbage. But when you are mad or angry or upset....he will quickly go about making himself useful around the house.....and thats sweet.

Oh heaven for bid that you need to remind the hard workin man of his duties before he does them...perhaps you should be a lesbian if thats all you have to gripe about.

 

[Pandora]

Point takin ..But thats only if both are working.

I will agree with that.

I think if one spouse is home all day, those rules don't necessarily qualify but my mother had 3 of us at home and she would have loved it if my father pitched in a little bit.

It is complete role reversal since we've moved here anyway. I'm the slacker now. A couple of weeks ago he asked me to help him outside and when he came in, I was laying on the sofa reading. I forgot.

 

[nitwhit3286]

Don't get paid for it...:shrug:

true...its just the satisfaction in knowing you are raising your own child.

 

[missperky]

true...its just the satisfaction in knowing you are raising your own child.

Yes, I am raising 4.

 

[nitwhit3286]

perhaps you should be a lesbian if thats all you have to gripe about.

Yeah, maybe.....

 

[nitwhit3286]

Yes, I am raising 4.

holy cow! Well that is full time now isn't it.

 

[gumbo]

And raising a child is not a "full time" job to you?

If you're going to have the job of home maker then don't complain and whine about doing the chores of the home.
I'm sure there are parts of his job he don't want to do, but I'm sure that un like you, he has enough sense to know he can't pick a choose the parts he don't like to do.

 

[chewy3384]

Yes, I am raising 4.

power to ya!

 

[nitwhit3286]

If you're going to have the job of home maker then don't complain and whine about doing the chores of the home.
I'm sure there are parts of his job he don't want to do, but I'm sure that un like you, he has enough sense to know he can't pick a choose the parts he don't like to do.

I'll pick and choose not to do the trash because that is something I don't do.

 

[chewy3384]

If you're going to have the job of home maker then don't complain and whine about doing the chores of the home.
I'm sure there are parts of his job he don't want to do, but I'm sure that un like you, he has enough sense to know he can't pick a choose the parts he don't like to do.

very well said!