Well, so far so good anyway. The youngest is only 10 but she has pretty good role models in her older sisters so I'm just keeping my fingers crossed.Originally posted by RoseRed
Sounds like you have done a great job Blondie!
Spanking a child
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And I haven't even done anything particularly bad today! AnonymousPenguin
Lead Penguin
Originally posted by RoseRed
It also bugs the heck out of me when I am discipling my child and some other adult looks at me like I am some sort of monster for doing so.
I don't think there is anything wrong with disciplining your child in public by talking sternly or what not...
but....
I see some parents hitting their child in public.... cursing at them... etc...
Although I don't interfere with the parent-child....I do wonder to myself what is wrong w/ the parent. I don't think it is appropriate to hit your child in public...it looks very bad. There is a thin line between spankings and abuse...and it is hard to tell if you just walk into a parent hitting their child.
I think when your child mishaves at the store, a look or directions from the parent, should stop the child. When you get home, explain to them they are being punished for misbehaving in the store... and give them time out or whatever. Next time, they'll know if they don't behave when they get the look...they're in trouble after they get home.
AnonymousPenguin
Lead Penguin
Originally posted by SxyPrincess
I've tried that before--my daughter started helping throw her toys away.
Christy
b*tch rocket
And what world are you living in?
Maybe I've got dense kids, but I've never ever been able to reason with a child! At least not until the age of eight or so. I'm sorry, but my kids know there is pain involved when it comes to acting up in public. I don't spank, I merely get those real sensitive hairs on the back of their neck and slightly tug up on them (as they walk out of the store on their tippy toes), or right underneath the arm where the skin is sensitive. Works like a charm. I can't remember the last time my kids were demons in a store. Sure they whine a bit, but that's dwindling also because as soon as they start whining "get me this or get me that", it's an instant no brainer, that they won't get anything but a passing glimpse of what mamma isn't going to buy for them! I do always reward my kids with something if they've been little angels, but that's only if I don't have to warn them to be good in the store and they remember to be good all on their own.Spanking, definitely!
Whether it's in the checkout line or at home, nothing gets a childs attention like a swat on the butt. As a parent who has raised two children, one 17 and one 19 now, I found that a swat on the butt with your hand gets their attention. It was rare that I had to put one of them over my knee and give them more that one smack, but that gets results too, when nothing else works. Just the threat is not enough without carrying through with it. Kids are smart and they'll figure out your bluffing if all you do is threaten and don't carry through with it.
Whether it's in the checkout line or at home, nothing gets a childs attention like a swat on the butt. As a parent who has raised two children, one 17 and one 19 now, I found that a swat on the butt with your hand gets their attention. It was rare that I had to put one of them over my knee and give them more that one smack, but that gets results too, when nothing else works. Just the threat is not enough without carrying through with it. Kids are smart and they'll figure out your bluffing if all you do is threaten and don't carry through with it.
J
justhangn
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Originally posted by pixiegirl
I've been slacking on my duties here lately...
Everyone here gets a!
WOOHHOOOO!!
AnonymousPenguin
Lead Penguin
Originally posted by Christy
And what world are you living in?
Christy, good question. I live in the world of "I have no kids"...
So, ofcourse I have the perfect solution. I understand that you won't be able to reason with a young child...so punish them after they get home.
Penguin, I LOVE you for saying that!
Tonio
Asperger's Poster Child
Great thoughts. I don't like the idea of corporal punishment myself. Part of it is because I was picked on a lot in school and in college. Although I've dealt with the anger over the years, it hasn't gone away completely. There's a remote possibility that if I spanked my daughter, my anger could get the better of me.
I shake my head ruefully whenever people blame Dr. Benjamin Spock for society's problems. Spock was against corporal punishment, but he never said that parents shouldn't discipline their children. That would be total hogwash.
J
justhangn
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The need for self-control is evident, punishing a child is not supposed to be used as a tool to hurt your child, it should be used as a deterrent. IF you strike your child out of anger, you need to address your issues long before you try to address your child’s issues.
Have you tried standing him in the corner? If he's OC, you may have to physically hold him there (that's why they make Daddies stronger than children
). But sometimes with younger children, the restraining makes them feel better for some strange reason. Anybody else ever notice that?
Joey, he LOOKS like a pistol! Have fun, buddy!
J
justhangn
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Nice airbrushing job on covering up the horns. 
