SxyPrincess
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Consider what you'd have to handle when your "girl" gets older---BOYS!!! :razz2: I'm glad I have several more years to get a grip on things before mine is at the dating stage.
Spanking a child
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Consider what you'd have to handle when your "girl" gets older---BOYS!!! :razz2: I'm glad I have several more years to get a grip on things before mine is at the dating stage.
You know what they say, Sxy - when you have a boy you only have one weenie to worry about. With a girl, you have them ALL!
Steve
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My single mother often resorted to the belt to bring my brother and I in line. Until we were tall enough to reach it and hide it, that is! 
We're not scarred from the experience, mentally or physically. At least I'm not.
I've spanked both our kids over the years, usually for being totally out of control. I used a belt on my step-son once for sending a pencil flying into another child's eye at school. This happened during a very difficult behavioral time with him, and I made it VERY clear that this would not be tolerated any more. It worked, and he's been great at school ever since.
The down side was that when his father learned about it, he felt I shouldn't "discipline" his son for any reason, but that it was Christy's responsibility only.
Yeah right! What world is he living in?
Feel free to comment on that one. That's probably a whole new thread topic: "Limits for the Step Parent"
We're not scarred from the experience, mentally or physically. At least I'm not.I've spanked both our kids over the years, usually for being totally out of control. I used a belt on my step-son once for sending a pencil flying into another child's eye at school. This happened during a very difficult behavioral time with him, and I made it VERY clear that this would not be tolerated any more. It worked, and he's been great at school ever since.
The down side was that when his father learned about it, he felt I shouldn't "discipline" his son for any reason, but that it was Christy's responsibility only.
Yeah right! What world is he living in?
Feel free to comment on that one. That's probably a whole new thread topic: "Limits for the Step Parent"
SxyPrincess
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Originally posted by vraiblonde
You know what they say, Sxy - when you have a boy you only have one weenie to worry about. With a girl, you have them ALL!
In that case, Vrai, you'll to worry about them again, and again....
SxyPrincess
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Steve,
How's the week going w/out Christy? No, I wasn't asked to check-up on you. Just thought I'd ask the "drill sgt." how things were going.
How's the week going w/out Christy? No, I wasn't asked to check-up on you. Just thought I'd ask the "drill sgt." how things were going.
Steve,
#1, I think your brother is scarred.
(j/k)
#2, if the kid lives with you, then you have the right to parent that child. If the bio-Dad doesn't like it, tough. You and Christy have a pair of really nice children - I can't see how bio-Dad would have anything legitimate to complain about in their upbringing.
#1, I think your brother is scarred.
(j/k)#2, if the kid lives with you, then you have the right to parent that child. If the bio-Dad doesn't like it, tough. You and Christy have a pair of really nice children - I can't see how bio-Dad would have anything legitimate to complain about in their upbringing.
K
Kizzy
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Vrail,
I agree with that! I don't know how many times I have seen tired children getting pulled around a store when they need a nap. Then, the parents wonder why they are bad. I have spanked my son over a few things. I do not hit them in the face. My husband's mother did this and I think it is wrong. My father would use the belt on me. I would have to go and get the belt from the closet. I think that is the worst thing in the world. My father would say no that belt isn't big enough get a bigger one. I would boo hoo all the way down the hall. Little did I know, the smaller belt would have hurt worse then the big one.
I don't know if it is worse going and getting the belt or getting the belt?
I agree with that! I don't know how many times I have seen tired children getting pulled around a store when they need a nap. Then, the parents wonder why they are bad. I have spanked my son over a few things. I do not hit them in the face. My husband's mother did this and I think it is wrong. My father would use the belt on me. I would have to go and get the belt from the closet. I think that is the worst thing in the world. My father would say no that belt isn't big enough get a bigger one. I would boo hoo all the way down the hall. Little did I know, the smaller belt would have hurt worse then the big one.
I don't know if it is worse going and getting the belt or getting the belt?
K
Kain99
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Sound Advice
The secret to great kids is mutual respect! We do not spank our kids for several reasons...
First spanking is way to easy on the offender! It is much more effective to make the punishment last. Spanking takes absolutely no effort from the parent.
Violence begets violence. Don't be suprised when your "spanked" children turn into out of control brats!
I am the proud parent of 3 unspanked for life teenagers. Good grades, well mannered, goal oriented.
I feel strongly that spankers should pack it in and sell their kids.
The secret to great kids is mutual respect! We do not spank our kids for several reasons...
First spanking is way to easy on the offender! It is much more effective to make the punishment last. Spanking takes absolutely no effort from the parent.
Violence begets violence. Don't be suprised when your "spanked" children turn into out of control brats!
I am the proud parent of 3 unspanked for life teenagers. Good grades, well mannered, goal oriented.
I feel strongly that spankers should pack it in and sell their kids.
SxyPrincess
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Re: Sound Advice
Not true! My mom use to beat my a$$ when I was younger. I've been whipped with the belt and spanked with a brush.
I'm the oldest of several children who never got spanked like I did. THEY are the brats! So, Kain--there goes that "theory" of yours.
Not true! My mom use to beat my a$$ when I was younger. I've been whipped with the belt and spanked with a brush.
I'm the oldest of several children who never got spanked like I did. THEY are the brats! So, Kain--there goes that "theory" of yours.
J
justhangn
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Re: Re: Sound Advice
Agreed! Kain's advice is
There are children that you do not have to lift a hand to, I have one, but the OTHER one is another story.
Originally posted by SxyPrincess
Not true! My mom use to beat my a$$ when I was younger. I've been whipped with the belt and spanked with a brush.
I'm the oldest of several children who never got spanked like I did. THEY are the brats! So, Kain--there goes that "theory" of yours.
Agreed! Kain's advice is
There are children that you do not have to lift a hand to, I have one, but the OTHER one is another story.
I don't think anyone has ever gotten a child to behave by hitting them. Just MHO. It makes me crazy to see these women smacking their kid, then the kid starts to bawl and she smacks him AGAIN, yelling, "Quit that crying!" *Smack* "STOP that crying!" *Smack* Makes me want to go over and see if she'd cry if I smacked HER.
I must admit, it's a lot easier the 4th time around - when it was my son, I had NO idea what to do. By the time the daughters came along, I was all over it. Why do you think grandparents get the kids to behave so much better than parents can? LOTS of practice.
SmallTown
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Re: Sound Advice
With all the talk recently about your daughter having these wild liberal notions and thinking she is smarter than you, don't you wish you have have spanked to put the fear of god in her?
Originally posted by Kain99
The secret to great kids is mutual respect! We do not spank our kids for several reasons...
First spanking is way to easy on the offender! It is much more effective to make the punishment last. Spanking takes absolutely no effort from the parent.
Violence begets violence. Don't be suprised when your "spanked" children turn into out of control brats!
I am the proud parent of 3 unspanked for life teenagers. Good grades, well mannered, goal oriented.
I feel strongly that spankers should pack it in and sell their kids.
With all the talk recently about your daughter having these wild liberal notions and thinking she is smarter than you, don't you wish you have have spanked to put the fear of god in her?