Still miss him

[softballgrl]

I'm still missing my ex ~ (long sigh) I was doing good...and then I heard Kenny Chesney's song.. "Better as a Memory" ~ wow...these lyrics are wonderful. *I have good days and some not so good, ....I'll pass him on the road and try SOOO hard not to look. I loved him so much. I'm trying to date and move on. It's very hard at times. **If you have someone special let them know every day**


move on like a sinners prayer
let 'em go like a levee breaks
walk away as if i don't care
learn to shoulder my mistakes
built to fade like your favorite song
get reckless when there's no need
laugh as your stories ramble on
break my heart but it won't bleed
my only friends are pirates, it's just who i am
i'm better as a memory than as your man.

never sure when the truth won't do
i'm pretty good on a lonely night
move on the way a storm blows through
never stay, but then again, i might
struggle sometimes to find the words
always sure until i doubt
walk a line until it blurs
build walls too high to climb out
but i'm honest to a fault, it's just who i am
i'm better as a memory than as your man

I see you leanin', you're bound to fall
I don't wanna be that mistake
i'm just a dreamer, nothing more
you should know it before it gets too late

cause good-bye's are like a roulette wheel
you never know where they're gonna land
first you're spinning, then you're standing still
left holding a losin' hand
one day you're gonna find someone
right away, you'll know it's true
that all of your seeking is done
Its just a part of the passing through
right there in that moment
you'll finally understand
that i was better as a memory than as your man
better as a memory than as your man

 

[softballgrl]

It was so nice to know that someone would be home at night to talk to about the days interactions. We seemed to be comfortable with each other right from the start. I miss that. It's hard to find that comfort level now. I loved cooking for him and taking care of him. He usually seemed so thankful. I only wish his friends weren't so involved in our every move. I couldn't stand that. I went to visit his family and instantly liked them, they reminded me of my family growing up. So many things remind me of him. ...but...maybe loving the 'memory' will help. I'm not an expert at dating that's for sure. I wish the ending was as good as the beginning ~ guess some things have to end in order for us to grow and move toward something greater, but....I still miss him. I haven't taken his picture out of the origional frame and it's still up. Any tips on moving on? .....and yeah, I'm prepared for the jokes you guys will send me, like you always do.

have a good night ~ blessings!!!

 

[toppick08]

It was so nice to know that someone would be home at night to talk to about the days interactions. We seemed to be comfortable with each other right from the start. I miss that. It's hard to find that comfort level now. I loved cooking for him and taking care of him. He usually seemed so thankful. I only wish his friends weren't so involved in our every move. I couldn't stand that. I went to visit his family and instantly liked them, they reminded me of my family growing up. So many things remind me of him. ...but...maybe loving the 'memory' will help. I'm not an expert at dating that's for sure. I wish the ending was as good as the beginning ~ guess some things have to end in order for us to grow and move toward something greater, but....I still miss him. I haven't taken his picture out of the origional frame and it's still up. Any tips on moving on? .....and yeah, I'm prepared for the jokes you guys will send me, like you always do.

have a good night ~ blessings!!!

yes..move on...

 

[softballgrl]

I thought we'd share our future....we had talked about so many different things we wanted to do. I still wear this ring he gave me. It just feels like 'it's not fair'....it was really no ones 'fault' that it ended. It just feels so strange not talking to him. He became my best friend. ......like I said, some days are better than others. God fills those empty spaces though ~ it just takes time.

 

[Beelzebaby666]

Aww, honey I know that is so hard to see someone you love and not be able to talk to them...I have very recently been there and feel as you do.

In fact, I gave him the finger and he came back

I hope you either get him back of find someone better

 

[kris31280]

Whenever I get this crazy notion of missing my Mr. Big, this song always hits home and makes me remember how it's for the best.

Stay Gone by Jimmy Wayne
I found piece of mind I'm feeling good again
I'm on the other side
Back among the living
Ain't a cloud in the sky
All my tears have been cried
And I can finally say

So baby,baby stay
Stay right where you are
I like it this way
It's good for my heart
I haven't felt like this
In God knows how long
I know everything's gonna be okay
If you just stay gone

I still love you and I will forever
We can't hide the truth
We know each other better
When we try to make it work
We both end up hurt
And it ain't supposed to be that way

So baby,baby stay
Stay right where you are
I like it this way
It's good for my heart
I haven't felt like this
In God knows how long
I know everything's gonna be okay
If you just stay gone

When you try to make it work
We both end up hurt
Love ain't supposed to be this way

So baby,baby stay
Stay right where you are
I like it this way
It's good for my heart
I haven't felt like this
In God knows how long
I know everything's gonna be okay
If you just stay gone

I know everything's gonna be okay
If you just stay gone

 

[FromTexas]

Thats just crazy talk.

 

[Goyde]

Greiving is different for everyone. The way I see it you have a choice to make.

1) Do your best to get him back.

If not, imho

2) Get rid of things that make you think about him.
3) no communication for at least three months, communication will always make you 'wonder what could have been'
4) rememeber that in time, it will not feel the way it does now.

And when you find someone new to love, hang on to them and love them like you want to be loved. And never regret things past, always look to now and the future.

 

[jetmonkey]

Maybe you're not leading him enough.

 

[Sula]

Maybe you're not leading him enough.

Maybe he is slower than she thought.

 

[softballgrl]

Maybe you're not leading him enough.

what do you mean? Isn't it too late for that?

 

[softballgrl]

Greiving is different for everyone. The way I see it you have a choice to make.

1) Do your best to get him back.

If not, imho

2) Get rid of things that make you think about him.
3) no communication for at least three months, communication will always make you 'wonder what could have been'
4) rememeber that in time, it will not feel the way it does now.

And when you find someone new to love, hang on to them and love them like you want to be loved. And never regret things past, always look to now and the future.

** I can't get him back. I have health issues that he isn't willing to deal with I think** eventhough....I never 'bothered' him with them...I can handle them myself usually. He was kinda at a cross roads with his own life at the time I think. He was changing careers and .....I don't think he was ready for long-term. I'm not sure. His relationship behavior wasn't really 'welcoming'. We went thru A LOT during the two years. We had 'real life' thrown at us pretty quickly and I think we did a great job of handling things until the end there when I needed him dearly. Things could have been handled better.

I have been dating some really nice guys....I'm just not ready for long-term myself right now, but I'm having fun. There are some really great guys around here. we'll see......maybe in a few months I'll be singin' a different tune. Hangin' out with the girls will do for now too. I'm single, no kids, good family, great friends.....what more is there?

 

[backagain39]

** I can't get him back. I have health issues that he isn't willing to deal with I think** eventhough....I never 'bothered' him with them...I can handle them myself usually. He was kinda at a cross roads with his own life at the time I think. He was changing careers and .....I don't think he was ready for long-term. I'm not sure. His relationship behavior wasn't really 'welcoming'. We went thru A LOT during the two years. We had 'real life' thrown at us pretty quickly and I think we did a great job of handling things until the end there when I needed him dearly. Things could have been handled better.

I have been dating some really nice guys....I'm just not ready for long-term myself right now, but I'm having fun. There are some really great guys around here. we'll see......maybe in a few months I'll be singin' a different tune. Hangin' out with the girls will do for now too. I'm single, no kids, good family, great friends.....what more is there?

Stop missing a man that did not or could not give you the emotional support and care that you needed. And stop making excuses for him. If someone truely loves you and wants to be there then things are done because they care and they will not look at them as being a burden.

If he could not give that while dating then marriage would have been a nightmare for you.........

 

[sockgirl77]

He's an ex for a reason. Eff him.

How bout a round of applause?
Standin ovation...
Ooooh
Yeah yeah yeah yeah


You look so dumb right now
Standin' outside my house
Tryin' to apologize
You're so ugly when you cry
(Please)
Just cut it out

Don't tell me you're sorry cuz you're not
Baby when I know you're only sorry you got caught

But you put on quite a show
You really had me goin'
But now it's time to go
Curtains finally closin'
That was quite a show
Very entertainin'
But it's over now
Go on and take a bow

Grab your clothes and get gone
(You better hurry up)
Before the sprinklers come on
Talkin' bout "Girl, I love you you're the one..."
This just looks like a re-run
(Please)
What else is on?

And don't tell me you're sorry cuz you're not
Baby when I know you're only sorry you got caught

But you put on quite a show
You really had me goin'
But now it's time to go
Curtains finally closin'
That was quite a show
Very entertainin'
But it's over now
Go on and take a bow

ohhhhhh And the award for the best liar goes to you
For makin' me believe
That you could be
Faithful to me
Let's hear your speech
oh...

How bout a round of applause?{laugh}
Standin' ovation.......

But you put on quite a show
You really had me goin'
Now it's time to go
Curtains finally closin'
That was quite a show
Very entertaining' eyeahhhhh
But it's over now
Go on and take a bow

But it's over now...

 

[surfer1]

Greiving is different for everyone. The way I see it you have a choice to make.

1) Do your best to get him back.

If not, imho

2) Get rid of things that make you think about him.
3) no communication for at least three months, communication will always make you 'wonder what could have been'
4) rememeber that in time, it will not feel the way it does now.

And when you find someone new to love, hang on to them and love them like you want to be loved. And never regret things past, always look to now and the future.[/QUO

Talking to him everyday and getting the daily phone calls is a habit and the way you lived your life for awhile. Sounds like a habit you need to break. It will get easier. I agree-no communication-no calling on the phone, no matter how hard. In the long run it will be the best thing for you. You will at least walk away with your pride. Move on..try something new. Broaden your horizons. The best revenge is living a happy life!!

 

[backagain39]

Things happen for a reason and some day the right one will be there.....

 

[softballgrl]

well, you're right about him not being able to be there emotionally ...but he wouldn't have ever cheated on me......Lord, I don't think so, but....you're right...if he couldn't be there before marriage, he wouldn't have been after. ......I feel like two years of my life and now three, because I'm still talking about this..I feel like I truly invested that time and supported him emotionally WAY MORE than I've ever supported anyone...He really was a 'Drama KING'....my ex-husband never put me thru anything like this guy did. I think I longed for him to love me the way I loved him, and I kept trying but...he was slow with showing it emotionally. o well...... It's just a reminder when I pass him on the road... I hate it. need some sleep...talk to yall later.

 

[softballgrl]

Greiving is different for everyone. The way I see it you have a choice to make.

1) Do your best to get him back.

If not, imho

2) Get rid of things that make you think about him.
3) no communication for at least three months, communication will always make you 'wonder what could have been'
4) rememeber that in time, it will not feel the way it does now.

And when you find someone new to love, hang on to them and love them like you want to be loved. And never regret things past, always look to now and the future.[/QUO

Talking to him everyday and getting the daily phone calls is a habit and the way you lived your life for awhile. Sounds like a habit you need to break. It will get easier. I agree-no communication-no calling on the phone, no matter how hard. In the long run it will be the best thing for you. You will at least walk away with your pride. Move on..try something new. Broaden your horizons. The best revenge is living a happy life!!

I see what you're saying but we Haven't spoken for about a year. ....I do have those nights out with the girls where I get drunk, leave a text and cry afterwards... those are getting less and less now thou...I have a gorgeous man pursuing me now....and I don't want nor will ever want 'revenge'...I truly want to see him happy as well as I want to be happy and I know it's on the way ~ this new guy is such a sweetheart and a great dad. I like to see him with his son.....I'm learning a lot this time around. I'm watching and waiting. time will tell.

 

[backagain39]

I see what you're saying but we Haven't spoken for about a year. ....I do have those nights out with the girls where I get drunk, leave a text and cry afterwards... those are getting less and less now thou...I have a gorgeous man pursuing me now....and I don't want nor will ever want 'revenge'...I truly want to see him happy as well as I want to be happy and I know it's on the way ~ this new guy is such a sweetheart and a great dad. I like to see him with his son.....I'm learning a lot this time around. I'm watching and waiting. time will tell.

Sometimes people (men and women) need to go through a so-so relationship in order to learn what we really what and need in our lives. Remember every experience in your life is a learning lesson......hold onto that and you will be fine.

 

[softballgrl]

I know it's sappy......WARNING: Might hurt men's eyes...

If I should stay,
I would only be in your way.
So I'll go, but I know
I'll think of you ev'ry step of the way.

And I will always love you.
I will always love you.
You, my darling you. Hmm.

Bittersweet memories
that is all I'm taking with me.
So, goodbye. Please, don't cry.
We both know I'm not what you, you need.

And I will always love you.
I will always love you.

(Instrumental solo)

I hope life treats you kind
And I hope you have all you've dreamed of.
And I wish to you, joy and happiness.
But above all this, I wish you love.

And I will always love you.
I will always love you.
I will always love you.
I will always love you.
I will always love you.
I, I will always love you.

You, darling, I love you.
Ooh, I'll always, I'll always love you.