PS - she was messaging me via FB so I don't even have her email address at this point.
Initially my first thought was "foster". Then realized after being "re-focused" by the realists, that I needed to get her spayed immediately. There IS NO MORE ROOM FOR CATS, yes I know, I do know. We have a handful of cats in our foster program that are still awaiting homes.
When I received an offer to foster her (the initial goal of the thread), I was honest and told the lady who has the stray cat that I had an offer as a foster, and I would put them in touch with each other. I will never be anything less than honest with people about the state of the world with regard to critters (this stance could make ours a less successful rescue?). I also wouldn't lie to anyone either. Maybe I should, but I just can't.
I think some may be misunderstanding, I do have a back bone, I just won't lie to a lady with a pregnant cat, and say the cat will be fostered and the kittens will be fine, when that may not be the case. I can't lie to promote my goal of fewer critters. However if the critter is in my control, I can and will consent to spay when pregnant, and I have done so in the past, at the distress of others around me. When I got the call that the cat is pregnant, I ALWAYS said go forward. When asked in advance my position on aborting litters, I always said yes.
It's not that I'm not committed to aborting litters, it's that the person with the cat asked for help for the pregnant cat. Instead of just saying "we'll take her", my response was we'll see if we can find a foster (dumb I admit), but I won't go back on my word to her.