Tantrums

[watercolor]

Ok. So as of late my daughter is becoming quite the pistol. She is 18 months old, but ahead of her age by many leaps and bounds. She has started her 2's early I am guessing. She has in the last 2 weeks, been throwing tantrums that are ridiculous. She literally throws herself to the ground and then will scream bloody murder. Luckily she hasnt done this out in public nor has she done it anywhere but where I work or at home. I really dont know where she has learned to act like this- seeing as she doesnt see any tv programs nor is she around any other children who do this kind of crap.

What I am looking for is some things that I can maybe do to nip this in the bud. So that she doesnt start acting like this in public and that it is dealt with quickly. We have tried timeout's where I hold her on my lap while she pitches a fit, and I have also just tried the walking away and telling her to get over it. Any other ideas or ways that have worked for you?

 

[aps45819]

Ignore her when she does it.

 

[mamissa3]

I would have to agree and ignore it. I know you said you did that already but do it a few more times and she will probaly get the hint

 

[CMC122]

Walk away. It won't be worth the effort because she isn't getting your attention.

 

[watercolor]

Walk away. It won't be worth the effort because she isn't getting your attention.

I do that. And she follows me and proceeds to keep doing it

I guess just keep ignoring her until she stops screaming bloody murder??

 

[Mikeinsmd]

Sounds like someone needs their ass tore up.....

 

[aps45819]

My son did that a few times. I got a handfull of shirt and jerked him off the ground up to eye level and in a calm low voice I told him to stop and be quiet, then set him back down.

 

[itsbob]

Ignore her when she does it.

I remember a piece on AFV.. kid was throwing a tantrum in the LR so they all walked out.. Kid stopped, got up, walked into the other room where they were, THREW himself to the ground and started screaming and crying again.. They did this through the entire downstairs, probably 4 or 5 rooms. Kid would stop, dead quiet, stand up, and as soon as he would see someone throw himself to the ground and start up again.

 

[watercolor]

My son did that a few times. I got a handfull of shirt and jerked him off the ground up to eye level and in a calm low voice I told him to stop and be quiet, then set him back down.

I think that would scare her more than anything being that she is only 18 mths old, yes? Maybe I am wrong :shrug:

 

[watercolor]

I remember a piece on AFV.. kid was throwing a tantrum in the LR so they all walked out.. Kid stopped, got up, walked into the other room where they were, THREW himself to the ground and started screaming and crying again.. They did this through the entire downstairs, probably 4 or 5 rooms. Kid would stop, dead quiet, stand up, and as soon as he would see someone throw himself to the ground and start up again.

I remember seeing that too. Which, thank god, she is NO WHERE near being like that.

 

[jenbengen]

I remember a piece on AFV.. kid was throwing a tantrum in the LR so they all walked out.. Kid stopped, got up, walked into the other room where they were, THREW himself to the ground and started screaming and crying again.. They did this through the entire downstairs, probably 4 or 5 rooms. Kid would stop, dead quiet, stand up, and as soon as he would see someone throw himself to the ground and start up again.

LOL! I remember that clip to. I've chosen the ignore it route with both my kids. It takes quite a while before they figure out that tantrums get no emtional response (when in fact I was screaming inside). Seemed to work for my kids. My second one took a while to give up, though. It's that age- just part of the ballgame of testing you. Fun fun!

 

[Mousebaby]

I was told when my oldest son was about that age, to put him in his room and shut the door and let him scream it out. Do not, under any circumstances go in that room until he/she's quiet. If they try to come out and they have not finished their fit, put them back in the room and tell them they are not coming out until they are done. I might have done this 4 times total before he got the message. If he started to throw a fit after that all I would have to say was "do you want to go to your room" and he would shut up and not say another word. Give it a try. It might work for you too! Good Luck!

 

[aps45819]

I think that would scare her more than anything being that she is only 18 mths old, yes? Maybe I am wrong :shrug:

:shrug: Think it did, but the boy learned Daddy don't play that game.

 

[flomaster]

My daughter is 2 and some months and have had similar experiences. She too is a little ahead of her 2T's for lack of better wording. I borrowed something from that crazy show, The Nanny (yes I admit it) and I just sit her on the steps facing the dinning room so there is nothing to see thats worth looking at and eventually she calms down. Once I threaten her with the stairs she usually cools off. Might take some doing being yours keeps following you. Good luck. May the force be with you, always!!!!!

 

[Tinkerbell]

First of all, your child isn't learning this from anywhere. They don't have to. They come with the ability naturally! Isn't that nice?

She is frustrated about something, and because she is very young, has no idea how to properly express those feelings. So, she screams and cries and yells. It gets mommies attention - so it works for her!

Know that it is much harder on you than it is on her. You are more stressed out by her fit than she is.

Most important: DO NOT LET HER GET CONTROL! Ignore it. Even if she follows you. You can say "I will talk to you when you are done" if that makes you feel better, but then walk away and do not say one more word until the fit is completely over. Pick up a book and start reading, cook something, watch tv, fold laundry, anything - but ignore it. If she lays in your way, step over her.

It won't take long for her to see it's not working and she'll have to figure something else out to get to you!

 

[aosmiles]

What Tinkerbell said is the truth! Keep in mind, also, that terrible twos begin as early as 15 months-they start asserting their independence and until they have words, they respond the only way they know how. Sometimes time outs work, sometimes walking away works, some people have use water bottle sprayers to get their attention, others think spanking is appropriate. Remember that your child is still very young and it will take awhiel for her to understand what you are trying to teach her. What works for one child does not always work for the other. I know-I have two complete opposites for children. Don't let her get control. You have to show her you are the parent and so on. Our pediatrician said to try not to show facial reactions to their antics. A lot of what they want is attention-positive or negative. If you stay in charge, she will outgrow it. She is still very young, but now is the time to handle her behavior. You can do it!

 

[pixiegirl]

Biggest pig seriously NEVER had a temper tantrum. #2 has made up for it. If we're at home I pick him up and put him in his room and shut the door. He's allowed to come out when he's finished. If we're not at the house or for instance walking out the door in the morning and he tries it. I get on my knees, put his chin in my hand (firmly but not forcefully) get just about nose to nose with him so he has no choice but to look me in the face and very calmly let him know that if he doesn't knock it off right then that I will spank him. If he still continues he gets spanked. It's very rare that it ever comes to that point. Usually only in the presense of other people as he's probably testing me.

 

[Mikeinsmd]

some people have use water bottle sprayers to get their attention,

 

[Speedy70]

Ok. So as of late my daughter is becoming quite the pistol. She is 18 months old, but ahead of her age by many leaps and bounds. She has started her 2's early I am guessing. She has in the last 2 weeks, been throwing tantrums that are ridiculous. She literally throws herself to the ground and then will scream bloody murder. Luckily she hasnt done this out in public nor has she done it anywhere but where I work or at home. I really dont know where she has learned to act like this- seeing as she doesnt see any tv programs nor is she around any other children who do this kind of crap.

What I am looking for is some things that I can maybe do to nip this in the bud. So that she doesnt start acting like this in public and that it is dealt with quickly. We have tried timeout's where I hold her on my lap while she pitches a fit, and I have also just tried the walking away and telling her to get over it. Any other ideas or ways that have worked for you?

My mom used to babysit twin boys years ago and they did these tantrums. My mom laughed at them and said 'That's not how you throw a fit, THIS is how your throw a fit!' and she proceeded to get down on the floor and kick and scream. The boys stood there and looked at her like she was nuts. They never threw another fit. :shrug:

 

[Tinkerbell]

Brought back bad memories, huh?