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vraiblonde

vraiblonde

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I don't see what the big deal is about talking on the phone. I'd probably set a time limit and not until homework was done, etc.

But it's your kid and if you don't want her talking on the phone, it's not going to kill her. :shrug:
 
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thebird

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My parents let us use the phone probably as early as 7...with limits. Maybe start out with 1/2 hour phone priviledges (that can be taken away with disobediance) and through the years work your way up? And they shouldn't have a phone in their bedrooms...use the phone in the kitchen where you can monitor?
 
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poster

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dolemite said:
Sorry I didn't know I had the caps lock on. YOU don't need to come at me like that there's a way to talk to me privately if you had a problem NACHOMAMA. Now back to the topic:buddies:
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I don't have a problem with her calling family and I don't feel I need to monitor her calls.

The rule in our house is, no calls (in or out) after 8pm. She must ask to use the phone. She's not allowed a phone in her room. 10 minutes tops.

See the thing is she never asks to call anyone - EVER. So I don't want to encourage her using the phone all the time. They should be outside playing, not on the phone.
 
SoMDGirl42

SoMDGirl42

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I allowed my older children to use the phone when I felt they were mature enough to respect all the rules. The way I see it, if they are in my house, where I can monitor what they are doing, who they are calling and chores, homework etc was complete, then I was ok with it. At least I knew where my kids were and what they were doing. Can't say the same for some of the hudlums running around the neighborhood.
 
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vbailey

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There is a lot of good advice here. I like the idea of the time limit thing, and not having a phone in their room so you can keep a handle on the calls. We just got a cell phone for my son, he just turned 12. It was really hard to decide if we should get him one or not, it could have gone either way. He has done very well with it ( he has rules to follow ) and it has been a great way to keep track of him at times. I don't think very many 8yr olds have them really. I think it depends on the child as to when is the right time. Children mature differently.
 
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Bronwyn

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at what age did or do you let your kids use the phone?

I have a 8yr old girl and don't allow phone use unless it's needed.
Say, "can I come over to play", calling grandma's, short calls for a purpose only and generally I talk to the adults on the other end also.

She has a friend that calls immediately after getting off the bus, which they ride together. I find it odd that her mother would let her use the phone freely.
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I think that really depends on the kid. My sons father lives in TN, so he's allowed to take the phone in his room and talk as long as he wants to his dad. Since he's a boy, he's not on the phone much. I think once he gets his first girlfriend we may have to change the rules, but right now he has unlimited access to phone.
 
getbent

getbent

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My daughter is 8 and is on the phone as we speak. She doesn't ask to use it everyday but she usually calls a friend that is not in her class this year to talk. I don't let her talk more than a half hour. She does well, asks before she uses it and doesn't whine when I say times up. Our phone is cordless and we live in a small apt so there's no where she can go that I can't hear, lol.
 
Nanny Pam

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My daughter was born with a phone in her hand. :lol:
She has always been a very social child. Still is. She's the Mayor!

My son.....well he was about 8 when he asked to use the phone.

Neither kid stayed on for long, because we had rules for using the phone.

I think that as the parent YOU decide the rules for the phone.
 
LusbyMom

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Mine use it when they ask. The oldest is 9. Last year she had a boy call her and he was boring so she let him talk to her cat.

But all 3 of them always ask "can I call so and so". It depends on what we are doing at the time, who they are calling and if their homework and chores are done.

Last year an un-named friend (his mom post here lol) of my sons called all the time. He would call and son would chat for a minute and hang up. Five minutes later the friend would call again.
 
usagent

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poster said:
at what age did or do you let your kids use the phone?

I have a 8yr old girl and don't allow phone use unless it's needed.
Say, "can I come over to play", calling grandma's, short calls for a purpose only and generally I talk to the adults on the other end also.

She has a friend that calls immediately after getting off the bus, which they ride together. I find it odd that her mother would let her use the phone freely.
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I'm 8 and my Mom lets me talk to strangers on forums.
 
bcp

bcp

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my daughter has had her own cell phone since she was 9. shes now 11 and has yet to do anything wrong with it.
 
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poster

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I know this is an older thread........I made these rules and they seem to work for us..
poster said:
The rule in our house is, no calls (in or out) after 8pm. She must ask to use the phone. She's not allowed a phone in her room. 10 minutes tops.

See the thing is she never asks to call anyone - EVER. So I don't want to encourage her using the phone all the time. They should be outside playing, not on the phone.
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there's one girl that calls all the time, recently she called and reached our machine which recorded 5min and then cut off. Not only was she on the call but 3 other girls that I do not know, some older than my own.

Apparently this has happened before, I was not aware that my daughter was talking to so many at once. When the girl called and asked for her the rest stay quiet. The message was uneventful and really nothing important was said but I have an uneasy feeling about it.

Would this bother anyone else or am I over reacting?
 
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vegmom

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My daughter will answer the phone if I ask her to, say if I am driving and my cell rings. Otherwise she's not really the yak on the phone type. Most of her friends message each other on Webkinz World lol.
 
Cowgirl

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poster said:
I know this is an older thread........I made these rules and they seem to work for us..


there's one girl that calls all the time, recently she called and reached our machine which recorded 5min and then cut off. Not only was she on the call but 3 other girls that I do not know, some older than my own.

Apparently this has happened before, I was not aware that my daughter was talking to so many at once. When the girl called and asked for her the rest stay quiet. The message was uneventful and really nothing important was said but I have an uneasy feeling about it.

Would this bother anyone else or am I over reacting?
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I think you're overreacting. It's just a phone. I don't see the harm in letting her chat with her friends.
 
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