sunnyside393
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How long is acceptable for divorced parents to fight over who is gonna get the kids? (All of the kids are now in their 20's)
How long is acceptable for divorced parents to fight over who is gonna get the kids? (All of the kids are now in their 20's)
How long is acceptable for divorced parents to fight over who is gonna get the kids? (All of the kids are now in their 20's)
How long is acceptable for divorced parents to fight over who is gonna get the kids? (All of the kids are now in their 20's)
its not....
kids are effing old enough to drive to both parents house, or pick who they want to see.
They won't move out--gotta live at one parents house or another.
They won't move out--gotta live at one parents house or another.
Each parent should write how much they want for rent on a piece of paper and well as rules for living there and give it to the kids without either parent knowing what the other wrote. Let the kids decide. If they don't like either price, or rules, time for them to try to make it on their own. Wish them luck and buy them a microwave.
Yep, they are old enough to make their own decision, even though it might insult one of the parents. I would take the parent who would be less harder on me, ha ha.
The thing is....is that it's not about rent money.....it's about which parent the kids are gonna love more...which parent each kid will support in the next family fight....which parent can give each kid the most....it's still about which parent "gets" the kids' affection.....the father feels as if he is "winning" right now because he has more money to dish out....but it's a catch 22 for him...if he doesn't keep it up, he afraid his kids will cut him off, so to speak, and punish him with lack of affection and support.....not have anything to do with him----he will "lose" them
It's not really about the money.....money is a tool on the father's side to "win" the kids..."winning" the kids is a get back at their mother for the things she did (affairs)during the marriage, she did the things she did as a get back at the things their father required of her in the marriage (abortion), and on and on it goes, physical fights erupt, public drunkeness, drugs, but the worst of all to me about these kids is the finesse they have developed at manipulating the situation
It's not really about the money.....money is a tool on the father's side to "win" the kids..."winning" the kids is a get back at their mother for the things she did (affairs)during the marriage, she did the things she did as a get back at the things their father required of her in the marriage (abortion), and on and on it goes, physical fights erupt, public drunkeness, drugs, but the worst of all to me about these kids is the finesse they have developed at manipulating the situation
All the kids are adults now and exult in the influence they wield in the situation......what do you think would be the path for this family back to something more healthy?....the problem is......they don't see it as unhealthy......
How long is acceptable for divorced parents to fight over who is gonna get the kids? (All of the kids are now in their 20's)
All the kids are adults now and exult in the influence they wield in the situation......what do you think would be the path for this family back to something more healthy?....the problem is......they don't see it as unhealthy......