Yes, they take a nap at 1-3 at school, but these 2 articles I read said like 12 hours AT NIGHT... how is that possible for any kid?? I'd never get to spend ANY time with him !!
That's my next issue we're having, should we NOT be letting him fall asleep with us (and by us I mean either me or my husband) putting him to bed and staying with him till he falls asleep? at what age does that need to stop? We usually take turns who puts him to bed and read or watch TV till 9:15 then tell him it's time to sleep and turn lights off or TV off and that's it. My husband is on the big push to make him go to bed at his normal 8:30 and leave him in his room to fall asleep on his own... we still have the monitor in his room so we can see what he's doing and if he would get out of bed.
I am only speaking from own experience, but I am a big fan of children being independent sleepers. What I did was - after dinner, they spent time with dad while I cleaned up. (Or vice versa, but he was Navy and home less time with them, so he usually took that time) First, it was bath time, then, they would watch 1 or 2 shows: typically, it was Wheel of Fortune & Jeopardy.
Then, he would read to them from various kids' books from Bible stories to picture books, etc. They really loved the bible stories! Usually, the reading stories took place in their bedroom with the kid in their bed. Then, it was time for sleeping and we would leave them to do that.
There was a routine and natural transition every night. We spent a lot of time with them - counting dinner time through bedtime. I was the stay at home parent, so I usually spent LESS time with them during this time - BUT! I kept the same routine when their dad was on deployments. Their dad didn't get home until about 4pm most of the time he was not deployed (which was A LOT over the 15 yrs we were married). We usually did not go out of the house in the evenings - mostly because of Thing1 as his "good" behavior would decline rapidly (more than normal for kids his age, etc) the later it got after dinner. NO one would benefit when that happened.
Seriously, though - he couldn't handle a lot of extra curricular activities at that time of day, so I adapted to fit what worked for us.
I don't know how you can get more hours of sleep for him (if he needs it) unless you change the whole bedtime transition time to be less, so he actually goes to sleep a bit earlier. He is not a long sleeper and is functioning fine (not cranky & tired acting) then I wouldn't really worry. Some kids don't sleep a lot.