Toddler sleep patterns

MarieB

MarieB

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pelers said:
We're actually in the same boat (once again). For the last few months he won't go to sleep without one of us in there "nuggling" (snuggling). On the one hand, it's really sweet and I love it and I know it won't last forever. On the other hand I could really use that time to get things straightened around the house. Hubs and I usually switch off on the nuggles. It almost always ends up with one of us passing out in boy's bed.

Lately he's been waking up in the wee hours and coming in to sleep with us in our bed. Again, it's one of those things I should probably put a halt to, but he's 3 and he won't want to snuggle forever. I hope. He actually managed to kick hubs out of the bed last night! I woke up at 3 to this loud THUMP and I sat bolt upright yelling my son's name, thinking it was him that fell. I look around and no, son is in my bed, taking his half out of the middle... but there's my husband, sitting up on the floor with this totally confused look on his face.
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We went through this with the oldest and are now going through this with the youngest.

With the oldest, I put a blanket and pillow on the floor next to the bed and told him he couldn't get into the bed anymore. He eventually grew out of it. My youngest is doing it now, and he has started actually going to sleep in there but on the floor next to the bed. For awhile he was coming out of their room and hopping into our bed and nobody slept well.

As far as laying with them until they fall asleep, that is a personal choice but we personally feel as though it sets a bad precedent.



Denise, have you tried getting him a cool nightlight?
 
Bann

Bann

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pebbles said:
my son is 6 & a half. I lay down with him most nights at bedtime. We talk a little & he curls up & goes to sleep. I sometimes fall asleep & when I wake up I go to bed or I just get up after he's asleep. I know it won't last forever & I don't see an issue. He feels safe, it's "our time" to talk about anything that is on his mind. To each their own. Good luck with what you decide to do. But let it be YOUR decision not what society says you should do. :buddies:
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BadGirl said:
:huggy:

I do the same thing, and my son is 8 years old.

I tuck him in, lay down next to him, have him read me a story, or tell me about his day and his plans for tomorrow, and we just tell jokes and talk about how much we love each other.

I would do this until he turns 27 if it weren't so yucky. But until he tells me "enough", I will do this. It is my uninterrupted time to snuggle with him, and I absolutely love doing it.
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KDENISE977 said:
I agree with all of this, my husbands theory is that it's actually keeping him up LATER having us in there as a distraction I guess. The few times my husband has left when he was still awake, my son just sort of rolls over and goes to sleep. Mind you, that's only been 2 total times. When I'm putting him to bed and lay down, he wants to sing songs and lay all over me...when husband puts him to bed he sort of curls up under his arm and they just chat about anything (my husband LOVES this time), but again, it keeps him up later.
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Been doing a lot of reminiscing the last couple of days, as Thing2 graduated yesterday and I've flooded my FB page with pics of him through the years to share with family & interested friends. :lol: Going through pictures to post, it really brought back the memories of just how darn snuggly & cuddly he was when he was little. :bawl:

I was a stay at home mom for both kids until Thing2 was 9. I was with them 24/7 for many years due to their dad being on deployment with the Navy & never having a lot of family around to help. I got a lot of the snuggles and the cuddling and bonding with them throughout the day because I was there. I don't think that having this a part of a bedtime routine is a problem - unless it's a problem. It's easy enough to move the pre-bedtime routine up in order to have the cuddle/snuggle and bonding time AND let them get to sleep earlier.

Everyone and every family is different, so whatever works!
 
pelers

pelers

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Got in from travel last night around 3:30am. Staggered up to bed and my boy is fast asleep, taking his half out of the middle with his stuffed puppy snuggled up on my pillow.

It was cute.
 
KDENISE977

KDENISE977

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pelers said:
Got in from travel last night around 3:30am. Staggered up to bed and my boy is fast asleep, taking his half out of the middle with his stuffed puppy snuggled up on my pillow.

It was cute.
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Awww :huggy:

My son was bad last night, had to go to his room and sit, no tv, no toys.... he fell asleep in his bed around 8:30. I missed tucking him in. He didn't seem to care much, I watched him through the monitor till he fell asleep :bawl: I thought for sure he'd call "mommy" or something... nothing :bawl:
 
pelers

pelers

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KDENISE977 said:
Awww :huggy:

My son was bad last night, had to go to his room and sit, no tv, no toys.... he fell asleep in his bed around 8:30. I missed tucking him in. He didn't seem to care much, I watched him through the monitor till he fell asleep :bawl: I thought for sure he'd call "mommy" or something... nothing :bawl:
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:huggy: :frown:

Mine is cutest when sleeping right now. I couldn't even get a hug out of him in the morning!
 
KDENISE977

KDENISE977

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pelers said:
:huggy: :frown:

Mine is cutest when sleeping right now. I couldn't even get a hug out of him in the morning!
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OMG, my son drives me insane in the morning, that's all he wants is hugs. I cannot even get him dressed, take off jammies, HUG, put on socks, HUG, put on shorts, HUG, put on shirt, HUG... not that I'm complaining, it just makes us late sometimes. Walking into school, in the room, HUG, put his backpack away, HUG. :lmao:
 
KDENISE977

KDENISE977

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It's official, I'm never sleeping again :mad:

Woke up around 2 a.m. and went to get a drink down stairs, I open up the bedroom door and O-M-G my sons door is wide open. I ran in and he was laying in bed wide awake..no idea for how long or how he got the childproof (ha) handle to open and manage NOT to wake us up with the bells I have around the door handle?? Seriously... he could have easily fallen down the stairs, or go down stairs, make a cup of coffee or done ANYTHING. God forbit he went outside or something. , I laid in his bed all night contemplating all the horrible things he could get into (ie, knives, stove, etc)
 
SoMDGirl42

SoMDGirl42

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KDENISE977 said:
It's official, I'm never sleeping again :mad:

Woke up around 2 a.m. and went to get a drink down stairs, I open up the bedroom door and O-M-G my sons door is wide open. I ran in and he was laying in bed wide awake..no idea for how long or how he got the childproof (ha) handle to open and manage NOT to wake us up with the bells I have around the door handle?? Seriously... he could have easily fallen down the stairs, or go down stairs, make a cup of coffee or done ANYTHING. God forbit he went outside or something. , I laid in his bed all night contemplating all the horrible things he could get into (ie, knives, stove, etc)
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please start wearing ear plugs at all times. It will prevent hearing loss from the loud sound the helicopters make :huggy:
 
pelers

pelers

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KDENISE977 said:
It's official, I'm never sleeping again :mad:

Woke up around 2 a.m. and went to get a drink down stairs, I open up the bedroom door and O-M-G my sons door is wide open. I ran in and he was laying in bed wide awake..no idea for how long or how he got the childproof (ha) handle to open and manage NOT to wake us up with the bells I have around the door handle?? Seriously... he could have easily fallen down the stairs, or go down stairs, make a cup of coffee or done ANYTHING. God forbit he went outside or something. , I laid in his bed all night contemplating all the horrible things he could get into (ie, knives, stove, etc)
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I took all the knobs off my stove so they can't turn the burners on. I only put them back on when I cook.

I should teach my kids to make me coffee in the morning. That would be awesome.
 
somdfunguy

somdfunguy

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KDENISE977 said:
It's official, I'm never sleeping again :mad:

Woke up around 2 a.m. and went to get a drink down stairs, I open up the bedroom door and O-M-G my sons door is wide open. I ran in and he was laying in bed wide awake..no idea for how long or how he got the childproof (ha) handle to open and manage NOT to wake us up with the bells I have around the door handle?? Seriously... he could have easily fallen down the stairs, or go down stairs, make a cup of coffee or done ANYTHING. God forbit he went outside or something. , I laid in his bed all night contemplating all the horrible things he could get into (ie, knives, stove, etc)
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KDENISE977

KDENISE977

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It's every single night now. He's up between 11-1 am. And he goes back to sleep but is up again 2 hours later. It's making us crazy. Can't keep him in bed. Woke up this morning with kid in between me and my husband and asked when did he come in, husband shrugged and said "I don't know I reached for your leg around midnight and felt his face, looked and saw he was asleep between your legs".
 
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