Un-contradicting yourself
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rack'm
Jaded
AMP said:
It depends....if he's looking to land a piece of ass, he'll hit it and roll out.......if he's looking to actually build a lasting relationship, find someone he can connect with in ways other than physically and have a productive life with, he'll want to take things slow, make sure it's right and then move to the groove.
JMHO
rack'm said:
One thing he did mention was that he was disillusioned with the whole going at it hot and heavy and then after the first few months of putting on the show have worn off thinking you have to save it, and find out after years that it's not worth it, and that the best way now for him to be with someone is to start out being good friends with them first.
I think I am overthinking too much.
rack'm
Jaded
AMP said:One thing he did mention was that he was disillusioned with the whole going at it hot and heavy and then after the first few months of putting on the show have worn off thinking you have to save it, and find out after years that it's not worth it, and that the best way now for him to be with someone is to start out being good friends with them first.
I think I am overthinking too much.
You can NEVER over think, it's the opposite that usually occurs which brings on unwanted children.
Toxick
Splat
AMP said:I think I am overthinking too much.
Reminds me of a part of a tv show I saw once.
There's 3 girls eating and talking, and 3 guys eating and talking. One of the guys and one of the girls had just shared their first kiss, and each was telling their friends about it:
The women: They're eating a meal or ice cream or something, all sitting at a table, and she's describing the kiss to them. "First he was really gentle, and then as he gained confidence, he moved in harder, and I could feel the passion, his hands were here, and then they moved up and down my back..." and she went on like that for a minute or two. The other girls at the table were simply giddy from the romance, and "Awwww!" "So hot!!"
Cut to the guys: They're gathered around a pizza: "Tongue?" "Yeah" Guys nod and eat pizza.
End of conversation.
Christy
b*tch rocket
migtig said:I ain't a guy, but here's my 2 cents anyway - you should never have to restrain or hide your actual emotions and feelings in any relationship, friendship, dating or otherwise. Otherwise it's very unhealthy. Take it from somebody who has had a lot of unhealthy relationships. Accept your feelings and don't hide from them, but be willing to allow for the fact that he may or might have already moved on. If that's the case, it wasn't meant to be anyway.
Well paint my butt green, I agree with Miggy. 
Toxick
Splat
AMP said:
Well, you gotta admit.
The male way is usually easier - and doesn't ever require a decoder ring.
You just have to keep reminding yourself there's only 3 very simple things men need - Food, sex and occasional silence.
Unless you get one of those high maintenance clingy bítches. I've never understood those guys.
AMP said:
This reminds me of something that happened with my DH this week and epitomizes the difference beween men & women in relationships...
DH had his 20th high school reunion a couple weeks ago. We didn't make it to the reunion (see my earlier posting entitled "Don't Fly AirTran"). The reunion coordinator sent us an e-mail afterwards asking what happened to us and telling him that his highschool girlfriend was there looking for him because she wanted to give back his class ring. The coordinator went on about how sweet it was that his old girlfriend had kept his ring for 20 years. I was taken aback at first but then I thought how she must have kept that ring in her jewelry box and looked at it from time to time with fond memories over two decades. My eyes filled with tears thinking that was about the sweetest thing I had heard.
Later that day I asked my DH if he had read that message, he said he had not, so I told him what the coordinator had said. I relayed to him how unbelievably sweet I thought it was that his high school girlfriend had kept his class ring all these years, again my eyes swelling. He didn't say a word for a couple minutes. I thought he was reminiscing about his past relationship and I anxiously awaited his next words. "Who had my ring?" he asked. I was furious. "What?!" I exclaimed. "I'm serious." he said, "I really don't know which one I gave my ring to."
rack'm
Jaded
marianne said:Later that day I asked my DH if he had read that message, he said he had not, so I told him what the coordinator had said. I relayed to him how unbelievably sweet I thought it was that his high school girlfriend had kept his class ring all these years, again my eyes swelling. He didn't say a word for a couple minutes. I thought he was reminiscing about his past relationship and I anxiously awaited his next words. "Who had my ring?" he asked. I was furious. "What?!" I exclaimed. "I'm serious." he said, "I really don't know which one I gave my ring to."
marianne said:This reminds me of something that happened with my DH this week and epitomizes the difference beween men & women in relationships...
"What?!" I exclaimed. "I'm serious." he said, "I really don't know which one I gave my ring to."
TFF! And you spent all that time feeling sappy. Yep, there is more than a small difference between the sexes.
Thanks to all!
Well, there's that.Tigerlily said:
I didn't reply before but I'll reply now. I agree with Migtig - you shouldn't have to play games to get some guy to like you. Honesty is the key in every relationship. You should be able to tell someone how you feel. If they run, they weren't the guy for you. If they stay, there you go.
vraiblonde said:
Yes, there is that (Migtig's sage reply, which I keep in the back of my mind), but I didn't want to stupidly blow it before I even got to know him well enough to tell. This is going very s l o w l y, so the potential for anything is there.
And not that I actively treated him like the plague, but I have not been able to take his calls or go out at the times he suggested, always busy with my son and family, so if he is still calling and wants to come around despite knowing how important other things are to me, that is a good sign.