Larry Gude
Strung Out
No wonder your Political Compass is so out of whack, you've been neutered.
When what you was doin' ain't working...
Ungrateful asshats
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When what you was doin' ain't working...
hvp05
Methodically disorganized
Please don't turn this into a Bush-Obama thread.
You are missing the point of gift giving. YOU did not waste any money. SHE spent her money as she saw fit. And I think you're FOS - if Christmas and your birthdays went by with no gift or remembrance from MIL (because if you can't have exactly what you want, you would rather have nothing), I'm sure your feelings would be hurt.
migtig
aka Mrs. Giant
It's happened before that she's not gifted me anything and my feelings haven't been hurt. :shrug: I'm not her kid.
Vince
......
It's a gift. Be grateful, thank the person who gave it to you and don't hurt their feelings. Simple. Someone took the time and thought to shop for you, even if you think they wasted the money or don't really care. Doesn't matter.
GopherM
Darwin was right
I never did and never have used cloth hankies but my grandmother gave them to me every year for Christmas. I always knew what I was getting from her and I ALWAYS looked forward to it. I would accept a steamer trunk full of hankies if it meant I could have just one more hour with that wonderful sweet old lady.
Now, that said, *I* would rather have nothing than have a grudging gift that someone grabbed out of the $1 bin because they didn't really want to gift me, but felt obligated to. Gifts shouldn't be an obligation.
I'm not averse to the giftover if it's something you received, cannot use, but think someone else would like. But to regift something that is crap and has nothing to do whatsoever with the recipient, and you grabbed it up because you felt obligated to give something - that is wrong.
The spirit of giving and thoughtfulness means more to me than the actual gift itself.
However, I would still thank the giver nicely and not mention anything negative about the gift or the lack of thought behind it.
I'm not averse to the giftover if it's something you received, cannot use, but think someone else would like. But to regift something that is crap and has nothing to do whatsoever with the recipient, and you grabbed it up because you felt obligated to give something - that is wrong.
The spirit of giving and thoughtfulness means more to me than the actual gift itself.
However, I would still thank the giver nicely and not mention anything negative about the gift or the lack of thought behind it.
migtig
aka Mrs. Giant
That's fine. It's a different perspective from mine, and I have no problem saying thank you and donating the item. I do that with a lot of the crap gifts that come my way. I would have thanked her anyway, but I would have returned the item and credited her account and she probably would have been none the wiser. I really don't think seniors need to waste their money on trival items, but I have a different perspective, and sometimes other pov's need to be factored in. :shrug: No skin off my nose either way. But I still think it's a waste of money.
Perhaps I can bring up that she doesn't have to purchase anything for me in the future? That would make me feel better.
Perhaps I can bring up that she doesn't have to purchase anything for me in the future? That would make me feel better.
TurboK9
New Member
Yes please.
I'm 43 and I adore it when my mom sends me the lifesavers candy book. She's been giving them to me as far back as I can remember... when I was in the Army, she didn't send them one year, worst Christmas I ever had!
Lifesavers candy books...
Who cares if it makes you feel like a kid... some times thats a good thing.Oh and when I read the suject I thought this was going to be directed at us ungrateful forumites
But how will it make her feel?
migtig
aka Mrs. Giant
Probably very relieved.
belvak
Happy Camper
Awwww.
It's the sentiment behind the "giving" rather than the gift that counts!!! My Grandmother still insists on getting all of us something for Christmas, even though she is on a fixed income. I treasure each and every one even though I wish she would keep her money. It makes her feel good, so that is good enough for me!
frequentflier
happy to be living
Please don't give the cat lady sign away...just give it back to me.
No, I kept that
hvp05
Methodically disorganized
I am not quite as anci... er, well-aged as you are, but my mom has been buying me the annual M&M stocking stuffer ornaments every year for probably 20 years. My actual gifts have changed, but I still receive a loaded stocking just like a kid. I love it.
frequentflier
happy to be living
Maybe it is from being raised Catholic, but any time anyone gives me something I don't particularly like, I feel guilty about it. It ususally collects dust for about 5 years before I can actually donate or throw it away.
TurboK9
New Member
We have 6 stockings on the mantle... Two adults, two kids, and yep, two dogs.
Otter
Nothing to see here
Beta84
They're out to get us
Honesty is no longer a virtue. You should smile, accept the gift, and allow her to waste as much money on your present as she wants. It's called etiquette. People just want to give you a gift -- clearly they don't care if you actually like it or not. You wouldn't want to hurt their sensitive feelings, would you?
So suck it up and deal with it! This is America after all. We're supposed to lie and just bend over and take what's given to us.