Ungrateful asshats

[vraiblonde]

Honesty is no longer a virtue. You should smile, accept the gift, and allow her to waste as much money on your present as she wants. It's called etiquette. People just want to give you a gift -- clearly they don't care if you actually like it or not. You wouldn't want to hurt their sensitive feelings, would you?

So suck it up and deal with it! This is America after all. We're supposed to lie and just bend over and take what's given to us.

Wow.

Okay, you ungrateful people have officially depressed me. I'm going to the gym to get my mojo back.

 

[TurboK9]

Honesty is no longer a virtue. You should smile, accept the gift, and allow her to waste as much money on your present as she wants. It's called etiquette. People just want to give you a gift -- clearly they don't care if you actually like it or not. You wouldn't want to hurt their sensitive feelings, would you?

So suck it up and deal with it! This is America after all. We're supposed to lie and just bend over and take what's given to us.

Seriously? Did somebody take a dooky in your stocking? WTF.

JFC. You know, this is the problem I have with people these days. Everybody thinks it's all about themselves. Whether you like your stupid little present or not, the person who bought it more than likely bought it thinking it would bring just the tiniest amount of joy to your miserable existence... maybe give you 20 seconds of freedom from the dark pathetic cynicism and selfishness that so many peole suffer from.

But no! It's "Oh gee, I can't accept that because it's crappy and I don't like it."

Why not try giving back a little? The best way to do that is to show appreciation and gratitude for the simple fact that somebody thought about you... it isn't about whether you like the gift or not, you know. Not for your part.

Maybe if you try just a little to think of the giver, instead of yourself, you may find more pleasure in making someone feel good about their efforts, regardless of how foolish you find them, than you do in being a complete prick about it.

Holy crap. Merry effing Christmas!

 

[Beta84]

Wow.

Okay, you ungrateful people have officially depressed me. I'm going to the gym to get my mojo back.

I was going to give an entire thesis on how to be grateful and whatnot but figured nobody wanted to read it. I was actually speaking as a gift giver. Obviously I want people to be appreciative of my gifts, but if they are going to throw them away or toss them in a corner for all eternity I'd rather them speak with me about exchanging them if there's no gift receipt. Kids better damn well like the gifts, but adults should be capable of handling the discussion without getting butthurt.

I NEVER complain about the gifts I receive, but I know I'm not good at picking out gifts no matter how hard I try and I encourage people to tell me if they're no good. One person told me a problem with the present I got and I went ahead and helped them exchange it for something that was better for them. They were happy, I was happy. I don't see a problem with that, but it should only occur if the giver encourages it since otherwise it's "unacceptable behavior" because our society is filled with sensitive people.

 

[Otter]

Honesty is no longer a virtue.

Of course it is and always will be a virtue...oh, and btw, you suck.

 

[Beta84]

Just a funny thought...all of these people who criticize our government for wasting money and are fiscal conservatives are the biggest proponents of wasting money on holiday presents instead of making sure they get people exactly what they want. Ironic.

Of course it is and always will be a virtue...oh, and btw, you suck.

I dunno, this thread seems to say being honest is evil.

 

[migtig]

He forgot his smiley, but that post was for my benefit, not yours. No reason at all for you to jump his arse.

I'm a logical thinker. I prefer honesty and facts over inaccuracies and false platitudes. :shrug: Sometimes I need input from you over-emotional touchy feely types.

Again, I have no problem saying thank you. I say it a lot. My concern was a loss of money over a worthless gift by a senior citizen who is only buying me something because she feels she should.

My conclusion is that I'll thank her, donate the item, and in the future let her know that just a card or even a donation to charity if she feels she must get me something would be more than adequate. Otherwise, I'm not looking for a present, nor do I need one.

 

[Beta84]

He forgot his smiley, but that post was for my benefit, not yours. No reason at all for you to jump his arse.

I'm a logical thinker. I prefer honesty and facts over inaccuracies and false platitudes. :shrug: Sometimes I need input from you over-emotional touchy feely types.

Again, I have no problem saying thank you. I say it a lot. My concern was a loss of money over a worthless gift by a senior citizen who is only buying me something because she feels she should.

My conclusion is that I'll thank her, donate the item, and in the future let her know that just a card or even a donation to charity if she feels she must get me something would be more than adequate. Otherwise, I'm not looking for a present, nor do I need one.

Yes, that post was for YOU.

I didn't forget the sarcasm smiley because I don't use them for a reason. I expect people to see crap like that and be capable of understanding sarcasm. If don't get it then that's their problem.

 

[Pete]

Nylon warm up suit 6 years in a row. I smile and bring it home and put it in the stack.

I often wondered if I should tell her I never have, nor will I ever wear one so she could save her money but I figured it made it easy for her to pick something and as a bonus some homeless guy looks dapper when it starts to get chilly..

 

[kwillia]

He forgot his smiley, but that post was for my benefit, not yours. No reason at all for you to jump his arse.

I'm a logical thinker. I prefer honesty and facts over inaccuracies and false platitudes. :shrug: Sometimes I need input from you over-emotional touchy feely types.

Again, I have no problem saying thank you. I say it a lot. My concern was a loss of money over a worthless gift by a senior citizen who is only buying me something because she feels she should.

My conclusion is that I'll thank her, donate the item, and in the future let her know that just a card or even a donation to charity if she feels she must get me something would be more than adequate. Otherwise, I'm not looking for a present, nor do I need one.

Here's a reality check, dear Miggy. You said the hat was something that you could have made which tells me she actually put thought into her gift. She saw that hat and liked the craftsmanship and THOUGHT OF YOU.

She is your M-I-L therefore she will always feel the need to purchase something to present you with for the holiday. I would consider you to be a cruel and selfish person to take that away from her.

 

[TurboK9]

I was going to give an entire thesis on how to be grateful and whatnot but figured nobody wanted to read it. I was actually speaking as a gift giver. Obviously I want people to be appreciative of my gifts, but if they are going to throw them away or toss them in a corner for all eternity I'd rather them speak with me about exchanging them if there's no gift receipt. Kids better damn well like the gifts, but adults should be capable of handling the discussion without getting butthurt.

I NEVER complain about the gifts I receive, but I know I'm not good at picking out gifts no matter how hard I try and I encourage people to tell me if they're no good. One person told me a problem with the present I got and I went ahead and helped them exchange it for something that was better for them. They were happy, I was happy. I don't see a problem with that, but it should only occur if the giver encourages it since otherwise it's "unacceptable behavior" because our society is filled with sensitive people.

 

[migtig]

Here's a reality check, dear Miggy. You said the hat was something that you could have made which tells me she actually put thought into her gift. She saw that hat and liked the craftsmanship and THOUGHT OF YOU.

She is your M-I-L therefore she will always feel the need to purchase something to present you with for the holiday. I would consider you to be a cruel and selfish person to take that away from her.

Um, no. Without you knowing her, that was quite presumptuous
on your behalf. My MIL does not feel the need to buy me anything for the joy of it and routinely does not. Also from my observations of gifts that she has bought for others, she rarely puts any thought into any gift she buys. Thanks for calling me cruel and selfish, and acting over-emotional towards me, because I want her to save her money and would rather a card instead.

 

[Toxick]

I've always been a firm believer in "It's the thought that counts".


When someone gives me a gift, I don't look at it as an object that I was given because it's something I want or need. I see it as 'this person was thinking about me enough that they spent their time and hard earned cash to do something for me, when they did not have to'.

But that's just me

 

[toppick08]

I've always been a firm believer in "It's the thought that counts".


When someone gives me a gift, I don't look at it as an object that I was given because it's something I want or need. I see it as 'this person was thinking about me enough that they spent their time and hard earned cash to do something for me, when they did not have to'.

But that's just me

Me too.....

 

[TurboK9]

He forgot his smiley, but that post was for my benefit, not yours. No reason at all for you to jump his arse.

Public forum, open thread. Reason enough right there. You want a private conversation use PM's. :shrug: I read something and have a reaction, I post it. Sometimes (usually, actually, ) it bites me in the ass, but then, I'm not running for class president... so . I read and post to interact with you crazy wierdos. For better or worse. I think that applies to most of us, actually...

Now here, take your damn present.

 

[Chasey_Lane]

Obviously I want people to be appreciative of my gifts, but if they are going to throw them away or toss them in a corner for all eternity I'd rather them speak with me about exchanging them if there's no gift receipt.

I'd be more hurtful if someone threw away or donated something I gave them rather than just saying "Hey, this is great, but not really my taste."

I drill this into the girls. Don't waste my money. If you don't like it, let's get you something you will wear or use. It doesn't hurt my feelings knowing you don't like something, and never will hurt my feelings.

 

[BadGirl]

Now, that said, *I* would rather have nothing than have a grudging gift that someone grabbed out of the $1 bin because they didn't really want to gift me, but felt obligated to. Gifts shouldn't be an obligation.

I'm not averse to the giftover if it's something you received, cannot use, but think someone else would like. But to regift something that is crap and has nothing to do whatsoever with the recipient, and you grabbed it up because you felt obligated to give something - that is wrong.

The spirit of giving and thoughtfulness means more to me than the actual gift itself.

However, I would still thank the giver nicely and not mention anything negative about the gift or the lack of thought behind it.

So, you really didn't like the pickles?

 

[kwillia]

Um, no. Without you knowing her, that was quite presumptuous
on your behalf. My MIL does not feel the need to buy me anything for the joy of it and routinely does not. Also from my observations of gifts that she has bought for others, she rarely puts any thought into any gift she buys. Thanks for calling me cruel and selfish, and acting over-emotional towards me, because I want her to save her money and would rather a card instead.

There go you being overly emotional again. I will say it again, but with less words this time. The bottom line is she is your M-I-L and as so will most likely continue to do the right thing which is to purchase and present a gift to the only woman married to her son. In this case, she presented you with something 'crafty' rather than a cheese platter or a toaster so that sounds like a reasonable choice to me. I stand by my original opinion that if you feel the need to reject her future gifts that that makes you the small person in this picture. You and I have had several face-to-face conversations about your M-I-L and I am aware of your relationship and feelings towards her but I don't see there to be any reason to break from the tradition of exchanging gifts with her other than to be hurtful.

 

[cattitude]

and this further solidifies my favorite saying...

MFC

 

[Cowgirl]

I have received several "WTF?!" gifts. One was a ceramic brown chicken, probably from the early 80's. It was made to look like it was quilted, and it was soooo ugly I seriously thought the giver bought it as a gag gift until she said, "I know you like chickens." I wanted to laugh, but instead thanked her for the gift. My MIL frequently gets me really odd things, but what can I do? D has tried to give her suggestions on what to get me, but she always says she already knows what she wants to get me. Sometimes she does a pretty good job, but sometimes she comes up with the oddest things.

 

[Chasey_Lane]

MFC