Unnecessary Loss Of Life

[Vixen]

Whom ever created the saying that sticks and stones may break my bones but names can never hurt me...was an ignorant fool...yes maybe we shouldn't let other ppl's words hurt us BUT NEWS FLASH....THEY DO!!

Sticks and Stones may break my bones
but words can also hurt me
Sticks and Stones break only skin
while words are ghosts that haunt me

Slant and curved, the word-swords fall
to pierce and stick inside me
Bats and bricks may ache through bones
but words can mortify me

Pain from words has left its scar
on mind and heart that's tender
Cuts and bruises now have healed
it's words that I remember


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Amber’s death was caused by her own hands and her own poor judgment, and it is sad that this lack in judgment cost her the one and only life she had. We all hope that we are never left behind knowing such pain, but I’d imagine that pain would be much greater knowing that her poor judgment included an innocent life of another.

I do hope that the family will speak out as a public awareness to other people in hopes of preventing future tragic accidents such as these. My children have seen these vehicles on display at various events and I hope that it will leave a lasting impressing from the moment they have car keys in hand and beyond.

 

[kwillia]

I am going to get red for this, but I think some people are being real insensitive here. The girl was young, she made a mistake, she didn't hurt anyone else, and what this family needs is sympathy in their loss, not criticism. I swear this entire thread has almost made me think about just dropping out of the entire forum. Please have some sympathy. Let them grieve and grieve with them and quit making judgments. It could be your kid next. JMHO

Very dramatic, BS Gal... but the reality is that the more light shed upon the tragic results of poor decisions made, the more we all have to face reality. Sweeping it under the rug accomplishes nothing.

 

[BuddyLee]

A lot of mistakes were made that night

Must we constantly forget it only takes but one.

 

[BS Gal]

Very dramatic, BS Gal... but the reality is that the more light shed upon the tragic results of poor decisions made, the more we all have to face reality. Sweeping it under the rug accomplishes nothing.

Oh, I agree totally. I just think they also need some sympathy. We (and I include myself in that) can forget the pain people are going through. Each post should have contained something that at least acknowledged their pain.

 

[snfr02chic]

Thank you BS Gal...that is exactly what we need. The fact of the matter might be that yes this is too emotional for us to be reading etc...but it is a little too late for that at this point. I do not think that you guys understand that we posted to begin with because we felt threatened and wanted to set the record straight. That is all that our posts were meant to do, give enough details to help everyone understand the whole story.
I think this has been a great lesson, and I hope that each of you do talk to your kids when they get to appropriate age about driving rules and regs. that does not however dismiss the posts of certain people. I personally am asking each and everyone of you for support...not for me, but for my Aunt...I am sorry, but IMHO, if you have never lost a child then you do not know what she is going through...like I said I don't even know what she is going through and I have lost my own father!! Please just offer prayers and thoughts and hugs etc...and let this conversation be over. There are a lot more people reading this then are actually posting that are friends and other family members of our's...I just hope that we can end this childish discussion and help those that need it, get through this. I again pray that none of you ever have to deal with what my Aunt is going through, and if you do...I pray even harder that you do not have to deal with insenitive people.

 

[Bogart]

taking your grief to a public intarweb forum is stupid

 

[BS Gal]

Thank you BS Gal...that is exactly what we need. The fact of the matter might be that yes this is too emotional for us to be reading etc...but it is a little too late for that at this point. I do not think that you guys understand that we posted to begin with because we felt threatened and wanted to set the record straight. That is all that our posts were meant to do, give enough details to help everyone understand the whole story.
I think this has been a great lesson, and I hope that each of you do talk to your kids when they get to appropriate age about driving rules and regs. that does not however dismiss the posts of certain people. I personally am asking each and everyone of you for support...not for me, but for my Aunt...I am sorry, but IMHO, if you have never lost a child then you do not know what she is going through...like I said I don't even know what she is going through and I have lost my own father!! Please just offer prayers and thoughts and hugs etc...and let this conversation be over. There are a lot more people reading this then are actually posting that are friends and other family members of our's...I just hope that we can end this childish discussion and help those that need it, get through this. I again pray that none of you ever have to deal with what my Aunt is going through, and if you do...I pray even harder that you do not have to deal with insenitive people.

You have my prayers and condolences. My parents lost a child, also, and it was very difficult. Please know that I am thinking of your family. They'll be wondering what she would have accomplished, what she could have done in her life for years to come; there will be the yearly rememberances of the day she was born, the day she died, her birthday, missing her at the holidays, etc. Been there, done that. My sincere apologies for those on the forum that are not sympathetic to your loss and can only throw criticism out to you. I understand your pain and hope none of them ever have to go through it. I'[m gonna get red for this. Like it matters.

 

[snfr02chic]

Your right...forums aren't made for support and friendship...

 

[Wenchy]

 

[BS Gal]

taking your grief to a public intarweb forum is stupid

You know what???? I am doing it with my father and have found it to be a wonderful support system. You need to go away.

 

[Mikeinsmd]

taking your grief to a public intarweb forum is a bad decision

:fixed:

 

[kwillia]

You know what???? I am doing it with my father and have found it to be a wonderful support system. You need to go away.

You are right, but the point Bogart is trying to make is that you should be prepared to overlook posts that you may find offensive or hurtful. You pour your heart out on a public board, you can expect someone will eventually come along and stomp on it.

 

[Bogart]

You know what???? I am doing it with my father and have found it to be a wonderful support system. You need to go away.

No.

 

[Bogart]

You are right, but the point Bogart is trying to make is that you should be prepared to overlook posts that you may find offensive or hurtful. You pour your heart out on a public board, you can expect someone will eventually come along and stomp on it.

Yes, that would be a longer version.

 

[Mikeinsmd]

You know what???? I am doing it with my father and have found it to be a wonderful support system. You need to go away.

I believe the difference here BS is that you have participated on this board and know the personalities.

As far as I can tell, these folks are strangers to the boards and are talking to strangers. JMO

 

[snfr02chic]

You are right Kwillia...there are always going to be insensitive people everywhere you go. We did not come here to pour our hearts out, but rather to help answer some of the questions people were asking, and yes maybe we did falsely hope that everyone would care, or at least pretend to...but I guess it just goes to show what the world is slowly coming to.

 

[kwillia]

You are right Kwillia...there are always going to be insensitive people everywhere you go. We did not come here to pour our hearts out, but rather to help answer some of the questions people were asking, and yes maybe we did falsely hope that everyone would care, or at least pretend to...but I guess it just goes to show what the world is slowly coming to.

Naw... it's not "what the world is slowly coming to"... insensitive azzholes are timeless... I'm sure there's proof of it on some cave wall somewhere...

 

[snfr02chic]

As far as I can tell, these folks are strangers to the boards and are talking to strangers. JMO

Yes we are strangers...but if I may say so...didn't you all start out as strangers? Is this how all new members get treated? Judged and left without the slightest shred of sympathy?

 

[BS Gal]

It's a tough world out there, but we all need to be more sensitive. When I posted that my dad was dying from lung cancer, nobody came on and said "Well, it's his fault cause he smoked." Nobody even went there. I'm just trying to give back the support I am getting.

 

[snfr02chic]

Naw... it's not "what the world is slowly coming to"... insensitive azzholes are timeless... I'm sure there's proof of it on some cave wall somewhere...