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vraiblonde

vraiblonde

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LCLR919 said:
I'm having a hard time deciding if I want to get married at the courthouse or have a wedding. My mom has offered to help pay for a wedding but I don't feel like dealing with the planing of a wedding. I also don't want anyone to feel left out if we go to the courthouse. My fiancé doesn't care what we do as long as I'm happy. I don’t know what to do.
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Larry and I did an all-inclusive in Jamaica, which included not only food, booze and lodging, but a wedding ceremony to boot. Didn't want to deal with the hassle of a real wedding, courthouse seemed so....shotgun. It was completely fabulous. Then you invite whoever wants to come, but make them responsible for their own airfare and accommodations.
 
kwillia

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You have many choices and the choice you make is how you and your fiance decide to personalize your wedding to what you want.

I would have been just as happy to take a a cash offer from my father that we would have used towards the down payment on ourhourse and then elope. My fiance, however, sat me down on the couch, took my hand and said, "We can take the money and yes it would help towards the house and years from now we won't give that money a 2nd thought. Or we can do a traditional wedding and have all of our family and friends stop what they are doing for one day and acknowledge the love we have for each other and years from now we'd have great memories."


We did the wedding... 375 people came that day to celebrate us. He was right... 21 years later and many of our family and friends as well as the two of us talk about stuff that happened that day.

No matter what you pick as what is best for the two of you... make memories and enjoy...:buddies:
 
MMM_donuts

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You could get married at the courthouse and throw a really awesome party afterwards if you wanted. Save yourself some of the trouble of planning.

We had a wedding and reception. It was a real pain to plan but it was a great lesson in working together and we had so much fun at our wedding that it made all the planning totally worth it. But basically, I also recommend that you do something to celebrate your marriage.
 
vraiblonde

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I think courthouse marriages are depressing - just so unfestive. I was down at the courthouse a few weeks ago filing some papers and there was a young couple who were there with their parents, obviously getting ready to be joined in holy matrimony. I thought, when her daughter asks her about her and Daddy's wedding day, this is what she'll have to tell her.

There are a zillion things you could do that don't involve standing in a courtroom, with people waiting behind you to file for bankruptcy or divorce, surrounded by lawyers trying to slip you their card in case things don't work out. For a few bucks, a JOP will come to your house or other location and marry you.
 
drivingdaisy

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A wedding only needs to be as fussy as you want it to be. Do what is best for you (and your significant other, of course).

I had the big wedding and loved it. Dad kept offering money to elope and I kept saying no and then he starting fighting dirty by offering boats to the fiance.
 
mamatutu

mamatutu

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I was married at the Calvert County Courthouse. Things have changed; now the Clerk of Court will also marry couples on local beaches; some pics/video included. It is just another option you may not have known about, and want to consider. Whatever your decision, I wish you the best in your life together!
 
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Bann

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vraiblonde said:
I think courthouse marriages are depressing - just so unfestive. I was down at the courthouse a few weeks ago filing some papers and there was a young couple who were there with their parents, obviously getting ready to be joined in holy matrimony. I thought, when her daughter asks her about her and Daddy's wedding day, this is what she'll have to tell her.

There are a zillion things you could do that don't involve standing in a courtroom, with people waiting behind you to file for bankruptcy or divorce, surrounded by lawyers trying to slip you their card in case things don't work out. For a few bucks, a JOP will come to your house or other location and marry you.
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Very true! :yay:

I had a very small (1 attendant on each side) & modestly priced wedding. My parents didn't have a large budget, and neither did we. There was a very small guest list - probably about 75 guests. We did everything ourselves - no wedding planner. We had all the usual wedding fare: a cake, local catering, wedding flowers, a local free lance photographer & a DJ for music at the reception. I was going to pay for my dress, but the friend of my mother's who made it wouldn't take any money for it, so all I paid for were the materials. We made the table decorations, party favors, and decorated everything ourselves. I'm sure the whole thing cost less than a few thousand dollars.

We were married at the Chapel on NAS Pax River and the reception was at the Elk's Lodge. It all turned out beautiful, and everyone was debt-free when it was all said & done! :yay:
 
Larry Gude

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JenniferCNJR said:
A formal wedding runs the risk of turning in to what everyone wants as opposed to what the bride and groom want....w .
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Weddings and funerals, my pop explained to me, are not for the guests of honor. They ARE SUPPOSED to be for everyone else; the gathering of friends and family, the socializing community aspects of the whole thing.
 
Chasey_Lane

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I was married in Las Vegas. My first marriage, hubby's second. Our "reception" was a big backyard BBQ with friends and family. I've never regretted it for one second! :buddies:
 
Jameo

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drivingdaisy said:
A wedding only needs to be as fussy as you want it to be. Do what is best for you (and your significant other, of course).
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:yeahthat: I got married 2 weeks ago on the beach in Ocean City at sunrise. Small wedding and reception with only 30 people. Had the reception at the Holiday Inn, nothing fancy. I just wanted to be with my close friends and family. Only took me maybe 2 wks to plan. Everything was excatly what I wanted and we didn't drop a ton of money.
 
BadGirl

BadGirl

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I got married in the courthouse, and I loved that it was so uncomplicated and stress free.

Surprising that I took this route, considering how much I love planning parties.....

BUT, the money that we saved on not having an elaborate wedding/reception, we used to go on a kick-ass honeymoon to Europe. Now that, I wouldn't change for the world.
 
afjess1989

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"If your gonna do it. Do it right the first time." Thats my motto when it comes to wedding planning. I myself will not get married at a courthouse. Everyone in family had a wedding A wedding where my Great Uncle perform the ceremony. And god willing he will perform mine. He married my parents so i see it only fit that he performs mine.
 
awpitt

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LCLR919 said:
I'm having a hard time deciding if I want to get married at the courthouse or have a wedding. My mom has offered to help pay for a wedding but I don't feel like dealing with the planing of a wedding. I also don't want anyone to feel left out if we go to the courthouse. My fiancé doesn't care what we do as long as I'm happy. I don’t know what to do.
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Have your wedding at the courthouse.
 
withrespect

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I had a very small wedding at Breton Bay Country Club. I was only engaged for a month... planned the wedding in a month... it was small and wonderful. :yay:

Yes, I was also knocked-up pregnant with child. :coffee:
 
kjustk

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I have been looking into destination weddings myself. No one will be left out, but they will have to pay their own way if they to attend. Last year I was on a cruise that left out of Baltimore, and they had a wedding on the ship. It was actually fun because they had a party in the nightclub afterwards and everyone helped them celebrate. Admittedly I looked into the cost and found it to be very reasonable. Personally, I would rather take the $10,000 (or whatever the amount) and apply it to a new house to start out in. I say have a GREAT honeymoon, but save on the wedding cost.
 
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