What disapline tactic's work for your 2 year old?
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Dougstermd
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Velcro & duct tape.
Seriously, you sounds like you are doing all the right things. She is testing her boundaries. Over and over again. Be consistent and follow through.
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ABSOLUTELY!
I do have to laugh at the memory of my 22 m/o biting me on my bum because I took away the beggin strips for the dog that she was trying to eat herself.
Sweet 16
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It doesn't matter so much what tactic you use as long as you are firm and consistent.....EVERY time! If you tell them "No!" 19 times but give in on the 20th time, they win, and they now know they can wear you down if they keep at it long enough. A smack on the butt will definitely get their attention and let them know you mean business. So does taking away a favorite toy or all toys until their behavior improves.
Kids are boneheads. They can't help it. If it's your fault - say, you have her out running around at nap time - then you can't hardly get mad at her because you were dumb. But if she's just acting the ass, try to get her out of other peoples' earshot. And if you can't, it's just the way it is.
(Sum, some of these Mommies on here try to pretend that their little angel responded to a certain tactic. Don't you believe that because they are lying to you. Kids are boneheads and that's just the way it is.)
(Sum, some of these Mommies on here try to pretend that their little angel responded to a certain tactic. Don't you believe that because they are lying to you. Kids are boneheads and that's just the way it is.)
Beelzebaby666
Has confinement issues..
I've never seen a child who didn't learn a better way to piss you off after you've established a disciplinary tactic.
Change it up and put the fear in 'em.
That way they never know where you're coming from but always expect the worst!!
Beetlejuice
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discipline u big dummies
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Dymphna
Loyalty, Friendship, Love
WC, it sounds like you are doing the right things. It also sounds like the problem occurs when she has to stick with daddy (kids often decide they want one parent over another, so this is common and no reflection on him) So, my question is, what is Daddy doing when she acts like this? If she does these things when Daddy's in charge of minding her, it doesn't matter what YOU do, it matters what Daddy does. You need to walk away and let Daddy do it.
HE'S the one who needs to make it clear that he's in charge and won't put up with her nonsense. (tone of voice, removing her from the situation, distracting her, etc.) And he needs to not take it personally that at this time, she prefers to be with you....next month she'll be Daddy's girl.
HE'S the one who needs to make it clear that he's in charge and won't put up with her nonsense. (tone of voice, removing her from the situation, distracting her, etc.) And he needs to not take it personally that at this time, she prefers to be with you....next month she'll be Daddy's girl.
You're doing ok. I have a 2 hardheaded kids who are 1 & 2 and I'm losing my mind too. We are the noisy family these days, neither listen, spanking is often met by more rebellion. All my parenting theory is out the window... all is chaos... I once thought I knew it all...
My Mother-In-Law who raised 5 boys, all 2 years or less apart, even said she never saw such hard-headed kids.
Most kids are called "strong-willed", or hard headed nowadays. The question is, "Is Mommy stronger willed?"
I would love to see someone who can make their child behave at all times, no screwing around, without beating the #### out of them.
Kids are loud, rowdy, they forget, they get carried away, they have very little self-control - it's just the way it is. Yes, you try and curb that sort of thing and teach them to act right, but they're still going to slip up and be knuckleheads. Especially toddlers (which is what we're talking about here).
If you see some 2 year old kid who is always quiet and respectful, who never has a fit about anything, and doesn't drive you to distraction on occasion, call CPS because that is a scary child.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
At 2 years old? No, but the point I am making is many parents use the "strong-willed" label as an excuse for why they cannot ever get compliance. If mom and dad cannot control a 2y/o, then God help us all when that child grows to 6ft. tall, and parents are still the same size. By age 5 a child (and yes, I have children) should have darn good behavior out-and-about (barring factors like illness), but the training is now, while OP's child is 2.
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Kain99
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Oh Holy God! That's right Sum, Just give up and let your child make your life a living Hell! "That's just the way it is."
Chasey_Lane
Salt Life
Well I'm just as new at this as you are, but everything everyone tells me is to do most of what you're doing already. Just keep doing it and don't quit or let up. It's frustrating, because it seems like you're not getting results, but you are, it just takes a while.
So far with our guy, about the only punishment that has any effect is timeout - *usually*. I'm amazed this works at all - the only thing keeping him in one place is his desire for my approval and recognition of my authority. And it only works at all so long as I make sure there's no way he can enjoy being there and that he absolutely does not move, not even his hands.
Unfortunately, it doesn't mean he won't do what he did to get there again in about five minutes. I sometimes sigh loudly to myself and mutter to myself "the DOGS aren't this hard to train, and presumably you're smarter than them". (Sometimes this is true - it took the dogs exactly ONE try with the invisible fence. After a year, I still have to make him sit down in the bathtub repeatedly).
But what I read and hear is that kids absolutely do remember and learn from this, and it's amazing how much of this they'll keep later in life.
So far with our guy, about the only punishment that has any effect is timeout - *usually*. I'm amazed this works at all - the only thing keeping him in one place is his desire for my approval and recognition of my authority. And it only works at all so long as I make sure there's no way he can enjoy being there and that he absolutely does not move, not even his hands.
Unfortunately, it doesn't mean he won't do what he did to get there again in about five minutes. I sometimes sigh loudly to myself and mutter to myself "the DOGS aren't this hard to train, and presumably you're smarter than them". (Sometimes this is true - it took the dogs exactly ONE try with the invisible fence. After a year, I still have to make him sit down in the bathtub repeatedly).
But what I read and hear is that kids absolutely do remember and learn from this, and it's amazing how much of this they'll keep later in life.
Especially if their eyes glow.
You're full of it.
And so are you.
They're kids, not adults. They do not have the powers of reasoning or actions/consequences that an adult, or even an older child, has.
Sum, if worse comes to worse, you can just drug them up with Ritalin. I hear that's all the rage for creating docile, compliant children.
BadGirl
I am so very blessed
Last night Bubba had his first real experience with punishment - he had his much-loved Matchbox cars taken away from him for the night. He was miserable without them....I was miserable listening to him whine. But I wasn't about to let a two year old get away with trying to hit me because he didn't want to take his bath.
We actually had a nice evening snuggling in bed watching "Finding Nemo" since he was so exhausted from crying so hard.
We actually had a nice evening snuggling in bed watching "Finding Nemo" since he was so exhausted from crying so hard.