What is the ethical thing to do

aps45819

aps45819

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itsbob said:
My interpretation is.. He wasn't allowed to get into that contract on THAT day.. makes the contract void.

Doesn't matter what his situation now.

For example. You get elected President and you aren't a citizen of the US.. 2 years later you become a US citizen.

Is he LEGALLY the President today?
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While you can't change your "natural born" status, you can stop commiting the crime of bigamy.


How did the OP get the second divorce without notifying her husband?
 
vraiblonde

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aps45819 said:
While you can't change your "natural born" status, you can stop commiting the crime of bigamy.
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No because the crime has already been committed. You hold up a 7-11 at gunpoint. That is a crime. If the cops catch you afterward, even though you are not actively robbing the 7-11 at that time, you're still going to jail.
 
Heresathought1

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My childhood marriage was 31 years ago when I was 18; I can't muster up the energy for "revenge". My marriage is not in question because it didn't occur until 11 years after the legal divorce. His marriage would be illegal because he would not have been eligible to remarry 31 years ago. There are many complications to this story that are too twisty to mention here. I am just struggling with whether it would be ethical to spring this on his perhaps unsuspecting wife, or to just let them/her deal with possible legal ramifications later, (such as SS if she becomes a widow). I really don't feel compelled to screw up somebody's life but wouldn't it be the ethical thing to do?
 
bcp

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Ok, here is what you need to do.
You're gonna need to get you a gun........

never mind, I was thinking of my ex
 
aps45819

aps45819

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vraiblonde said:
No because the crime has already been committed. You hold up a 7-11 at gunpoint. That is a crime. If the cops catch you afterward, even though you are not actively robbing the 7-11 at that time, you're still going to jail.
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unless the statute of limitations has expired
Heresathought1 said:
My childhood marriage was 31 years ago when I was 18; I can't muster up the energy for "revenge". My marriage is not in question because it didn't occur until 11 years after the legal divorce. His marriage would be illegal because he would not have been eligible to remarry 31 years ago. There are many complications to this story that are too twisty to mention here. I am just struggling with whether it would be ethical to spring this on his perhaps unsuspecting wife, or to just let them/her deal with possible legal ramifications later, (such as SS if she becomes a widow). I really don't feel compelled to screw up somebody's life but wouldn't it be the ethical thing to do?
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I'd bet the statute of limitations is up on the bigamy and they've been together long enough to be a common law marriage.

... and unless somebody contests any claims or brings proof to court, there would be no reason to suspect that the second marriage was illegal.


Let it go :howdy:
 
hotmomma

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He probably never told his current wife he was married before. Why would anyone get divorce papers from another country?

I would tell him. Not to stir the pot but just cause I would want to know. He should know he was a tard and should of done the divorce the correct way. A girl I know just got divorced and it only cost like $50.
 
F

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Heresathought1 said:
scenario:

You are browsing on FB and you find your ex husband's page. You were briefly married to him when you were both very young. He called one day and asked for a divorce about a year after your wedding. You tell him OK. A few weeks later you get a bundle of papers in the mail from the Domican Republic, written in spanish that purports to be a divorce. You are young and poor and cannot afford an attorney so you just assume you are divorced. A few years later you find out that DR divorces are not recognized in the US unless one of the parties is actually present at the DR court proceeding which you know for a fact neither of you was. You try to find him to let him know but can't. You proceed to go ahead and get a legal divorce, (now you are a little richer), but at that point your legal marriage is now 6 years old. Now while reading his present wife's FB, you see that they married almost immediately after the date of the illegal divorce making their marriage invalid. Should you let them know?
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I would look in to making sure you are divorced, a discreet conversation is in order, and he should tell his new wife so you all can make sure everything legally was done. I got a copy of mine
 
Annoying_Boy

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Heresathought1 said:
scenario:

You are browsing on FB and you find your ex husband's page. You were briefly married to him when you were both very young. He called one day and asked for a divorce about a year after your wedding. You tell him OK. A few weeks later you get a bundle of papers in the mail from the Domican Republic, written in spanish that purports to be a divorce. You are young and poor and cannot afford an attorney so you just assume you are divorced. A few years later you find out that DR divorces are not recognized in the US unless one of the parties is actually present at the DR court proceeding which you know for a fact neither of you was. You try to find him to let him know but can't. You proceed to go ahead and get a legal divorce, (now you are a little richer), but at that point your legal marriage is now 6 years old. Now while reading his present wife's FB, you see that they married almost immediately after the date of the illegal divorce making their marriage invalid. Should you let them know?
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Sounds like some sort of illegal immigration scam to get citizenship.

:popcorn:
 
Cowgirl

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I would send him a message and tell him. Why not? Why let it go when it might cause problems for the two of them down the road? And why assume he didn't tell his current wife he was previously married?
 
Gilligan

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What the heck does it matter now??? That's where I get lost in this 'way after the fact, I should not care and if I still do care I really need to see a shrink..desparately..right now' kind of stuff.
 
Nonno

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Gilligan said:
What the heck does it matter now??? That's where I get lost in this 'way after the fact, I should not care and if I still do care I really need to see a shrink..desparately..right now' kind of stuff.
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Good point, but you should consult a psychiatrist anyway.
 
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Heresathought1 said:
scenario:

You are browsing on FB and you find your ex husband's page. You were briefly married to him when you were both very young. He called one day and asked for a divorce about a year after your wedding. You tell him OK. A few weeks later you get a bundle of papers in the mail from the Domican Republic, written in spanish that purports to be a divorce. You are young and poor and cannot afford an attorney so you just assume you are divorced. A few years later you find out that DR divorces are not recognized in the US unless one of the parties is actually present at the DR court proceeding which you know for a fact neither of you was. You try to find him to let him know but can't. You proceed to go ahead and get a legal divorce, (now you are a little richer), but at that point your legal marriage is now 6 years old. Now while reading his present wife's FB, you see that they married almost immediately after the date of the illegal divorce making their marriage invalid. Should you let them know?
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The validity of their marriage won't be or isn't an issue unless you cause one at this point. As long as you're in the legal and away from him why does their situation matter to you?
 
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