What would you do?

vraiblonde

Board Mommy
PREMO Member
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You meet a man/woman and hit it off immediately, just click on all levels and it's incredible. Then your beloved informs you that he/she is terminally ill and likely won't last another (let's say) 2 years.

Would you walk away, knowing that the relationship has an expiration date, or would you enjoy it for as long as it lasts? Would the joy of the love and commitment you have outweigh knowing for certain that you will not grow old with this person?
 

Baja28

Obama destroyed America
You meet a man/woman and hit it off immediately, just click on all levels and it's incredible. Then your beloved informs you that he/she is terminally ill and likely won't last another (let's say) 2 years.

Would you walk away, knowing that the relationship has an expiration date, or would you enjoy it for as long as it lasts? Would the joy of the love and commitment you have outweigh knowing for certain that you will not grow old with this person?
I'd stick it out and be glad I met this person. Enjoy every moment to the fullest. What kind of low life would shatter a person who's going to die?
 

KDENISE977

New Member
I'd stick it out and be glad I met this person. Enjoy every moment to the fullest. What kind of low life would shatter a person who's going to die?

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I agree :huggy: I'd for sure stay with them. Why miss out on such a rare opportunity?
 

Chasey_Lane

Salt Life
You meet a man/woman and hit it off immediately, just click on all levels and it's incredible. Then your beloved informs you that he/she is terminally ill and likely won't last another (let's say) 2 years.

Would you walk away, knowing that the relationship has an expiration date, or would you enjoy it for as long as it lasts? Would the joy of the love and commitment you have outweigh knowing for certain that you will not grow old with this person?
Steve Perry. That'd be me.
 

libertytyranny

Dream Stealer
That's my worst nightmare. But id have to stick around. At least knowing the expiration date from the beginning can help keep things in a certain perspective. I couldn't leave knowing that they would die and I wouldn't know it. But it would be sad and very tough.
 

Retrodeb54

Surely you jest ...
If the person felt the same and wanted to share his last days with me I would stay. A true connection is rare and should not be passed up. I would make every moment together count, but naturally. No walking on eggshells. Some may find this strange but there would no a$$ kissing on either part allowed. If we disagree on something, we disagree. We could plan together special things to do while he is still able and smaller less taxing things we both like to do for later. My long winded point is, if its the real deal its worth the journey.

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If the person felt the same and wanted to share his last days with me I would stay. A true connection is rare and should not be passed up. I would make every moment together count, but naturally. No walking on eggshells. Some may find this strange but there would no a$$ kissing on either part allowed. If we disagree on something, we disagree. We could plan together special things to do while he is still able and smaller less taxing things we both like to do for later. My long winded point is, if its the real deal its worth the journey.

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:yeahthat:

If there is a true connection it wouldn't become a question of what to do. You would just continue to be a part of that person's life until whever end.
 

frequentflier

happy to be living
You meet a man/woman and hit it off immediately, just click on all levels and it's incredible. Then your beloved informs you that he/she is terminally ill and likely won't last another (let's say) 2 years.

Would you walk away, knowing that the relationship has an expiration date, or would you enjoy it for as long as it lasts? Would the joy of the love and commitment you have outweigh knowing for certain that you will not grow old with this person?

No one is guaranteed to wake up every day; life makes you no promises. One of you could be hit by a bus today.
Like Janis Joplin said "get it while you can".
I think I would live and love today and not sweat tomorrow.
 

Bann

Doris Day meets Lady Gaga
PREMO Member
You meet a man/woman and hit it off immediately, just click on all levels and it's incredible. Then your beloved informs you that he/she is terminally ill and likely won't last another (let's say) 2 years.

would you enjoy it for as long as it lasts?
^this^
Would the joy of the love and commitment you have outweigh knowing for certain that you will not grow old with this person?
Yes. Having that kind of joy of being in that kind of love is better than not ever than having it.
 
^this^

Yes. Having that kind of joy of being in that kind of love is better than not ever than having it.
I look of people I know who have lost a significant other and I see other people continuously trying to hook them up or push them to "get out there and look" and yet they go on with life content to not be looking for a long term relationship. I believe it is because they've already experienced what other still seek and they are fine with the memories. I also believe this will only make sense to those who have experienced a true unconditional love relationship.
 

Bann

Doris Day meets Lady Gaga
PREMO Member
I look of people I know who have lost a significant other and I see other people continuously trying to hook them up or push them to "get out there and look" and yet they go on with life content to not be looking for a long term relationship. I believe it is because they've already experienced what other still seek and they are fine with the memories. I also believe this will only make sense to those who have experienced a true unconditional love relationship.


I think so, too. :yay:
 

belvak

Happy Camper
Definitely stick with it! If he is THE one, and everything clicks on all levels, then embrace the time you have together. Will it be tough? Probably, but life does not come easy. Cherish what you have, while you have it.
 

ginwoman

Well-Known Member
If the beloved person knew they were dying BEFORE they you met and didn't tell you, then that would not go over well with me.
 
As soon as you're born, you're dying. Grab hold and ride life for all it's worth for as long as you can hold on.
 
You meet a man/woman and hit it off immediately, just click on all levels and it's incredible. Then your beloved informs you that he/she is terminally ill and likely won't last another (let's say) 2 years.

Would you walk away, knowing that the relationship has an expiration date, or would you enjoy it for as long as it lasts? Would the joy of the love and commitment you have outweigh knowing for certain that you will not grow old with this person?

You know... in so many ways - probably in most ways - life really is pretty simple, we humans just like to complicate the hell out of it for whatever reasons. Boredom maybe? Who knows?

But anyway... I'd say the answer to your question depends, but in real life it's a self-answering question. One of only a few possibilities reveals itself. When you don't spend time with that person, you miss spending time with them - you long to spend more time with them even though you know they are going to die fairly soon. Or, when you don't spend time with them you don't miss them and don't long to spend more time with them. Either way you have your answer, the Universe is telling you what to do. Similarly, when you do spend time with them, you feel great and happy and contented and feel that's where you belong. Or, when you do spend time with them, you don't feel good or happy or contented or that's where you belong - or you feel uneasy for some reason, perhaps because you're always aware that it's going to end soon enough. Either way you have your answer, the Universe is telling you what to do.

The Universe usually tells us what's right, tell's us what we should do. Too often we do our darndest not to hear it or trust it, and that's usually when life gets needlessly complicated (and, more importantly, we end up less happy than we could be).
 
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Good point - I didn't even think of this aspect. I was more interested in what people think is important: the ride or the destination?

That one's easy - the ride. We're all going to the same destination, and if the destination was what really mattered we could short cut everything else and get there (to the ultimate one, anyway) at any time we really wanted to.

It's the ride that matters, that's what is interesting, that's what is variable, that's what life is about. The lack of life is both the starting point and the destination, everything in between is the ride, something we fondly call 'life'.
 
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