What's with all the "not me" names?

[Lugnut]

I'm noticing more forum names like "ABC's wife" or "XYZ's mom". I've also noticed more relationships lately where one person is CLEARLY more dominant than the other.

Is this a self esteem thing? Transferance? Are they chatel?

Why would somebody CHOOSE to identify themselves as a function of somebody else?

 

[desertrat]

I'm noticing more forum names like "ABC's wife" or "XYZ's mom". I've also noticed more relationships lately where one person is CLEARLY more dominant than the other.

Is this a self esteem thing? Transferance? Are they chatel?

Why would somebody CHOOSE to identify themselves as a function of somebody else?

Not a clue.

BSGals gofer.

 

[Geek]

I'm noticing more forum names like "ABC's wife" or "XYZ's mom". I've also noticed more relationships lately where one person is CLEARLY more dominant than the other.

Is this a self esteem thing? Transferance? Are they chatel?

Why would somebody CHOOSE to identify themselves as a function of somebody else?

Aren't you Geek's friend?

 

[aps45819]

I'm noticing more forum names like "ABC's wife" or "XYZ's mom". I've also noticed more relationships lately where one person is CLEARLY more dominant than the other.

Men tend to identify themselves by what they do.
Women tend to identify themselves by who they do.

 

[jetmonkey]

Please cite some examples, thank you.

 

[theArtistFormerlyKnownAs]

Please cite some examples, thank you.

TWLs wife :shrug:

just for one, not to pick you out Tigg



Oddly enough, I have noticed the same thing Lug. It is like people can't just be themselves...they must be associated with someone else to feel important. It is just an identification problem :shrug: It is the same as someone who always identifies themselves as "Joe the Milkman" lol or something like that. They feel without-meaning when the title is taken away (so-and-so's wife/brother/sister/ect).

At least thats my observation :shrug:

 

[sockgirl77]

I'm sockgirl77.

 

[slotted]

I met a guy last night that is called mailman Jim.

 

[Lugnut]

Please cite some examples, thank you.

Re-read my original post. I gave two examples. But there are two more below

Oddly enough, I have noticed the same thing Lug. It is like people can't just be themselves...they must be associated with someone else to feel important. It is just an identification problem :shrug: It is the same as someone who always identifies themselves as "Joe the Milkman" lol or something like that. They feel without-meaning when the title is taken away (so-and-so's wife/brother/sister/ect).

At least thats my observation :shrug:

Hey at least in your example, Joe had a name to go with his ocupation.

I'm talking about these nameless people who's only identity is through a different person. It's kind of creepy.

I have a friend who's girlfriend never speaks. I mean NEVER. When people introduce the two of them they introduce HIM, and "his girlfriend" never a name.

Then there are others that introduce THEMSELVES that way! I know a lady that introduces herself as "Mrs. Seargent #####"

What kind of personality does that???

 

[toppick08]

I'm sockgirl77.

 

[sockgirl77]

Re-read my original post. I gave two examples. But there are two more below




Hey at least in your example, Joe had a name to go with his ocupation.

I'm talking about these nameless people who's only identity is through a different person. It's kind of creepy.

I have a friend who's girlfriend never speaks. I mean NEVER. When people introduce the two of them they introduce HIM, and "his girlfriend" never a name.

Then there are others that introduce THEMSELVES that way! I know a lady that introduces herself as "Mrs. Seargent #####"

What kind of personality does that???

I knew what you were getting at. I see it alot. At work, I'm known as 's assistant. It drives me nuts. I just wanna be ME.

 

[ButNut]

Re-read my original post. I gave two examples. But there are two more below

:shrug:

 

[HillBillyChick]

I'm noticing more forum names like "ABC's wife" or "XYZ's mom". I've also noticed more relationships lately where one person is CLEARLY more dominant than the other.

Is this a self esteem thing? Transferance? Are they chatel?

Why would somebody CHOOSE to identify themselves as a function of somebody else?

I have noticed the same thing and wondered about that myself. I, however, have always been and always will be, just a good 'ole hillbilly. No matter who I am 'doing', or who I have birthed! Or what job I occupy!

 

[jetmonkey]

Re-read my original post. I gave two examples. But there are two more below




Hey at least in your example, Joe had a name to go with his ocupation.

I'm talking about these nameless people who's only identity is through a different person. It's kind of creepy.

I have a friend who's girlfriend never speaks. I mean NEVER. When people introduce the two of them they introduce HIM, and "his girlfriend" never a name.

Then there are others that introduce THEMSELVES that way! I know a lady that introduces herself as "Mrs. Seargent #####"

What kind of personality does that???

I was asking for the user names of actual forumites :shrug: I can make up fake ones all day long

"Pete's #####"

See what I did there?

 

[Sharon]

Now that you brought it up...

Why would somebody CHOOSE to identify themselves as a function of somebody else?

I guess it's along the same lines as identifying yourself with an object.

Why would you do that Lugnut? Are you a function of something else?

 

[Lugnut]

I was asking for the user names of actual forumites :shrug:

Why?

I'm curious about the thinking behind this. The actual individuals don't matter (as evidenced in the name.)

 

[toppick08]

I guess it's along the same lines as identifying yourself with an object.

Why would you do that Lugnut? Are you a function of something else?

I'm named after a vegetable.

 

[mAlice]

I've noticed it. I think it's indicative of one's self worth. That person is important as a wife or mother, maybe because she doesn't work outside of the home. Maybe she hasn't decided what she wants to be when she grows up. I think most people identify with something in their user names.

 

[jetmonkey]

Why?

I'm curious about the thinking behind this. The actual individuals don't matter (as evidenced in the name.)

Oh, I thought this was going to be another exercise in humiliation, sorry.

 

[Dymphna]

I recall ranting about this same topic a few years back. I don't understand why some women want to project that they have no identity outside of wife and mother. :shrug: What happens if the marriage falls apart and when the kids grow up? Do their lives lose all meaning? What a sad way of life to have no identity of your own.

Now, as far as people introducing themselves as "so and so's wife" as long as it accompanies a name...(ie. "Hi, I'm Jane, Joe's wife") that's ok, because it answers a lot of questions in some situations, such as "What brings you here today?" "How do you know the hosts of this party?" etc. Because people want to know what brought a stranger to a situation. I find myself doing that when I'm with my brothers more so than with my husband...when I'm with him, I usually just say, "Yeah, I'm stuck with whats-his-name over there."