Ok.
Now that you told everybody about your parenting skills, go back and read what I wrote.
Dumbass.
And please don't threaten me with a beotch slap
When kids disappear ...
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Ok.
Now that you told everybody about your parenting skills, go back and read what I wrote.
Dumbass.
And please don't threaten me with a beotch slap
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toppick08
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clevalley
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DQ is SOOOOOOO lucky to have her ass right now!
She went to her friend's house across the street, walkie-talkie in hand (she has one, I have the other) to play in their back yard. She takes the WT along so that I can call her on it vs yelling through the neighborhood when it's time to come home. She was gone all of 10 minutes, and I routinely call her to check on her about every 5 minutes or so.
So, I call her cause we're gonna head out ... no answer ... again ... no answer ... again ... no answer. So across the street I go ... no kids in back yard. Ring friend's house doorbell, dad comes to the door, and I ask where the kids are. He checks the house, no kids. So through the neighborhood we go, calling them, no kids. I grab my keys and cell, ready to call the police, back down the driveway, and they both come walking up from between some other neighbors houses. I say two words to her: HOUSE NOW!
We live in a good neighborhood, all the neighbors know each other and know the kids and we all keep an eye out for them, but I'm not naive enough to think a stranger couldn't come and do something bad. And I've had the discussions with her before about how kids disappear every day, never to be heard from again, and have told her about the ugly things people do to kids when they kidnap them. So "education" is not on backorder in our house about this kind of thing. She went next door to the other neighbor's house one day without telling me, and I laid the smackdown on her then because it scared the hell out of me, and I thought I had scared her enough to know better as well.
I'm so mad right now, I cannot see straight enough to even hug her to be glad that she IS home and not in the back of some nut-jobs car being carted off to go knows what kind of hell. I was nice about it the first time she did this, but I unloaded a verbal ass whipping this time that has her bawling her eyes out in her room right now.
Anyone else been down this road a time or two with their kids? How do you make them understand, short of having a friend pull a pretend kidnap scenario on them to scare the shiat out of them to get it to sink in? :shrug:
Yes - have been down this road a time or two, or three, or fifty!
- not quite that much...I have learned the best thing to do is send them to their room and you need to cool down even before you can speak to them. Once your emotions are down the time they have sat in their room also sends a message. You call the kid down and talk - both of you sit down and be at their level when you do it!
It works - but they forget after a while, but it gets better as they get older (believe it or not). Most of the time they are just caught up playing, and we freak out because of our emotions, which is understandable.
Glad she is OK!
flomaster
J.F. A sus ordenes!
.......................DQ is SOOOOOOO lucky to have her ass right now!
I think the walkie talkie idea is pretty good one. I would have flipped too. Heck I got nervous today when I lost sight of her on the playground today at Calvert State park. So many twists and turns in the play area. If you ripped her a knew one I think she will think twice the next time. Of course once she realizes that the WT does not have a locater she can be anywhere so long as she answers and not get her butt handed to her next time. Way too many weirdos out there these days.
Good on ya for watching out for your kid.
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Kain99
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I know your heart stopped. Thank God, precious angel is safe and sound. 
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Mousebaby
Guest
I have also threatened to nail my kids asses to the wall for lying and have followed through so to speak. They got into enough trouble that you would think lying would be the last thing they did. WRONG! Two out of three of them lie like cheap rugs! I can't stand it and it friggen infuriates me to no end but they still do it. Will someone please explain this to me? TIA! 
DQ is SOOOOOOO lucky to have her ass right now!
She went to her friend's house across the street, walkie-talkie in hand (she has one, I have the other) to play in their back yard. She takes the WT along so that I can call her on it vs yelling through the neighborhood when it's time to come home. She was gone all of 10 minutes, and I routinely call her to check on her about every 5 minutes or so.
So, I call her cause we're gonna head out ... no answer ... again ... no answer ... again ... no answer. So across the street I go ... no kids in back yard. Ring friend's house doorbell, dad comes to the door, and I ask where the kids are. He checks the house, no kids. So through the neighborhood we go, calling them, no kids. I grab my keys and cell, ready to call the police, back down the driveway, and they both come walking up from between some other neighbors houses. I say two words to her: HOUSE NOW!
We live in a good neighborhood, all the neighbors know each other and know the kids and we all keep an eye out for them, but I'm not naive enough to think a stranger couldn't come and do something bad. And I've had the discussions with her before about how kids disappear every day, never to be heard from again, and have told her about the ugly things people do to kids when they kidnap them. So "education" is not on backorder in our house about this kind of thing. She went next door to the other neighbor's house one day without telling me, and I laid the smackdown on her then because it scared the hell out of me, and I thought I had scared her enough to know better as well.
I'm so mad right now, I cannot see straight enough to even hug her to be glad that she IS home and not in the back of some nut-jobs car being carted off to go knows what kind of hell. I was nice about it the first time she did this, but I unloaded a verbal ass whipping this time that has her bawling her eyes out in her room right now.
Anyone else been down this road a time or two with their kids? How do you make them understand, short of having a friend pull a pretend kidnap scenario on them to scare the shiat out of them to get it to sink in? :shrug:
Hummmm, I seem to recall a very scary incident of disappearing kids here (your daughter, my boys).
Sweet 16
^^8^^
Been there, done that. They're kids.....they don't think like we do. Send her to her room, then ground her and put her on house arrest for a week. When you trust her to go out, tell her she can't leave her own yard for another week. It's frustrating to not be able to leave your yard when other kids are playing across the street. She'll think twice next time. And she'll learn.....until she's a teenager.
Wickedwrench
Stubborn and opinionated
My Dad would have just blown up and kicked the shiat out of me.:shrug: Lesson learned.
crabcake
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Hummmm, I seem to recall a very scary incident of disappearing kids here (your daughter, my boys).
That's right! I forgot about that one, too!
Well, I think Lil Miss has figured out just how mad I was yesterday, and how she best not do anything to cross me. We had friends over last night to watch the Bud Shootout, and she was playing the perfect little hostess, bringing food/drinks out, jumping up to get something for someone so they didn't have to, cleaning up the dishes before I could even ask, and answering me with "Yes Mommy" vs the old "yea" or "uh-huh", etc.
itsbob
I bowl overhand
No they aren't, at least not that much. IN the 60's and 70's kids got abducted we just didn't hear about the ones getting abducted in Nebraska. They had one hour everyday to give us the news, now they report every story to fill up their 24 hour news programs..
Now we hear of every little thing from around the country/ world, and it feels like it's in our backyard.. Our kids are in no more danger now then we were then, we just think they are.
Information overload.
And like what's his name my mom would kick us out in the AM and we would explore the neighborhood and the woods, and not come home until the lights came on. At the age of 10 or 11 we'd travel MILES on our bikes to different fishing holes. Lakes, Ponds, the Puget Sound, my mom never knew where we were.
That's right! I forgot about that one, too!
Well, I think Lil Miss has figured out just how mad I was yesterday, and how she best not do anything to cross me. We had friends over last night to watch the Bud Shootout, and she was playing the perfect little hostess, bringing food/drinks out, jumping up to get something for someone so they didn't have to, cleaning up the dishes before I could even ask, and answering me with "Yes Mommy" vs the old "yea" or "uh-huh", etc.
Maybe she'll wait a few more years before she does it again.
Good for you crabcake for laying down the law. I am the same way. Our fear of what could have been just takes over and when the kids are safe and the adrenaline subsides we go crazy on them. I say to the kids, once I have regained my composure, that they don't have the capacity to think about what could happen because they don't have the reasoning gene yet and that I would gladly beat it into them if they continue to pull crap like that. 
I also let my kids watch some of the shows about kids being taken, etc. because I also know that they turn me off after a while, but if they see it for themselves it sometimes sticks in their little pea brains.Not that it doesn't happen again, but I just I continue to lecture, etc.
My 16 y.o. just got a lashing the other night because she was going to the movies with her friend and her mother in Annapolis (1 hour away), she left at 4
opm so I expected her home around ten/eleven or so. Well she calls me at 9:45pm and tells me they are just getting ready to go into the movie because it didn't start until 10:00. Needless to say I wasn't happy because I had already asked her what time it started, yada, yada and since the other parent was going I assumed (my mistake) that it wasn't going to be the late one. I was not happy and she knew it! Parental fear kicked in because then I was worried about her getting out of the movie late, etc. The joys of parenthood!I def agree with information overload! Same with us, out in the am and back in the pm, however, I live on what we call a compound
because it was all family. If I did something wrong my mom knew it before I got home.I def agree with information overload! Same with us, out in the am and back in the pm, however, I live on what we call a compound
I also agree with everything that people know today your scared to let your child play in their own fenced in back yard while you do dishes. Back in the day I was able to ride my bike to the store and walk through the woods and yeah we new it was a possibility of someone coming up to you but we were safe all the same. Now a days we need tracking devices on our children to send them to school almost.
crabcake
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I'm not afraid to let her play ... this was a matter of her not being where she was supposed to be, and not having her WT on (she said it fell in the creek and got wet, so she turned it off) when she was supposed to. The WT isn't so much a "tracking device" as it is a nuisance prevention for my neighbors ... I don't want to hear someone yelling for 30 minutes to call their kid in for supper or whatever, and they don't have to hear me doing it. Also, since the kids here tend to get a little exploratory in their ventures (e.g., like the time they got stuck waist-deep in mud and couldn't get out), it allows her to let me know if she needs help.
I don't hover over her or restrict her so much; but I AM a parent and care about the safety and well-being of my child. If that makes me a paranoid parent, so be it. :shrug: But no one can ever say I don't give a damn enough about my kid.
clevalley
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My Dad would have just blown up and kicked the shiat out of me.:shrug: Lesson learned.
Me too! But it depends on the age of the kid... I was assuming the AWOL child was below 10... above that, their reasoning skills are there and more than a grounding would be needed!
I had a boot in my ass a time or two and I learned!
I got lost in the woods with 2 other neighbor girls, about 15 hrs or so, police searched and searched, never did find us. We stumbled onto a house, knocked, no phone, no electric, but the lady did get us up to the main road to call home and get picked up.
My mother was crying and upset when I got home, but my father, he kicked my ass. The ass beating paled in comparison to having poison ivy everywhere.
We never did that again.
My mother was crying and upset when I got home, but my father, he kicked my ass. The ass beating paled in comparison to having poison ivy everywhere.
We never did that again.